Hi, I'll try to write as succintly as possible, nobody wants to read walls of texts of some strangers they will never meet. So to give context: I met this girl at a student club, she was eying me like I was incarnation of Apollo and Eros in one person, I approached her, said a few words and it was clear as a day that she was super into me... then we kinda went our own seperate ways and I never saw her again. Met her again by chance in the town, again she was eying me up with lust I'd never seen in a woman before, I approached her and got her number. On our first meet (it took her almost a day to respond to the logistics text) within 15 mins we were making out and practically dry humping each other in a park, and even prior to that she was hinting she'd invite me over to her place ( something which by the way never happend to me before). After like two hours we went to her place but she was already asking about my bus, and when Id be going. At her place, we ended up on bed and things got to a point where I was sucking her tits and and she was visibly aroused at which point I thought okay this is it, its happening and yet she then started saying that she is tired, I cant sleep here, and that I need to catch my bus. She repeated that a few times and eventually stopped kissing me, saw me off to the front door, gave me a kiss and wished a safe journey home lol.
Few days later I ask her out again (1 day prior to that we chatted a bit and it was fine) and invite her over to make pancakes. She first asks about the time and then when I tell her she says she wants to study and that "while my offer is tempting she will think of it". Suffice to say, its been a day since her msg and she isnt coming. What is going on? Could she be simply like just plain old crazy?
On one hand its clear she likes me a lot and on the other she kicks me out of her house at 2am and now basically rejects my offer, and doesnt want to meet anymore.
edit: I woudnt normally invite a girl over on second date but seeing how close it was during the first, I thought it'd be fine.
unplugged69 3y ago
This can happen and its very confusing, your best option is to ignore this bitch and not dwell on it but I agree it can fuck with your confidence.
Here's how you minimise the chance of this happening again
a) stop getting into long make out sessions, you diffused the sexual tension
b) squash shit tests and have strong frame
c) don't act too desperate
d) don't take too long, I mean she's half naked on the bed, instead of sucking her tits take her panties off and say "I want you now"
If she says shit like "oh no we shouldn't". You pull back and say "you're right we really shouldn't do this" and then you stare at her for a few seconds and go back to kiss her passionately as if you're overcome with desire
NotThePook 3y ago
well we were making out outside… Its not like I could say, oh well can you invite me over now?
and yes, situations like these make you doubt yourself, its nothing good. Thanks for the advice.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
She was trying to get fucked, you didn't do it. She found someone else.
NotThePook 3y ago
did you even read what I wrote? She was already half naked when she began telling me I cant stay here and that I must leave and catch my buss. Doing more would literally mean raping her lol, coz at that point she stopped kissing me, pushed me away and told me to get my things. She was all nice about it but she did it anyway
No-Stress-Cat 3y ago
Her boyfriend was coming home. She didn't want to get caught with a Chad in her bed. Next time around, bring her to your place for "pancakes"...among other things.
kv2_0833 3y ago
and after she'd pull that shit you should've never spoke with her again lmao
MrSupreme 3y ago
It happens, I've gone on dates where the chemistry seems fine,nice convos and kissing is alright then the vixen won't go on a second date ,no reason given