One secret, that I'm sharing at my disadvantage, is that you're more likely to find wife material in small town girls.
I'll caveat this with the fact that there are no unicorns. BUT. There are women more likely to be molded into better wives as they lack the preconceptions of the average girl that grew up near a metropolitan area.
I say this because of all the women I've known, consistently it has been the girls from small towns that were the best wife material. They were all plates except for one which I made an LTR. After noticing enough of these girls had this common, I asked myself - why?
I think the reason for this is that growing up in a more localized group has several cultural distinctions from the average modern life:
1) Reputations matter more. Women from small town lived in an environment where their in-group was basically their only option and they had to conduct themselves in a way that minimized the possibility of social rejection. If you're rejected by most of your town then you are forced to move, which isn't really an option in adolescence.
2) Values are focused on social relationships. Small towns typically are less wealthy and individuals find their happiness in relationships more often than vanity. Women that grow up with these values, while still maintaining the innate instinct that searches for resource security, provide less weight to materialistic interests. Their happiness is more derived from family and friends because it plays a much larger role in their lives. Their lack of wealth forces them to find wealth through alternative means.
3) Relatively more flat social hierarchies. Small towns have less people and their hierarchies are more flat because of that. The value gained from social climbing is thus less. The learned behavior of branch swinging in areas with taller hierarchies is less relevant towards achieving their ends in life. Early on, the women learn branch swinging is not only quickly noticed, but they stand to gain much less from it.
For the reasons above, small towns breed a culture where one's reputation among their immediate social groups is prioritized and this creates a shared value system that necessitates qualities desirable for a woman that would be in charge of a family. Hence, small town girls make the best wife material.
Just my initial thoughts and curious if anyone else has insight.

zaxary 3y ago
look outside the US
Bulba 4y ago
I think you’re getting close but still you’re shooting at the wrong target. If you want to marry and never divorce, this means you’re looking for a virgin, there’s no way around it. This used to be common sense in the West until a few generations ago. Your grand-grandfather probably knew that you should never marry a girl who is not a virgin.
So the name of the game is to know where to look for virgins and then marry them. Of course you’re more likely to find them in small towns, but if you marry a village girl with a notch count higher than zero, then you’re still playing the lottery. If you marry an alpha widow, you’re screwed.
hornetsfalcons12 4y ago
I’ve always wondered: does it count if you were the one who took her V-card? I’d say yes, she can be considered a “virgin” since you have been in a relationship this whole time. “Marriage” is just a further escalation of it.
Bulba 4y ago
Marriage is just a ceremony. What really matters is that a woman will never forget the man who took her virginity. So if you want a woman to stick with you for life, you have to be her first. Anything else is a gamble.
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No-Stress-Cat 4y ago
I have family in Kansas, which is pretty much a bunch of small towns dotted around a map of open prairie. In particular, I have twin cousins, one of them was a right slut, as well as all her friends. The other one got married early, settled down, had 3 kids, and still ended up sleeping around on her husband. Living mostly in the southern small towns myself, I've seen quite a bit of sluttery from these southern belles throughout high school.
Of course, being small towns, everyone knows who the sluts are, and yes, they talk, but nobody really cares. That's why country music is all about staying drunk, the wife leaving, taking the house, the truck, the dog, and the toothbrush. Husbands and wives split up, fuck around, and then get back together and fuck with each other some more until the next split-up. Ever wonder why the preacher's daughter is always the biggest whore in town? Yep, I shore do.
The thing is, without any place to go (other than hanging out in the parking lot of grocery stores after hours), the only thing these chicks have access to is sex, booze, and weed. Because there's a bit of distance between these dots on the map, the man with a set of wheels gets all the pussy.
That's just the tip of the iceberg, but I digress. I'll save the stories about the family I have in the small towns dotted around the northwestern states for another time.
fuegobuttstuff 4y ago
Helpful and yes I heard plenty of stories about what would happen my LTRs small town - very similar. My point is that I haven't found a girl a would consider wife material that grew up in a metropolitan area and ALL of the girls I've found that would consider to have that potential came from small towns. In fact, I'm a bit vulnerable with this concept as a few months ago I met a small town girl and jumped to a few conclusions about her because of it that were ultimately wrong - it was inconsequential however as the red flags accumulated rapidly.
I think it's a heuristic that increases your probability. E.g., Adopt a hobby/job that would frequently bring you to these environments if you're interested in finding wife material.
wswZtyqNGQ 4y ago
Social structure analysis is all nice and good, but to predict behavior the only factor one needs to know is the individual payoff table. Since reality is that which has consequences, the risk-reward probabilities are the only thing that's real.
What is the chance of a slut/cheater being discovered and punished for her behavior? In the case of certain childhoods (repressive asian families, religious cults, etc.) the chance is very high and therefore the woman will be sexually reserved; in the case of modern social media whores (fatherless, over-educated, fat, etc.) the chance is very low and therefore the woman will be sexually gregarious.
So small-town/big-town metrics have some correlation but the woman's family situation is far more indicative.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
Most of the prostitutes I fucked in Thailand were from small towns.
MrSupreme 4y ago
If you're interested in finding women to marry from abroad, try venezuelans (specially single venezuelans in your country), they're pretty,feminine mostly and just looking for a guy to marry and get her citizenship, they may even be willing to have a kid for that citizenship and in turn you'll get a feminine chick to have sex with and she'll clean,cook and be a model wife