Hello there!
I have just gotten out of a 2,5 year LTR. One of the reasons we broke up was that I wanted to be „young and wild“, which is something I have never done before (she also was my first and only real sexual partner).
Before I go and put myself out there, what do you think are some things I should keep in mind or work on? What would you tell your younger self or your son to focus on?
Also, I now am looking for a new place, as my Ex-GF and I obviously won’t be living together anymore. I am considering whether to live alone or with some flatmates (still a student). What are your experiences when it comes to pulling girls while not having full privacy at your place?
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
If I were talking to my 25 year old self, you know what I'd say?
Wooden_Nature_8735 1y ago
No. 1 I am already doing. No. 2 is a bit difficult, as I am still in university, but with my soonish to have law degree that should be possible. No.3 I am not so sure about. I think I would like a wife and kids one day, settle down, just not now obviously. Maybe by the end of my thirties, so in more than 15 years…
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
learn to keep it casual with 10 girls rather than focusing on one. harder than it seems if you're used to a rl
works fine
Wooden_Nature_8735 1y ago
Thanks for the answer!
I was thinking about reading the Tomassi book ”The Rational Male“ to learn more about this concept of spinning plates. Can you recommend that one or any other literature on the topic?
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
krauser pua
No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
Go back to your BF. Stop trying to be a ho.
Wooden_Nature_8735 1y ago
Given that I am male and not gay, it would technically be my GF, not BF. Also, not a native speaker here, but isn’t the term hoe only used for girls?
No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
The way your post reads, it looks like something a woman would post, just switching the genders. I'm still not sure if you're trolling or not, or a woman pretending to be a man and trying to "infiltrate the manosphere" for research or whatnot. You have a good grasp of English for someone who isn't a native speaker, and I'm surprised you ask the question about hoes. Do they not have hoes where you come from?
Wooden_Nature_8735 1y ago
Should I be offended by you telling me I like a girl? Admittedly, my English is quite good. I’ve lived abroad for some time, also I only spoke English with my now ex-gf. Maybe that explains it to you.
I can see why people here would be suspicious of trolls, but there’s probably no way I can prove I ain’t one.
Of course there’s hoes here, more hoes than decent women from what I see. That’s the way it seems to be anyway in the ”West“, meaning North America and Western Europe, which is where I am from. I just thought it was a term used exclusively for women, but it makes sense you used it, if you think I am one.
No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
You shouldn't be offended about anything. There's nothing wrong with liking girls...or guys...or both...or neither...or frying pans...whatever floats your boat, man. Only women can be hoes to be perfectly honest, and there are hoes worldwide. Men can't be hoes...only Chads and Tyrones. You seem to have established you're a dude. No hate from me, bro.
Wooden_Nature_8735 1y ago
Finally! I am worthy and initiated! I’ve also never considered dating a frying pan, but now that you mention it…
Well, jokes aside, do you have any advice then on how to be, as you put it, a Chad? That question itself probably already proves that I ain’t one, but after all, I am here to learn!
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Go to their place instead. Or find other locations to make it work depending on how kinky the girl is
Advice is same.as if you've been single forever, look up game videos, put yourself out there, etc
whytehorse2021 1y ago
LIFT!!!
Wooden_Nature_8735 1y ago
I have been going to the gym about twice a week for the past year or so. I am quite fit, but not very big, as I prefer sports like running or horsebackriding and a lot of extra weight due to a lot of muscles is not helpful for either. I will keep going tho
whytehorse2021 1y ago
I was the same in my 20s. Didn't get any pussy. I was the #2 runner in the US Army though. All that matters nowadays is looking like the Hulk. I'd switch up if you want pussy.
Wooden_Nature_8735 1y ago
I’ve said it before, I don’t have much experience when it comes to picking up girls. But charisma and confidence is probably more important than looks anyway, isn’t it. As long as you’re decently fit, low body fat etc. to me it seems like it shouldn’t be too big of a deal not to have arms like trees. But it seems you’ve made different experiences?
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Bro I was 7% body fat. I mean I could snag a few cougars here and there but I basically didn't get much pussy. I went to every strip club and bar in my city. Women can tell. You're just a skinny little fuck to provide them money. Seriously I was like Bruce Lee. You gotta get the mass on and then the chicks come. It's just how the world works.