My experience with a single mom I knew before redpill | TheRedPill

Before knowing redpill we've been friends with A, the single mom. As such I had emotional attachment the redpill helped with, but couldn't remove in it's entirety. I'd say redpill still saved me from making big moves and big mistakes.

By the nature of my work I needed a place to stay a couple of weeks so A invited me to her house. Coliving with a single mom teaches you a lot about women's way of thinking, priorities, resources and morals.

Her entire life she was a hoe, but now at 29 y/o she started going to the church to confess her sins. Back at home she didn't think twice about hitting her 10y/o son when he did something stupid, and I mean stupid things kids do cause the're kids, they need to be taught how to live and behave. Next day she was hugging her son telling him how handsome he is and how proud he makes her. Poor kid.

Her house was an absolute mess. Roaches, cobwebs in every hole, dirty clothes on the floor, rotting pieces of food hidden in every drawer. Still, the only thing in her mind were fine clothes and shoes, skin treatment creams and ointments. Also an expensive bicicle she used 3 times in several months. In short, her mind was focused on looking good but never investing in her house to have a better lifestyle and comfort.

Recently she started working 2 different jobs, but also was attending 2 careers at college (public college, no fees), yes, not 2 different subjects of a carreer, 2 carreers!. Her son neglected most of the time of couse. She never had time to raise him or to give her son a proper household to grow in.

Today we finally had an argument and guess what was it about. Cleaning the house!. As ironic as it sounds she was mad at me because I wasn't helping enough with chores recently. The thing is she was so stressed she would've found anything to argue about sooner or later. As mentioned she works 2 jobs and attends 2 college careers. Of course she half asses everything, jobs, careers, son, house.

In the end I left and asked my mom if I could stay at home for a while. It was definitely interesting to live with her because I learned a lot without compromising too much. As it is said, experience is the best teacher, so if you're not convinced on how valuable your time and peace of mind is, I suggest you go live with a single mom, it will be a crash course.

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whytehorse2021 3y ago

There's this thing called the kill-to-party phenomenon. Basically the kid becomes a hindrance to the woman's ability to secure the resources of a man and, in extreme cases, they kill the kid. Most often they use their son as a replacement for the dad by betatizing him.

A single mother household is like a ship without a captain or a very incompetent captain. She's probably too agreeable and not assertive enough to bargain for wages that would allow her to support her kid. So she thinks education will get her more money but then she chooses a low paying career like early childhood education, social work, etc. You and I will subsidize this through taxes. Eventually the kid will grow up and become a menace to society. You and I will pay for this through taxes.

hornetsfalcons12 3y ago

I’ve seen this before. Women have a kid and suddenly want to “be serious” for the kid.

Does this mean that they’re going to learn a trade? Open a business and hustle hard? Of course not. It means that they’re going to school. Maybe they’ll study something worthwhile like nursing or being a dental hygienist, but more than likely it’ll be a career that pays relatively low for the amount of time and money that they invest. Schools love bloating the ego of these women and then selling them all sorts of cheap to offer degrees, like a masters in early childhood education. Much better than, like, chemical engineering for the school, which requires expensive labs and equipment to deliver the coursework properly.

I’ve seen divorced moms go on to make a solid living for their kids. But single moms who were never in a committed relationship when the kid came out? Nope. Making the kind of money to support a family is a big time investment, and you don’t have that time when you’re also trying to maintain the family. Get married to a solid man, then start having kids.

whytehorse2021 3y ago

There is a massive shortage of dental hygienists, CNAs, nurses, etc. That's real work. The only women that have the hustle to do it are Mexican-Americans and Phillipinas. And yeah they're all usually married and making a killing. My local dental place is backed up 5 months for appointments with dental hygienists. You can go to the gov't work place and get the training for free just to get you off welfare. Guaranteed job when you finish with awesome benefits and good pay. It's no surprise that like 75% of nursing homes are operating at a loss and will go out of business.

hornetsfalcons12 3y ago

Yeah I actually legitimately just ran into that. Had an appointment on Friday for a teeth cleaning. My “6 month” cleaning got pushed back 7 weeks after because the hygienists are booked all the way until the end of February.

And it’s darn good pay. BLS says that their median wage is $78k a year, and that’s for a job that not only has less educational overhead, but overhead that the state will often times literally pay for. Compare that to the classic suburban princess job of high school teacher; 5 years of school for a median income of like $62k.

So why don’t more of them go for it? Well for one, job is more a status symbol for most women versus a means to an end. They’d rather be a non-profit director making $40k a year over a plumber making $80k, because the first one carries clout. Secondly, as a hygienist, you’ll be exposed to less than pleasant things; people with gum disease, people with nasty teeth, bad breathe, etc. That’s icky. They don’t want icky.

So that make work crap that they love to study, it’s all because it better satiates their ego.