So I met this chick on hinge, she didn’t look that bad in her pics. When I met her in person tho, she was very overweight. I travelled a bit for the date so I just went with it, I kept it cheap, didn’t ack like an asshole paid for her shit too and ended on a good note. Even tho this girl is like a 2/10 she had all the confidence in the world. Anyways I noticed recently she unmatched me on hinge. I am pretty good with rejection but for some reason this one is fucking with me. Mainly because I forced my self to continue with the date even after I saw she looks like a land whale. Overall I only spent 20$ on her just FYI.
In the future how should I deal with these types of situation, is it better to just not go for below average women, since they all have that I’m the hottest girl in the world entitlement? Should I have just walked out the moment I saw her being overweight ?
whytehorse2021 2y ago
End the date immediately if you get catfished. Don't reward that type of behaviour.
Pyth0ns 2y ago
Cringe! (You know why… Stop kidding yourself and perceiving yourself as some GigaChad)
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Forget the whole "2/10 and I am an 8/10 so she must fuck me" thinking.
Or worse "She's a 2/10 and said no, so therefore I am a 1/10".
Women are random and some people click and some don't. You scored her a "no" and that's fine. She did the same to you AND THAT MEANS NOTHING.
Girls will reject guys for being too hot (they don't think they have a chance), so don't take it too badly.... I suspect though that in this case she senses you don't want her (which is true).
This level of consideration was a mistake.... women do not offer you the same consideration: they'll walk away, unmatch, ditch, etc. They date with ZERO CONCERN for men. They literally go out on dates, use men, and don't give a fuck about them unless they're interested.
YOU SHOULD DO THE SAME.
If it's a no then it's a no. Don't waste your time. Just say "you are not my type" and WALK AWAY.
Had a similar experience..... way too fucking fat and her photo must have been 15 years and 150 pounds out of date. Hung out for a bit then ignore her........ and the fucking bitch kept messaging me and demanding that we "stay friends". What the fuck, if I wanted to hang around fatties like that all the time I'd join GreenPeace and go and save actual whales.
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
Only match with girls that have pics showing their body shapes
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
Bro I'm gonna stop you right there. What the fuck?
helpfulguy22 2y ago
No I didn’t know haha she was that bad until I showed up. I got catfished, but I still went with the date because I already went there and I’m like atleast I will get a good practice in.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Not worth it.
You game low end girls by being nice to them.
You game attractive girls by being aloof and cheeky.
"practice" on girls like this will not help you get what you want.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
Shit, how less chubby did she look on her pictures? How'd she pull off avoiding looking like a 2. And chances are she was able to sense how little desire you had for her (or as you put it), could tell you were "practicing" or both
helpfulguy22 2y ago
I think that’s what happened you were right, at the end of the date she was like ok I will see you… and I cut her off subconsciously without even noticing it and said take care. This is just a new experience for me, never been with a girl that low smv. I think in her pics she was younger so she was like thicc, but in person oh man, she could be a line backer.
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
That's the risk she took by using more flattering photos
But yeah man, when you swipe on any woman that's not fit, thin, or only mildly chubby, that's what you're gonna risk getting
My friend once swiped on a girl who had big tits but they were all selectively cropped to exclude her body type.
Everyone warned him while he was swiping on her and he just kept saying "she has great tits though" and called her "big tit Lexi". Then he texted all of us to come save him on his date by inviting us to play sports with them
Swipe at your own risk
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Or, to use a simpler term, "lying" :)
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
You're right, lmfao
Durek_The_Bald 2y ago
"Helpfulguy22" lmfao.
You absolute troll, you. Gave me a chuckle.
helpfulguy22 2y ago
I know this sounds like a troll story, but I am not trolling lmao. Man I am laughing at myself for being mad over this fat bitch rejecting me haha. But ya I also want some answers.
Durek_The_Bald 2y ago
If by any chance this isn't satire, then get to work in the sidebar. This is so far gone I don't even know what to tell you, besides you totally inflating her ego from the beginning, debasing yourself in the process. You made her feel like a 10/10, and see you as a 2/10, by traveling all the way there, then paying for the date, and then acting all "nice".
Lift + sidebar + the literature referenced in the sidebar. Recommended first reading: "No More Mr Nice Guy". Come back once you start getting it.
helpfulguy22 2y ago
No I get what you mean, I’m not trying to be rude but I don’t think you exactly get my question. I wasn’t nice or anything excessive, I basically carried my self how I would if she was a average looking girl. The main reason I did that is because I was like I’m here might as well practice. I didn’t compliment her or anything like that making her feel beautiful. But I think what happened is she is so not used to getting male attention, that me even acting normal made her ego skyrocket. She got the attention she wanted out of me. This is my first time going on a date with a girl that low in smv. Anyways my main question was what would you do in the situation, the moment you saw her and she’s not good looking?
Also I didn’t travel too far for her, we just sort of met where it’s convinent for both of us.
AllBlack087 2y ago
It happened to me once before online dating,there was a disgusting fat bitch and I had like six pack and was build like apoleone.She said something like do you really think that I would go out with you? I was like wtf girl why do you even think I would go out with someone like you in the first place,you have 50lbs of fat and dress like undertaker.I never said that to her but was shocked.The weird thing is that I never even thought of asking her out she was so below my league,but she was assuming that I want to ask her out and was hurted by that. But the thing is those ugly girls get approached by guys every day. You can't imagine what of some of us guys are willing to fuck.You are the example in the first place 2/10 you should better made a hole in the wall and fucked it instead. You and guys like you are the reason why all of them think that they are models and feel entitled. Yesterday my female friend told me while walking that she could be a model if she wanted. She is 6 btw,I could fuck her if I was really horny and there was nothing better around.
No-Stress-Cat 2y ago
Ti123 2y ago
Be yourself. If you wanted to walk out you should have by staying you compromised and she probably felt that she was better than you
Hanscheezburger 2y ago
not always. If their SMV is significantly lower than yours, they would be hesitant or downright reject you due to insecurity
r3z01v 2y ago
How weak is your frame that a fat girl acting with confidence makes you think she is how shit?
That's just the game man.
The same as you did now. Nod, be kind and substract from the situation. Why do you care people have self deluded identities? Understand that you are being pissed off, because you are insecure, you see them as being beneath you, and need others to be just as insecure as you so they don't AMOG you.
abitofmemory 2y ago
i was in a similar situation. instead of the catfish photos i did not get photos at all and just went on a blind date. in my case we just walked for 5 minutes, i politely excused and told that i changed my mind and dont want to spend my time with her after that i left