I looked at my life and realised that I wasted so fucking much time that I will not have chance to repair much of it. Now I try to cope. Trying to build work ethics [regularity and beating procrastination, other areas are not bad], educate and change work field, build capital, learn to play instrument, ride moto, find friend[s], think about becoming entrepreneur [always had ideas and quite good, never done], planning another career change after the one I'm changing into now, as another one has more prospects long-term but will take more time to finish and get more money [eventually], with better status.
I'm looking at my stuff and life and fuck me, I'm really late to the party. It really depresses me at times to read Cooper book and see how far I am in my own ass.
I had that thought today. Roosh had to loose belief and purpose in life doing and knowing all what he know. Then he passed all his knowledge and there was nothing else he wanted or maybe capable of doing.
whytehorse2021 11 months ago
I make up for the lost decades by getting a pooter and farting on Karens at Walmart.
Vermillion-Rx Moderator 11 months ago
I'm late to the party as well. But I'm ahead of most guys now in certain areas, so there's hope for you.
The main thing is, you have realized this. So many guys catch on to the fact that they are behind or missing something and don't do jack shit to change it
You sound like you realize this and are driven to change it, so take an honest look at each area of your life you are behind and at the minimum, ask yourself what reasonable steps you can take TODAY to start changing them. Then ask yourself the same question tomorrow and the day after that until you're satisfied with your life
Your vent is valid, a lot of TRP aware guys feel this way upon realizing where they are on the totem pole of life. But you gotta channel that pain. Feeling this remorse without direction is wasted time
Impressive-Cricket-8 11 months ago
Pretty much this. I'll just add that, while you cannot solve a decade of being unproductive in two weeks, a day where you accomplish things has a bigger positive impact than the negatives of a wasted day.
mattyanon Moderator 11 months ago
How old are you? What job do you have? Height, bodyfat, muscles? What do you WANT?
tenfour 11 months ago
mid 40, not well paid, over 6, 15%, good structure - into sports but rather lean that v muscular - now 4/week in gym for 1y.
more time. better social life, learn living better way, stuff that I mentioned in first post. Come to peace with that I have no time to master it all in my good part of lifetime [likely].
TRT not likely in UK, need a kick when there's less of it left in me [by medical standards].
mattyanon Moderator 11 months ago
15% isn't very lean, it's kinda average...... rest is fine.
More time to do what? What can you cut out?
What does "better social life" mean... more friends? What are you doing that could make you meet cool people?
Stop making excuses...... make changes.
tenfour 11 months ago
it isnt and should take me 3m to 12%
I can't see anything to cut out, I can only focus more on one or the other, all I see very important and interconnected, but have priorities ofc on job and some social life [I believe one can go belly up without it]
I have few flakes lately including energy vampire and extreme blackpill, so yeah
Talk to strangers when sarging, play footie with half strangers 2x a week, not much return but it is my hobby. Sourced moto club/meet up group, but it's start to stretch my time resources as I'm in process of starting the fun with it and it'll take past the summer.
Time goes into my head
bikebum 11 months ago
Sounds like you're good physically. Learn to dress well if you haven't already. For social life I like doing a hobby that you do with others. I'm an introvert and don't like socializing unless it's centered around something I'm into.
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