I think I am just posting here to vent, to own my actions, and maybe take my mind of things.
I have a fiancé and a 6 week old baby. I had a nice 23 year old plate while I am 33.
My game was nice for 3 months. However, after my son was born l have been fucking up for a while. I would leave this girl on read and she would double text me until I responded.
Anyways, I wanted to break it off, but for some reason this plate kept avoiding me, which made me like her more. As in not returning my calls, kind of wanted me to be her texting buddy, going to the clubs while I was home, and her online tag being on for awhile meaning she was talking on the phone with someone else. She did give me signals but I was scared of being rejected.
Anyways, I cared too much. I became a drunk captain, and the worst part is that I started to treat her like a princess instead of a slut even after sending me near naked pictures. My fear of losing her brought me here.
I think she moved on and I am trying to move on as well with my integrity. I didn’t turn full beta mode but I have to leave her alone since I would be in her frame if I push one more time. I caught feelings. The ball is in my court and last time we spoke was last Thursday. I could hit her up next week but with these feelings she would just eat me alive.
This is basically what happened according to the Art of Seduction:
“ Often, one person becomes disenchanted but lacks the courage to make the break. Instead, he or she withdraws inside. As an absence, this psychological step back may inadvertently reignite the other person's desire, and a frustrating cycle begins of pursuit and retreat. Everything unravels, slowly. Once you feel disenchanted and know it is over, end it quickly, without apology. That would only insult the other per- son. A quick separation is often easier to get over—it is as if you had a problem being faithful, as opposed to your feeling that the seduced was no longer being desirable.”
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Yup, sounds like ONEITIS for a hoe. It happens. The worst part is you have a covert contract that she's supposed to be available for you to break up with her. Just ghost her and move on. If she comes back tell her you're engaged and have a kid so you're busy and can only pump her at certain times.
Veggiesnap 1y ago
So I think I want to hard next her since she is annoying me now. What do you think? This is the last text exchange from last night:
Her -8:52 am - You do not love me anymore or what? Are you going to facetime me? For real I want to see you
Me - 9:35 pm - I was busy
Her - 9:57 pm - 1 week? hahaha
Me - 10:03 pm - You watching me hard haha
Her - 10:38 pm - Did you change me? Did you find another one?
Me - 12:13 am - I got 100 new followers in instagram
I think she is looking for my attention after I do not see her stories anymore, I refuse to call her or even say "call me", and that stupid shit test when she is talking to other guys. It is like the monkey entertain me dance.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
I already told you what to do. Do it or don't do it. I can't wait to laugh at your ass if you don't do it and come back posting about it.
Veggiesnap 1y ago
Thanks for the reply, and yes, ghosting her will keep my dignity.
It is surprising since I was getting tired of her, but then I got insecure when she stopped answering calls, branch swinging, and got scared of rejections. I just wished I left on a more powerful state in the dynamic. The feeling of being undesirable part is the shitty part.
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Veggiesnap 1y ago
Yea, it is the same thing I use during the seduction process. I initiate contact for 3 days straight and then on the fourth I ghost them. It drives them wild.