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hannulv

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So my wife of 25 years starting sneaking around my back.

We have a fuckton of kids, she dotes on me like she adores me and we fuck once or twice a day. She looks great for her age and about 6 months ago she joined a crossfit gym with her friend and has been working off those last 20 lbs. to where she really looks tight. Somewhere along the way she realized that half the people she met wanted to fuck her, and started going crazy for validation, surrounding herself with male and female orbiters, started IG, etc. While she didn't want to fuck anyone else, she did want the attention, so she started leading everybody on, so that they would constantly give her attention and validation.

She became friends with one of the superjacked dudes she worked out with that is homeless and jobless and 14 years younger started getting aggressive and handsy with her after she started texting him all day and sent him nudes, and finally while they were running together, he grabbed her and kissed her, which she absolutely loved for the attention, but told him he could never do that again, because they could only be friends and then continued to hang out with him. Then, when his girlfriend came to town she got jealous and sent him thirst trap pictures to make him jealous (because his girlfriend is ugly and fat).

When I discovered that she was sneaking around doing this shit, she lied to my face multiple times (because she was handling it, and she didn't want to hurt me or for me to leave her), it took three confrontations to get the whole truth out her. There is long list of close "friends" she's lost in the last few months, which were mostly girls that wanted to fuck her that she was leading on, until they got pissed and ghosted her because she wasn't taking their affections seriously and was leading them on. In the aftermath, she has cut off half of her life, broken all contact with most of her friends, left her gym "family", changed her number, and dropped IG. She confessed that she was lying to, deceiving, and betraying me, because the validation she was getting was like a drug, and it was something I could never give her because I'm not shiny and new. The active deception lasted about two weeks and took a heavy toll, with her becoming suicidal and hitting the bottle hard enough to pass out every night.

I saw this shit coming a hundred miles away, and warned her every step of the way, but my attempts to set boundaries ultimately failed because I was only left with the option to nuke, and I'm in a situation where I will be completely fucked and zeroed out in a divorce. If I hadn't discovered this when I did, there's a hundred percent chance that things would have escalated, and I can almost guarantee they would have fucked, even if she's certain that she didn't want to. Like in all things female, she felt like none of the betrayals were things she did, they were just things that were happening beyond her control, and she was trying to manage them so they didn't get out of hand.

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r3z01v 1y ago

You sound like a broke arse loser.

So she is having girls at the gym thristing over her and your didn't want a side of that. Negro - because you got to be either a bumkin or a getto brainiac - and the trailer trash would know how to pull a threesome out of that situation even if he was inbred - you better have under 17 % body fat. Because if you don't have, I hope your girl knows better and gets a fucking orgy going, rather that staying with your conservacuck arse and just being frustrated that the man she picked can't even keep it up for two hot pieces of arse.

SheLarror1234 1y ago

Only so much you can do after the modern marriage trap is set in stone. Reward for a wicked man is a wicked women the holy book says. Don't get married with modern woman. And if you do, something is or WAS wrong with you. Your coping hard too. Stop giving the benefit of the doubt by saying she's not trying to fuck someone else, when she clearly is and will , and probably already has. Not trying to make you insecure, but this is what modern women really are. Its extremely delusional to get married to one in these times, so what you failed to see back then you have to see now, or it will just keep getting worst.

Only advice anyone could give you is to plan on your divorce early. Modern marriage is an abomination. And female nature will not get better here. The fact that your wife kissed and was fucking around with another man means she is not your wife anymore. And the only thing this will do is in the future make her more careful with online stuff, but it wont change her hypergamous and feministic nature and eventually she will become more and more likely to have the "rebel against you" spirit. To her, your just a big jail cell she cant quite break free from.

She might be dreaded now, with fear of losing her familys good opinion of her, but it can quickly turn sides with you being seen as some insecure controlling freak, or some weird ("woman hater, unliberal"etc) bad guy to the social. So my advice is to keep cool, calm, and collected. Don't even mention it anymore. Just make sure your kids continue to really love and look up to you, because females love to take control of the social groups, and are usually the head of such, and once she has that power over you, its over. They will not hold accountability for their actions either so trying to push the matter forward, or put it in the limelight will just make her resent you more. And if she were to reflect accountability like how women always do, she will turn your image of how the people you know see you.. Its worst that you have kids and such, so its not a good idea to do this so openly or you risk losing a lot.

But just know that its over. If she did it in this situation, its 101% guaranteed she will do it again in the future. Stop wasting your time, stop being beta and prepare yourself early with all evidence, law language, and money wise for divorce. Dont mention it anymore and just silently plan for the future. Realize it will get worst and if she had the nerve to do this, then imagine what she already has done. You were just blind then, but its time to wash your eyes. You are in a war so plan intelligently.

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r3z01v 1y ago

Probably not, he is narrating the step by step grope episode like a cuck fantasy. How would you know that? And why would you want to know that with such detail and then share it with that same detail if you weren't turned on by it, or if you wanted to hammer home a point with a made up description.

hannulv 1y ago

Does something strike you as fake?

whytehorse2021 1y ago

Just do what I did: go to the gym and apply dread. Worst case scenario you're in a position to leave and have pussy right away. Best case scenario she's dreaded into behaving correctly. Maybe even quit your job and get all jacked since that's what she's into, lol jk.

Anyway, I had to overcome my oneitis for my wife. Once I did that things really improved. I started using all the red pill techniques and stopped being Mr. Nice Guy. I guess AWALT in that women only respect you if you're prepared to walk away.

mattyanon Admin 1y ago

While she didn't want to fuck anyone else

Which you base on what......... her SAYING this, despite how she acts?

FML

Good luck dude

hannulv 1y ago

Which you base on what......... her SAYING this, despite how she acts?

No I investigated pretty thoroughly. I managed to recover all the deleted texts, and she had plenty of opportunities. It as pretty clear that she was stringing the guy along for compliments and that she wanted it to be some sort of friend thing, but she kept crossing lines to keep him hooked. I have no doubt that she would have eventually fucked him if he had enough time to work on her, but it hadn't gotten far enough yet.

tierteen 1y ago

trickle truth

she even might say truth how it happened with this specific guy but get train with Chicago Bulls. It might be hard to get this truths, half-truths or straight lies but if you lie to yourself you will go trough hard time for longer. She gave you enough reasons to act, this cannot be recouped.

Be super sensitive aabout her being extra nice with people around now [or anytime], as she definitely lost ties/respect for you and will now blackmail you before next move - to get you. Collect evidence - install hidden CCTV. Get her to admit on video to stuff before she will get conscious. I went trough this process after many years once. It wasn't too hardcore but no kids were involved.

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nroo23 1y ago

10 / 10 Troll (I hope).

She was sending the hawt gym guy nudes and you really think nothing else happened?

Also, is this a gym or a damn swingers club?

No offense man, but this looks beyond suspect and I do not believe at all that she hasn’t been sleeping around based on this.

I would 100% dump a GF doing any of this- but since it’s your wife I would get a PI or something and see what’s she’s up to when you’re not around. This is beyond fishy (seems made up- but if true).

Edit: Sorry didn’t see your shit about being unable to set boundaries until later. I might just start buying really expensive shit, like leasing a new corvette and going to highend strip clubs, get a sugar baby even if I were you- fuck it- have a good time and don’t let your wife who gets passed around by the CrossFit crew (no offense but that’s def what it sounds like It) take the rest. Since you can’t keep it from her- start blowing it and have fun it the PI uncovers any more bad shit.

I know this a dark/crazy take but I’m serious based on your situation.

Finally, I really wish your the best no matter what you decide. I know crazy shit like that can happen that is no fault of your own. I nexted my last main plate (I really liked a lot) in part because she is a massive validation seeker and IG “Influencer” and would not take to boundaries well- and I could totally see something like this happening down the road. Unfortunately, I think this is very much just a prime example of AWALT (and a bizarre crossfit story) and many-hotter woman especially- are prone to this without tight boundaries.

SheLarror1234 1y ago

This. I think its troll too, but im going to assume its serious for the forum. Op is better off taking a trip to a more traditional country and marrying another wife just to cope. But either way, him and his wife is done for. There's no wife anymore. She was definitely getting passed around if she admitted that dudes were kissing and touching her. Only a idiot who hasn't gamed chicks like his wife would say otherwise. So OP, don't be that idiot. Imagine what she was really hiding smh. And op already lost frame by this event. Even her deciding to go and do all this validation shit implies absolutely no frame before this even happened. It was over way long before this event.

Even if OP were to cope and say he can 100% verify that that's all she did, its still over. Mentally, Op was already cucked many times already. And being cucked is one of the worst thing that can happen to a man. Even your girlfriend holding hands with another dude is hard next. Op needs to prepare now and find a new chick asap, prepare for his divorce by silently collecting evidence and all red flags to make sure he does not get raped too hard in the end.