This question is mainly for a situation when u are on ur purpose, super busy, but also have a drought in options. So you have a bunch of low interest chicks you can probably smash, but the juice ain’t worth the amount of squeeze. Where you are pretty much pursuing 100%, while disrespecting ur self. Yes you may achieve your goal but you did a lot of damage to your self respect and principles among the way. So what would you choose ?
Edit: self respect and pussy ****
Snowbattt 1y ago
Self-respect. Seriously, your self-respect is worth much more than the chance to wet your dick. I'd rather pay and escort and be done with it to release sexual pression than do the whole chasing a woman thing for a woman I'm not actually interested in. At least when you pay, you're not bullshitting yourself.
nroo23 1y ago
Self-respect.
I’ve made this choice before multiple times. When you choose pussy and no self-respect you lose your self-respect and inevitably then lose the pussy.
If you choose self-respect you improve in your journey and more pussy will inevitably come. Maybe even much better pussy.
pofkaf 1y ago
Pursuing women who are already low interest is NOT gonna go your way.
If you really need some release, bang an ugly girl instead. Just get it out of your system.
tierteen 1y ago
for me it would be disrespectful to myself
enfier 1y ago
I'd say you need a paradigm shift - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paradigm_shift There's so much about this that doesn't even make sense to me. Your self worth shouldn't be tied to taking some actions to pick up a girl.
I don't understand which part of hitting on a woman is disrespecting yourself. If you want a girl, you've got to play the game. That doesn't mean you have to be a sap and buy her flowers before taking her to dinner. You can invite her to tag along as you go out with friends and see what happens.
If whatever you are super busy with is the direct work of making yourself hotter, then I'd do a 90/10 split. 90% effort focused on improvement, 10% getting laid today. Hit up all those low interest chicks and see if any of them turn into high interest chicks that were just playing it cool. You have to keep your feet in the water if only to gauge your progress. You should be involved in something that leads to meeting a steady stream of new girls in situations where you already have social capital. Play it cool and don't try to bang all of them and you'll eventually walk away with a girlfriend for very low effort.
If whatever you are working on so hard isn't making yourself hotter (like an engineering degree) then I'd dial back the effort to 70% and spend 20% improving yourself and 10% effort finding a girl right now. Obviously your are completely fucking obsessed at this point with getting laid, being a sexually frustrated engineer is not much better than being a sexually frustrated college student, you just have better toys to waste your time with.
helpfulguy22 1y ago
Thanks for the detailed answer. But I think you misunderstood my question, basically what I was asking is, is it worth going after low interest girls. Because often times I are over pursuing and such and you get very little effort back.
enfier 1y ago
Yes, mainly because I don't know how well you can read their level of interest. Just don't over pursue - in fact don't really pursue at all. As her if she'd like to join you in something you were going to do anyways. It doesn't take any time or effort and she'll just decline to go if she's not interested. If she is interested, she'll show up looking nice and sit right next to you and be charming to your friends and you'll be holding hands by the end of the social outing.
Long term, having more options is the cure for all of this. That's why I mentioned the involvement in a social club that introduces you to new women. Partner dancing is a good one if you can find a scene that isn't all retirees.
In my life I often end up realizing about halfway through that some hot woman is totally into me - half of the time because people start treating her as if she were my mistress. If you were having that problem, you wouldn't be concerned with this one.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Yeah, it's a tradeoff... what's the long term best option? how badly do you need that pussy?
There's probably a middle ground here
whytehorse2021 1y ago
I'd rather pay for pussy than chase it. What you're describing is transactional sex. It's nice when you get the occasional genuine desire but I always default to transactional because that's how most women are.
No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
I'd rather jerk off and get it out of my system. There are millions of pussies out there. There's only one self-respect. Which would you say is more valuable?