My brain is actively cock-blocking me. In the social setting I am usually an interesting guy, making people laugh, flirting with girls and generally enjoying my time. New girls introduced to my social group often end up liking me and giving me signals to go for something more with them. Although that is what I want, my brain just shuts down the moment game is on. All my funny wit disappear and I turn into mute, boring fucktard. I would score literally by just doing the stuff I am usually doing but for some reason I can't and I really want to fix that.
Any tips?
Justabunchofwords 1y ago
Just be your true self unapologetically. Also don’t care whether they like you or not. Be okay with being disliked or outright hated. You need to defeat self consciousness by deciding you only care about being authentic over trying to impress someone. Man women will be enamored that they cannot move you off your emotional center. Any character attacks that come at you, take them as a joke. Who cares what she thinks? Are you going to stop being yourself just to try and get a girl? Think about it, you have been in your head and losing them. You lost yourself and the girl. There is always a chance of failure, but you never lose if you stay your true self. Never agree to be entertainment for a chick. You don’t want to be a clown. Worry about losing your manhood, not the girl.
WokeDown 1y ago
Go for less attractive women, like her fat friend, as sheer practice.
r3z01v 2y ago
Get laid and stop thinking sex is round 69 of a mindgame.
Vibe, touch, isolate, touch some more, vibe, go home, vibe like crazy, touch a lot more.
Don't make it more complicated than this
Scorpion69_ 2y ago
Thats cuz ur outcome dependant and u dont wanna fuck it up. This makes you to mentally walk in egg shells to avoid criticism, therefore avoiding rejection... At least thats what ur brain thinks.
Realize that the mental blockage is that, a MENTAL thing. Ur brain loves survival and instinctually it doesnt want to be excluded from the tribe.
Also realize that ur the prize. U have NOTHING to prove to others and much less to girls, they should feel lucky to have ur sexual attention.
Take social situations slow and relaxed
Hanscheezburger 2y ago
if your goal is to have sex with that girl you will feel pressured
change your goal to having a good time and just let things flow naturally
redhawkes 2 2y ago
ZFG. The other guy is right, it's scarcity induced outcome dependence. Just do it and don't overthink.
It's another thing if you become disinterested in her, happened to me many times, but this is your brain/ego defense mechanism. Keep doing what you're doing and ignore the brain farts.