I am kind of an extroverted kind of guy. I like to talk, I like to make people laugh and be the centre of attention. I joke and make people comfortable.
I see this as a good thing, but nevertheless I often read in the manosphere the importance of "shut the fuck up" - STFU.
Of course is your communication and social skills crucial to connect with people, but how do I do that without being a clown? How can I STFU but not be seen as an oddball?
Advice please, gentlemen.
r3z01v 2y ago
Do people respect you?
If they don't you're not actually connecting and making people do anything. You're just performing and the laughter is at you. The attention is so they are distracted from their own mind messyness.
This should be enough to get you to STFU.
If not, try this excercise. Say what you want in your head before you say it outloud as a reaction. Listen to it. If it adds to the subject speak it. Slower than you would normally. Listen to podcasts at .7x speed to get what confident pacing sounds like.
MrSupreme 2y ago
Just read people,if they look like they got nothing to say break the silence,if they seem like they still got something to say let em Easier said than done but you'll get there
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Don't be a dancing monkey there to entertain her. Less is more. Just keep it moving along toward sex and pull back if that's not where she wants to go.
Hanscheezburger 2y ago
Listen to what they say carefully and understand what they are trying to convey before chipping in. That should shut you up a healthy amount.
I have problems with shutting TFU too but in a different case. I often end up talking too much about myself, future plans, what I'm doing etc though I know they should be kept secret