how all these random guys are fucking and having their way with the girl i loved/cared for whilst she doesn't give any fucks about me

Lesson learned I hope: don't invest much in women, because other guys have fucked them for free in the past and will in the future.

. I just can't ever see myself really getting emotionally close to a women as that fear of what happened a

Good! Why should you invest so much and risk feeling this badly? Relationships end, this is usually female initiated (because men stop trying to get a new girlfriend when they have one, but women constantly receive offers), and you have nothing to show for it. Worse than nothing: you're off your game and have to start from nothing.

Do you ever really get over getting your heart ripped out?

yes

or heal from it?

Well, you learn. Or you should

I know she was a whore and i dodged a bullet etc etc I know of red flags to look out for now and so on but that shit left a bad scar .

The red flags for "might be a future whore" are tits and ass. If she has those, there's a good chance she isn't good relationship material.

I'm serious: women just are not cut out for the type of relationship we'd like to have, as men. Women branch swing, men are left single and alone. That's not a healthy dynamic.

Yeah you get over it man, people will say lift/diet/socialize and list a whole bunch of shit that will make you feel better but there's only one thing that will help you, time. It gets better because you get better, you can't control how you feel about it, you can't make the sadness go away.

All you gotta do is take a big breath, give yourself the time to be sad/mourn, feel the concrete on your face, there's no reason to get up at the count of 3, give yourself till 8/9, just take a moment and be at the bottom, don't accept it or fight it or try spin it into a good thing. Just be in the shitty situation. And then you start getting better, start living your life again, and it'll suck. You'll feel like shit, you'll probably go home from drinking some nights and just cry but you gotta keep going, keep doing your thing. And one day you'll wake up and suddenly realise that you don't feel like shit anymore, just like that youll feel better, until then you just gotta fight it out. It gets better

I can tell you exactly when you will get over her. When she hits the wall and is a fat single mother... and you look her up on social media and go "ew".

Here, have a read of these "where are all the good men?" posts. Any time you feel yourself slipping back into blue pill revisit the same site. https://www.reddit.com/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/

This happened to me several times many years ago, (around 10-15) when I was still blue pilled.

Do you get over it? yes, it doesn't sting anymore. However you can never see the world in the same way again, you can never see women in the same way again. Now that you know what they're like you can't love them as you once did, I find it impossible even when I try really hard.

Don't get me wrong I still catch feelings but not in the same innocent way I once did. I know how that when she says she loves me she means right now, and tomorrow it could be very different.

You'll get over this hoe one day and you'll get more pussy than you ever thought possible. You'll realise women aren't everything and there will still be things missing which is why you need to work on yourself and cultivate strong male friendships.

If you take nothing else away from the redpill remember this, women are not the main course, they are dessert and they want to be dessert.