Hey guys I've read the book "The Rational Male" for the second time now. It opened my eyes about so many things because as a teenager I understood absolutely NOTHING about women. My first kiss, my first girlfriend and my first sex was when i was 18, but it was kind of a one time thing and then nothing for months because I still sucked with women.
Now I am 22, no girlfriends but I can definitly tell that I am way more attractive to women than before, thanks to the red pill. Ive noticed women desire me and give me hints that kind of says "i want to fuck you", making me way more confident than before and therefore attracting even more women.
So yeah that is great. But the thing is I dont have sex. Simply because after noticing a woman wants to fuck me and desire me I just dont know what to do. This weekend I was at a party, and there was one girl that me and some other guy were into. The girl wanted ME, but I didn't knew what to do and the other guy, who probably doesnt know anything about the red pill got her because I know him since he was a child and he always had that thing with women, so all this experience gave him the girl.
I am so grateful about the red pill, its like the first step for me but once I know that a girl likes me there is no book that explains what to do. I was so used to beeing rejected by women that now that then desire me I still am scared of making that first step men are supposed to do.
whoami_root 2y ago
Sounds like you have self confidence issues. I went through a bit of this too when I first started. I always was the scrawny kid that the hot girls didn't want, so after increasing my value any "attractive" woman showing me interest was met with skepticism from me - I couldn't believe a woman would actually want me. If this is your problem, I suggest therapy and working on internalizing that you are a prize and a sexual being that women would (well actually, SHOULD) want to fuck.
Now you've learned a hard lesson. Women throw out signs of interest and if you're not acting on it and you have a (semi) attractive friend next to you, she'll go with him if he actually takes action. Like I said, I think you have self-confidence issues because all those rejections in your past made you internalize that you're not a man that women want. You have to kill that shit and take action ESPECIALLY if a woman is giving you the go signals.
Turn off your brain, get out of your head. When you see an attractive woman, what do you want to naturally do to her? If you felt like a casanova motherfucker, how would you act? Would you see her signs of interest and try to lead her somewhere more private so you guys can touch/fuck each other? Anytime a woman is showing you strong interest that she wants to fuck you, you have to believe her and act on it. Let her be the one to tell you where the line is, because she just may have wanted to follow you to a bedroom at the party (or back to your car) and let you fuck her right then and there. You just have to believe that's a possibility and try to make it a reality.
unplugged69 2y ago
+1 This guy knows!
OP you need to understand something very basic, women put themselves in situations where they could get hit on or fucked, but rarely or never do the actual initiating themselves. You need to take the lead here when you see any IOIs
Kinokiller 2y ago
I do think I have self confidence issue. I need to find my way into what I know will increase that self confidence, wich is kissing her. Once thats done I know exactly what to do, its just doing this thats hard for me.
SeasonedRP 2y ago
You need to get used to interacting with women. When you are at social gatherings, talk to women. Don't worry about whether you are going to have sex or not, just get used to talking and bantering with them. And do this in everyday life. Talk to women you know you won't have sex with, women you don't want to have sex with. The point is to learn how to converse with them and learn what keeps conversations going, and ultimately what leads them to give off IOIs. First learn to crawl, then to walk, then to run. Do this for a while and one day it will be second nature to you.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
You don't approach them. Personally, I think you should just switch teams. You won't have that problem with the gay/bi community and you'll have tons of sex.
Kinokiller 2y ago
I wonder if you guys could give me examples with what you did with the first girls you had after you unplugged. Like between the moment you were rejected by girls and the one where you got laid.
For example, a girl is into you at a party. You notice it. What do you do?
whoami_root 2y ago
Assuming you guys lock/meet eyes multiple times, that's your IOI (indicator of interest) right there. Walk up to her while maintaining contact, and just say something like, "Hey we kept crossing eyes so I wanted to introduce myself". Start a conversation, make her laugh and then while laughing use that as an excuse to kino (put your hand on her arm, push her gently) because you want her to get used to you touching her. At some point, make up an excuse on "how its loud in here" and tell her "Follow me over here so we can talk" (for added bonus, whisper it in her ear). Grab her hand and lead her somewhere else more private, then while close, maintain eye contact and increase kino (put your hand on her waist, pull her in closer to you). Tell her something like "I think you're hot, not gonna lie" and wait for her response. So long as she's still maintaining eye contact with you and not trying to push away, pull her in for a kiss and then go from there.
If she followed you this far and pushed back when you went for a kiss, don't sweat it, pull back and act unphased. She's putting up an ASD (anti-slut defense) and that just means you gotta keep gaming her to get her comfortable. Continue chatting her up and then try to kiss again. If she refuses again, chat her up for another minute or so so you don't seem butthurt and then just say something like "I gotta get back to my friends but let me get your number" and then try to setup something for later.
Your goal is to try and escalate and get physical - it signals to her that you've been here before. Like I said above, you've gotta believe that this woman wants you to romance her and turn off your brain. The rest will follow. Listen to your masculine instincts.
Kinokiller 2y ago
Thanks bro
I see what you mean. Physical contact is the key
whoami_root 2y ago
No problem, and yes, physical contact is key. Women are emotional creatures, so remember from the first time you speak to her to when you actually bed her, she's building up emotions about how she feels about you. You touching her, pulling her in close, leading her around, etc. will make her build up a fantasy in her mind about what it would be like for you two to fuck.