My GF is anoying me like last weekend we have all the sex in the world and last night out first opportunity after about a week she wanted to go home. That's fine I just let her no argument. It is great sex when we have it and she loves it.
We have been here before and I've already told her if she doesn't give me what I need I will find it elsewhere. She was really upset and came back quick. I don't know if she is trying to play a game but I think maybe I should just find it somewhere else.
I don't like being dishonest and I do care about this girl and don't wanna cheat on her. So the other option is just to break up for real I don't want this coming up all the time or her thinking she can starve me.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4y ago
She's an LTR, not a plate, and you're going to break her like a plate. This is childish and nuclear dread. It's been a week and you're about to crack over it?
Come on man, this is beta as fuck. It's been one week and you're acting like it's a sexual apocalypse. Did you even try to figure out why she didn't want to that day? She turned down sex for a single day
Diabs 4y ago
I understand what you're saying. This has happened before and I don't want her thinking she's my only option and that she can starve me.
I'm not gonna just be a nice guy and have it on her terms all the time I have let her know that. I've done that before and it never lasts. I have enough friends and don't need another one.
I'm don't wanna go nuclear straight up I will see how we go from here.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4y ago
You're being beta even with those concerns. You need to go from step A to step B first, you're jumping from step A to step Z before you've even seen how this played out.
If you tell her she better satisfy you or else you're gonna look like a bitch with no options. You're not gonna look like you have options, quite the opposite.
Change her mood not her mind.
Do you seriously expect there to be no days in your entire LTR where she's not in the mood, doesn't put out, doesn't feel well etc? Some of you guys on here do not have the mindset to be in an LTR
Returningsomevideotapez 4y ago
She’s not starving you, you didn’t have sex for a week, don’t be so immature. You are in a LTR, not an open relationship so she shouldn’t really feel like there are other options for you to hop to. This will just make her feel pressured and eventually things will go south and the relationship is fucked. If you want to continue that way you are better of just ending it and looking for some plates.
Sometimes people can not be in the mood, if it’s such a big concern try talking about it with her. Breaking up over such a little thing is just weird
whytehorse2021 4y ago
No need to cheat. Just tell her that you want to go to non-exclusive sex and you have mismatched libidos.
SeasonedRP 2 4y ago
More info would be helpful, but it sounds like her turning you down for sex isn't rare, and that last night was a situation in which a girl like her would have wanted to have sex. Unless you've been dating for years, this issue is not a good sign for a LTR. If she is regularly uninterested in sex now, it won't get any better. It will get a lot worse. Guys who marry women like this end up in dead bedrooms.
pofkaf 1 4y ago
As Uncle Vas always says: this wouldn't be an issue if you were maintaining sexual relationships with multiple women.
unplugged69 4y ago
LTRs are hard mode, this is why we recommend spinning plates. It sounds like you may not be ready for an LTR if you are giving her ultimatum which sound super beta and trying to nuke the relationship by cheating.
If this is a rare thing then you're being immature and if she denies sex often then you should have vetted better before getting into an LTR with her.
You should spend more time in easy mode spinning plates, you'll internalize a lot of concepts you read about on here and you'll act less needy in an LTR. Ultimately acting needy turns them off and makes sex less likely, and verbalizing your sexual dissatisfaction is needy.
A lot of guys misunderstand so I'll explain, you lay down ground rules before an LTR, during the vetting process "oh I could never seriously date a girl who doesn't want to have sex often" or "I wouldn't date a girl who still keeps in touch with her ex's". Drop little bread crumbs here and there, women listen for this exact shit and if she forgets it later she doesn't respect or care about you.
However you don't get into an LTR, get denied sex and then go "you fucking whore, I'll get it elsewhere if you don't drain my balls". You see how that's different?
Diabs 4y ago
Well I won't act on my first thought just yet. She was having an off day not worth blowing it all up over. I do suspect our sex drive doesn't match at times but otherwise good.
She has photos of me up, she wanted to go public, she pushed for exclusively, she buys me things and really likes me. And I like her too and really don't want to just blow it up.
It is just hard mode she always tests me, tries to get me to run around for her and feed into her bad moods. I just always keep it light. Like she was in a bad mood today So I flicked water at her and mad her mader and kept going till she started laughing.
If it doesn't work out no harm just another life lesson that will make me stronger. live life and trust in God sometimes.