Difference between nexting and breaking up? | TheRedPill

I am at a situation with a girl that I have been seeing way longer than I should. I did the rookie mistake and "waited for the intimacy to come", let´s say nothing has happened. Actually, she mentioned it a while ago and said that "she is slow" and "need to wait for the right moment". That was three weeks ago.

I don´t need to tell you it is NOT worth the wait.

However, I can´t decide what to do here - If breaking up with her in a overt way is the "noble thing to do" or if I should just next her (preferably soft). Under normal circumstances, I would soft next but then again we actually talked about it and it feels kind of douchey to just next her without giving her a proper explanation. But then again, I am probably overanalyzing.

What´s your experience with this? Does real RP: er ever breakup in an overt way? Is this a case of a "proper" breakup talk or just a soft next?

Thanks in advance

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whytehorse2021 4y ago

Soft next and fuck other women. Tell her to let you know when the right moment happens. It is totally douchey and that will make her fall hard for you. Only jerks get pussy. Nice guys get 3 weeks of nothing.

fusionnnn 4y ago

In my experience I just ignore and move on with life, and then BOOM out of nowhere they will be sending me nudes and wanting to fuck. Women are weird

whoami_root 4y ago

If breaking up with her in a overt way is the "noble thing to do" or if I should just next her (preferably soft). Under normal circumstances, I would soft next but then again we actually talked about it and it feels kind of douchey to just next her without giving her a proper explanation

This whole "noble" thinking is completely blue pill and you need to rewire your brain to get rid of that thinking. How many women are "noble" in the way that they treat men?

Look, this woman knows you want to sleep with her but either your game's not tight or you just don't turn her on sexually enough (aka she sees you as a beta). As much as that may hurt to read, take it as an opportunity to re-assess yourself. I used to be in your shoes so don't take this as me talking shit, I'm speaking as a guy that used to be there.

Now for the advice, there doesn't need to be any grand "breakup" routine here because you guys aren't together. You've been trying to date this woman and build rapport and she still hasn't found the desire to fuck you yet. Nexting her means that you don't text her or respond to any of her emotional support texts. Next time she reaches out, tell her "Hey come by my place. I got a bottle of wine to kill" and if she refuses, block her and move on with your life. If you're still blue pill, this will make you feel like you're being a cold-hearted bastard but this woman knows what she's doing and if she doesn't want to fuck you, she's likely fucking someone else who probably isn't even spending all this time/money to "get to know her". Respect yourself and your time by not dealing with her anymore and go get a woman that's begging to suck your dick.