Plate moved to other country (temporarily), what do you do? | TheRedPill

I don't believe in LDR like most of you, so I made it clear to her I don't expect anything besides keeping in touch sometimes. I want to keep the prospect of sex in the future when she returns (won't be soon, maybe like 2 years)

She thinks we are in a relationship (we're not), insisted that we have some sort of LDR and keeps sending me messages, got upset I don't reply frequently.

Do I break the plate now and get in touch with her when she returns? Or do I give her some breadcrumbs here and there to keep her interest? I think the second option is quite difficult considering the distance and that she would undoubtedly meet other men. I don't want to have bad blood between us either, which makes the future possibility of sex more difficult.

What do you think I should do in this situation? Many thanks

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Guyandtheroadtovictory 4y ago

so I made it clear to her I don't expect anything besides keeping in touch sometimes

She thinks we are in a relationship

she would undoubtedly meet other men

Yo,

I have taken out three phrases which I would pay attention to (listed above). I see that you are invested in her, probably because of the sex, but if she insisted in LTR, why dont you? Thats the first question.

Situation seems strange that she thinks that you two are in LTR and you made it clear that you are just spending time together. This is crazy a bit, but maybe not important?

Moreover, there is no plate distance relationship (lol), because just by common sense, there is no LDR. Yes, I heard it as well, there are few unicorn stories about it, but, personally, I don't believe in that, Rollo said great phrases about this in his Rational male series. I have a friend who had an experience with LDR and they met twice a month - long story short, girl met some other guy and he started to see things in real life perspective. Now enjoying life all over the world, working and enjoying company of ladies and girls.

I should say - enjoy life. Dont waste energy on people who you keep in touch sometimes and phuck your mind and nerves thinking about ldr's afterwards. Getting in touch with her then and after, why not - but not as chatting.. travelling, see new places..all kinds of places..but maybe the situation will be temporary?

be strong,

Hanscheezburger 4y ago

Thank you for the reply, I appreciate it!

I like the sex we have but this girl has some issues that I've deemed her unfit for LTR. So that's that. Still, it's great hanging around her
To explain the one sided LTR part. Whenever she said I love you to me, I only replied "I know" or "I like you too" and she asked me about that. I would answer that I find her interesting and would like to know her more. I'm not ready to call it "love" yet. She acknowledged this (once told me that I acted that way because I was afraid of getting hurt etc) but still tell her friends I'm her bf
I agree with you about the LDR or PDR part. I don't hold it against her for hooking up with other guys while she's in another country, I would do the same thing! I just want to keep having sex when she returns, with no intention of making her a LTR

I also agree that I should enjoy life at the moment. Thanks again!

mattyanon Admin 4y ago

Plate

Are you seeing other women?

She thinks we are in a relationship

You don't need to lie to women or let them believe mistruths.

Hanscheezburger 4y ago

Thanks for the reply!

Yes I am seeing other women. I also don't consider her a LTR prospect, hence why I call her plate. I never explicitly told her that I was doing that though, but I never denied or said we were exclusive.

I agree with you about lying, it brings all sorts of problems. When I get asked that question, I do pretty much what you wrote in your post about "the talk". What I said was I enjoy her company, I find her interesting and we are having a great time getting to know each other. I don't think our relationship is ready to be called love and she acknowledged that, still she would tell her friends that I was her bf and posts pictures of my back or my hand/ arm on social media (is this bad?)

I just want to be able to continue the plate when she returns to the country but not sure how I would approach this

breakup now and contact again 2 years later, or
maintain the relationship from time to time for 2 years (which I think would be difficult)

mattyanon Admin 4y ago

. I never explicitly told her that I was doing that though, but I never denied or said we were exclusive.

Yeah, this is problematic. If you see a girl regularly, she'll assume you are boyfriend/girlfriend unless you imply otherwise.

What I said was I enjoy her company, I find her interesting and we are having a great time getting to know each other. I don't think our relationship is ready to be called love ...

Yeah, you're not being clear enough., especially because she tells her friends that you are her BF.

still she would tell her friends that I was her bf and posts pictures of my back or my hand/ arm on social media (is this bad?)

Yes. this is bad.

I just want to be able to continue the plate when she returns to the country but not sure how I would approach this breakup now and contact again 2 years later, or

tricky