No problem getting dates or action, but that isn't what I want | TheRedPill

drdontgiveaf

Posted 2y ago in LTR - Permalink - Locked - 512 Views

Hey Fellas, So, I have been out of a relationship for awhile and during my adult life have had lots of contact with women and over the years it has only gotten better. I have a calendar full of dates more or less when I want to. I can get action regularly. No problem there. But, at this point, I am wondering to myself, "What is another notch on the bed post"?

If that makes any sense.

My thing is, I've been looking for LTR quality women for awhile now and just keep my options open knowing that it is more of a needle in the haystack kind of thing. But, at this point I am getting a little burnt out. None of these chicks have anything to offer but their bodies. With how easy it is to get, it is kind of becoming less interesting.

Besides all of the info out there about the qualities of an LTR, red flags, etc...

What would you guys do if you are actually interested in having an LTR with a woman, have no issues getting interest from women in general, but can't find the women with the character qualities you'd like?

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Pedal_Moonpower 2y ago

Read all top TRP books as you go inc both sidebars.

Use ebook/pdf reader that works perfectly to use in spare time/driving. I had problem to find time proper reading before, now I smash a lot - a lot of books.

It really puts me back in my tracks sometimes [meaning being more sceptic, more grounded etc]

I have reread sidebar 2/3 times, but still find stuff I have missed.

NeoSpartan 2y ago

I'd do what I'm currently doing, since I have pretty much the same attitude towards things as you. Stay away from bars and party type girls and look for ones that are hard to get to date you. Ones that try to get to know your personality and stuff before they agree to meet. If a girl will fuck you after a 15 minute convo, she will fuck any dude who is "hawt", i.e. she won't be faithful and will likely branch swing as soon as soon as she gets bored with you, then maybe come back, then branch swing again.

I've been doing OLD with apps other than tinder and bumble, you get some insight into their personalities and etc. based on how they market themselves. It's more efficient and less work than chatting up randos I think. Girls who are looking for relationships and not just a dick to ride are on hinge and cmb mostly. A few are one bumble, but I fuxing hate bumble. Tinder... is pretty much just sloots, though you might get lucky and find a foreigner who just moved here and doesn't know the score if you live in a high immigration place like I do. I have found 2 on there so far, and dated one of them, she was awesome but it was a short term thing, but that's out of like 100 I've matched with. It's mostly sluts, fat sluts, girls who pretend they aren't sluts but why are you on tinder then? and camgirl advertisements.

It takes longer and is frustrating, but hopefully will be worth it. At least these girls are able to contribute to the conversation, which is quite nice.

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NeoSpartan 2y ago

Yeah it's slow af. You can pay for more though. My stats have been... 10 girls matched that I would consider(HB7-9), and 5 matched accidentally over about 2 months swiping maybe 2-3 days a week. Went out with 2 of em. 1 I got number and made plans for but she got injured being stupid and I got tired of texting a girl I would have to wait weeks to meet.

But no, you get somewhere between 11 and 21 per day as a free user. Not sure how it works, but I do know that a lot of the profiles are inactive so it's more like you get 5 swipes a day. On Hinge you get 8. Both are much slower but.. for me I'm looking for LTR potential pretty much exclusively so those have been my primary source for dates, that's where the girls who are higher quality are. OkCupid also sort of works but it's very very flawed. You do get a shitton of swipes though, but, It's a very eclectic mix of girls on there.

drdontgiveaf 2y ago

I am not in the US and we have a different selection of apps. You can absolutely tell who the apps target based on the audience. I have to say, the most girls that fucked on the first night came from tinder. lol...

NeoSpartan 2y ago

What country are you living in? But yeah tinder is getting worse as far as reputation goes, probably not just in the US. Definitely a short term relationship geared app almost exclusively at this point. I remember using it for a tiny bit in like 2017 though, much different selection of girls then. Now the types I'm getting are... for example one I just added to snapchat last night just messaged me "hey" an hour ago and she's been posting snaps of her slapping her buttcheeks in a thong on her bed. It's pretty bad.

What's most depressing to me though is how many matches I got in comparison to other apps that I've been using for much longer. Something like 80 in 5 days... only really 20 viable ones(blind swiped) but still... 5 days :/ On the two relationship geared apps I'm using I've only gotten like 30-40 in 3 months :( Modern women are such hoes... the majority of them.

Tooktheredpill 2y ago

I stop dating, do things I like to do and live my life. If I come across a cool chick, that’s great. If not, then that’s cool too.

I got burnt out a few years back and ended up meeting a very cool woman. I understand AWALT very well and she operates on my program.

It’s ok to not date and bang randos OP. It’ll reboot you as a man.

Good luck brother and take it easy on yourself.

chickengod 2y ago

Man I wish "easy it is to get" applied to me

drdontgiveaf 2y ago

Develop ambitious goals and put in work. I have years and years of work and still I am not where I want to be.

whytehorse2021 2y ago

You go at it with the purpose of getting married and having kids. I literally picked up my wife with this line: Hey, you wanna run away together, get married, and have a bunch of kids? Just ask every woman you meet that question and then vet all the ones that say yes. Don't waste time on the ones that answer "maybe some day" or "I'm just dating right now" or "for the right guy maybe".

Cast a net far and wide. We have global access to billions of women. Most modern women want to date forever or wait until their SMV plummets to be a wife and mother. So just exclude them and find the women who want LTRs and families.