I didn’t know her much but it feels like I lost someone special and I’ll never find somebody else as good as her.
I’m in a 7 year dry spell so maybe I’m influenced and blinded by that and I overestimate her « value » and put her on a pedestal. But right now it feels like whoever I may end up being with in the future won’t be as good as her.
I feel like I wasted my one and only chance. I have trouble sleeping at night. I cry every day. I don’t know what to do.
Am I wrong in my assessment that I will never find someone else as good or better than her ? What can I do to move on ?
Tl;dr : I got rejected by a girl I found to be exceptional and one of a kind. I have trouble dealing with it. Help ?
pofkaf about a year ago
You will find somebody who is at least 10x hotter and more feminine than her. Guaranteed.
Trust me man. She isn't special. Have you read the sidebar? AWALT is the truest concept ever. She would've dumped your sorry ass in a heartbeat if Chad Thundercock hit her up.
Here's how you get over her. Stop crying like a bitch. Lift. Lift some more. Make money. Fuck other women. Lift.
Redasshole about a year ago
She was the most feminine looking girl I've ever met. She was very pretty. Do you still think I'll find someone more or at least as feminine as her ?
I've read the sidebar but it was years ago, maybe it's worth a read again. I would lift but I'm too depressed to do it. Maybe I need to suck it up and do it anyway.
ash00000 about a year ago
being someone who puts people I date on a pedestal I will tell you to give it some time, if you still think she is THE BEST woman out there in 2-3 months then I will believe you, but right now you are in the infatuation phase. Give it some time. I cant tell you the amount of people I thought were the most attractive person in the planet to only once the infatuation phase ended thinking wtf was I thinking lol
Vermillion-Rx Moderator about a year ago
I don't mean any of this in an offensive way, but if this is your starting point you need to hear some hard truths
You admit you barely know her. This goes beyond putting her on a pedestal, this is fantasy thinking. I garandamn-tee she does things with guys that would instantly shatter this perception
She's not special
There is a reason for that, you're putting too much value in women, and in all likelihood, mediocre pussy you need to be on your purpose and a lot of the rest will sort itself out
Because you're over-valuing the hell out of her. You didn't even know her that well, and I assume have never even kissed her. How would you know how great she is, you've barely gotten close
You didn't waste your chance, you never had one to begin with. If she had been interested she would have made it easy for you
Stop being a bitch. The first thing you could do is start having self-respect and developing more personal value instead of what you're doing now.
Cry when your dog dies or you get laid off from your job. This girl isn't worth tears
Yes. Develop value. Read the sidebar, you're missing some basic fundamentals of TRP
mattyanon Moderator about a year ago
ok, this is oneitis and overinvestment in This One Special GIrl.
Fact is that investment fucks you over: girls don't want to data a solid beta or a friend or someone who feels like a brother. "Friends First" is a terrible dating strategy that is only designed to get more support for women.
Oh boy...... you're 30....... this is your prime dating time of life.
This was not your one and only chance. This chance didn't even exist - but fuck tonnes of other ones do.
What you do is you start seeing other women. I know this isn't easy because "one special girl", but giving other girls a chance and trying to bed them, and then finding the special ones from the ones you are already fucking is the best way to find really great girls who actually want to fuck you.
I know that's a big shift, and I know this One Special Girl feels super special, but there are tonnes of other girls out there.
You may also suffer from low self esteem - only wanting girls who don't want you. I can't fully tell you how to fix that, but focusing on yourself and building yourself back into an awesome human being is a good start.
YES. Totally wrong.
Here's another factor: she's like a celebrity. She may be totally fucking amazing. But it doesn't matter because she is not accessible to you in a dating capacity. Work harder on being attractive rather than "being friends and hoping" with girls. Being friends is EASY. And some girls, some times, will completely lead you on and pretend it's "going somewhere" when it isn't.
The result of this "make him feel like it's going somewhere" is that the guy feels he had a chance and then he feels like it's him who fucked up when it goes nowhere. Sorry to tell you this, but the girl was misleading you in order to secure your attention, support and/or resources.
Quit being friends first, ditch women who you have spent 20 hours in their company without sex, quit dreaming, start actually DATING. It's hard and it's unknown and it's scary, but you can do it and it works.
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