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Sam_I_Am

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I'll try to keep this as to the point as possible.

About Me -23 years old -Consuming RedPill content since 2019. (Gone through the phases of RedPill rage and acceptance). -Just graduated from University working a full-time job + part-time on the weekends (60-70 hours a week) -South Asian Cultural Background

The Situation -Started seeing a female in July -Played to the BOOK in terms of dating strategy -Never compliment her -Never be too available (see her once every two/three weeks) -Low budget dates -Masculine frame maintained the best I could -Minimal contact outside of in person dates -Kept her interested by making her invest her time. (She will ALWAYS travel 2 cities to see me EVERY TIME).

The Results -She initiated contact 70%-80% of the time. -She brought up the “what are we?” conversation first (to which I said I’d talk about later). -Very feminine natured – Never argued or complained -Took her virginity -I get showered with compliments over my physique and work ethic (I’m also pretty lean, fit, 6’1).

The issue I don’t know where I broke frame, or what I did to fuck the situation up. The only mistake I remember making was agreeing to be exclusive.

Fast forward to a while ago, she didn’t text me for 2 full weeks. I obviously know how to deal with pull backs, so I pulled back harder, and she texted me first to check in on me. However lately, she’s been pulling back a lot more, replying to my texts late (where previously I’d always reply a day or two late and she’d reply within a few hours).

I know for a fact she’s not even 10% as busy as me. She’s still in school (fully from home) and only works 8 hours a week, so she’s playing games. How do I get her to submit, or “punish her” for this behavior?

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Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago

She will ALWAYS travel 2 cities to see me EVERY TIME).

Could be a factor, maybe she has shit going on in her life now or met someone of comparable smv who lives closer. That's a lot of drive time

Took her virginity

Assuming this is true, she's never gotten to ride the carousel. not unusual for women with a notch count of one to crave a second dick

The only mistake I remember making was agreeing to be exclusive.

So are you in a relationship or no? Just agreeing to not fuck anyone else without any real committment or is this an official relationship?

I mean it's possible she realized you're now not fucking anyone else. There's no mystery or competition factor like before that

Played to the BOOK

Might or might not have anything to do with you specifically, I see a number of things in your post that would greatly influenced any girls long-term decision making that specifically have to do with her

Sam_I_Am 2y ago

So the reason why I mentioned culture earlier was that she's from the same background. Her parents have her on full lockdown. She leaves the house (outside of for work) once a week at max which is why I know she's just playing games. (However you're right she could be talking to other people on Instagram, I personally don't have social media so I wouldn't even know).

It's not an official relationship.

Also, I guess you're right, with girls it's always about the next high, I'm sure she wouldn't go the rest of her life happy with 1 dick. Goes back to the whole "she's not yours it's just your turn" philosophy.

I appreciate the reply.

Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago

No problem man

Guyandtheroadtovictory 2y ago

You cant GET a girl to submit - you can get yourself to submit to yourself and your values - not to be stepped over like a rat in the cage.
Why you should punish someone in the first place? Its not the dude who fckd you in the butt and now youre taking a revenge or a girl who poked finger in your butt and now you are thinking how to punish her. - for fck sake - books are great, but it should change your mindset not to date with a checklist of rules, running to wc, every fckin time when a checkpoint is done. Authentic self is more important, understanding the nature of man, of women, how society rules etc.
Have you considered that she has orbiters? Even you dont see them, it does not mean they are not there - I am not saying this for the purpose of to scare you but to understand of the mindset - you are the master of your life and if you are not in the LTR -> why you should not date with others as well?
You dont brake a frame, your mindset told you :""Consider oneitis". There are stories about pick up artists who learned the game, but when LTR came upon - destroyed their lifes (physically, emotionally and spiritually) - why? Because pick up teaches us about behavior patterns, but not about who we and who we are are talking to/willing to buss deep inside whit nuts only hanging out - be aware.

I hope your feelings will be in balance, because this poop almost destroyed my life.

Be strong,

mattyanon Admin 2y ago

The issue I don’t know where I broke frame, or what I did to fuck the situation up. The only mistake I remember making was agreeing to be exclusive.

And that's the big fuck up. Exclusive puts you into the beta/boyfriend category. You stop gaming other women, you focus on her, you care more about her thoughts about you, you're in a fundamentally weak position.

so she’s playing games. How do I get her to submit, or “punish her” for this behavior?

Let her do as she wants..... meanwhile...... SEE OTHER WOMEN. This will sort your head out.

Sam_I_Am 2y ago

I have 3 other women interested, however, none of them are as attractive as her. Guess I have gotta get back out there and keep looking. I think the scarcity mindset is really fucking with me. I appreciate the advice.