How do you guys deal with grinding for a better life versus partying, having fun and getting laid? By grinding I mean working long hours, and/or two jobs, consistent working out, self improvement, working on skills etc to setup a better life for the future. On the other side(what I see everyday) is partying, college lifestyle, constant socializing, going out 3+ times a week, constant effort to get laid, etc. I'm 23 now and I feel a bit jealous when I see this, I've never really had the chance to experience that lifestyle because I have been working since 16 and dealt with serious depression issues in my late teen years. Right now I'm working two jobs, 1 full-time and don't go out much or make any effort to pursue women, everyday I feel FOMO because I know I'll never get my early years back but at the same time I know I need to work to get better things in life and the faster I do this the faster I'll have success in all aspects of life. What are your thoughts
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whytehorse2021 2y ago
You're not missing much. Be sure to do something you enjoy at least once a week. I think I would've been a lot happier and better off financially if I had skipped all the partying and going out. It would've been cheaper to hire a prositute.
supreemkingkai 2y ago
And that’s my concern, I know it’ll be much harder if I try later versus putting work in while I’m younger
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Yeah there's actually research showing the leaps and bounds you make by being conscientious and it goes exponential. You may be a few hundred dollars ahead of your peers but then that becomes thousands, tens of thousands, etc.
thermodynamic 2y ago
work smarter. find better paying jobs that take less time. on the newlyfound free time, party it up. seriously most people's work is actually a waste of time. if your working for minimum wage or slightly higher, your time would be better spent learning some skill or making the connections that will get you a better job.
Intrepid_Place53900 2y ago
exactly, it's not how hard you work. It's how smart you are with that work.
supreemkingkai 2y ago
I just started an it job a month ago that pays for certifications which I can use to get a raise. Im also pt at a restaurant as a waiter, trying to get in bartending. Between those two jobs I might have half a day free every week.
thermodynamic 2y ago
what are the certifications, is it a good field to be in ? Fuck being a waiter. Get into a good field or start a business. you should look up rich dad poor dad. grind and party my guy
supreemkingkai 2y ago
Internet technology, Id say my job right now is not bad but i don’t love it, and hours suck, I’m staying in it to learn and get certs to make more money because I know this field is going to grow massively in 20 yrs. I’m a waiter because i need to save money and it pays well. Also rich dad is a very simple book, I read it when I was 16 but it did introduce me to investing.
Tooktheredpill 2y ago
Moderation is key.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
When I was in my early 20s I just did a mix of both. Enjoyed it immensely.
supreemkingkai 2y ago
Are you financially successful today?
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Fairly, though I've never cared much about money. High IQ but no desire to purchase status symbol crap. I do jobs I enjoy, salary is important but moreso is work/life balance.
supreemkingkai 2y ago
My goal is 5-10mil by 35 and be able to retire my family.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
That is a very audacious goal. Imo folly though. Even if you achieved it you'd waste a lot of your best years and then be bored for the next 30. The best things in life are inexpensive, girls, friends, family, most hobbies. If you are doing it to get women, most of them seem much more concerned with how fun and attractive you are than how much you earn ime. Oddly enough, it's the ones who were already rich that seemed to be the most concerned with the amount of money a guy makes. At least this has been my experience.
supreemkingkai 2y ago
Girls inexpensive? Eventually she’s going to want a kid- 250k mínimum, family emergency medical bill? 50-100k not sure where you’re located but this is minimum numbers in the US.