Alright, so I'm a [27M] and I've had this ongoing problem for awhile now. But I finally understand the root of it.
So, a little bit of background:
One of the biggest issues I've had as a man with Aspergers Syndrome is EGO. I have a tendency to look down at neurotypicals and I have a huge amount of disdain for their herd mentality. It feeds my ego, knowing that I am more independent minded and am not prone to being easily influenced by the media, especially social media.
I've always cringed when people post selfies and taking group photos of each other. Always replicating behaviors around them and conforming, being part of the masses just make me sick to my stomach. I never could stand normies because of this. Especially Millennials and Zoomers, both of which are generations of people that I've grown to despise the most because they're the most guilty of operating like sheep. Boomers and Xers are far more respectable and likeable in the sense that they do not have such a herd mentality.
I mean honestly, there are moments where I feel like I'm in an RPG and everyone around me is an NPC. People having similar dialogue and personality sets everywhere. These hot girls I see? I can find millions more of them who look and act similar for crying out loud, so what makes them so special beyond their looks anyhow?
I mean, to this day, I despise the notion of dating down because like hell would I ever date down? For the likes of me will not settle and have potential future children who will be a genetic downgrade from me and previous generations in my family due to their mother's genes corrupting them.
All of this gave me the impression that despite being so damned socially awkward and slightly out of shape, I was in a class above them due to my intellect and ability to perceive the world in a different light.
With Autistic people, I've always given them and my fellow Aspies a huge amount of respect because many of them in my experience shared a similar world view as I did with one of them calling Neurotypical people "drones". Again, it made me feel special and that we people with Autism Spectrum Disorder were actually in a higher class.
Now keep in mind, I do not feel this way anymore. At least not as much as I used to. But its prevalent enough to talk about it.
But that's just the tip of the ice burg. Bringing us to the main topic!
In my previous post, I mentioned that I thrive on competition. It's the primary source of my motivation to get ahead in life. I've always been envious of people's success in life and I couldn't stand it that these people, these neurotypicals who were so damn basic and boring in terms of personality, these fucking NPCs managed to get ahead of me.
I realize that there are plenty of neurotypicals who are just as intelligent, if not more intelligent than I am and there are so many people in their late 20s and early 30s who are leaps and bounds ahead of me. For the longest time, I've been unemployed and having to continue grinding through college. I fell behind due to medical issues last decade and now I'm fresh out of college at 26 and going to be 27 this month. So, I feel inferior to people who have a stable income and employment
In order to feel truly confident in myself with a high self-esteem, I need to be on a level > or = most of my peers who have are fit with a high grossing income. Wealth and Status have always been everything to me. I've always been one to compete and dominate over others in a power position. I've always felt the need to become a big shot in the world, to be someone of relevance, to be married to a beautiful woman and having a rich family that would be of high status.
I know, I'm coming off as a big time narcissist, but I swear to you that I'm not. In fact, I am often very empathetic to people and kind. So please tell me, how do I overcome this?
As a Red-Pilled man, I do my best to try to be the best version of me, but my disabilities hamper me greatly.

kamgrove 4y ago
First be open about things that are different from what you typically choose based on your preferences and contempt. https://slopegame3d.com
NoelMG 4y ago
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NeoSpartan 4y ago
lol, you sound like a more psychopathic version of me XD What are your disabilities? I don't get what they are. I don't think autism is actually real tbh, I think it's more of a meme thing and excuse for drug companies to sell shit. And a lot of people dislike social media dude. On the autism thing, bro.. in capitalist west, cigarettes were recommended by doctors until like 40 years ago. Companies can pay to get their products recommended by health organizations in the USA and drug companies have a shitton of money. They don't care about us except for wealth extraction purposes, you probably don't actually have anything wrong with you neurologically.
Maybe calm down a bit on the hating the sheeples thing. I just feel bad for em personally. A lot of the stuff they get tricked into doing is very unhealthy and ultimately just makes them sad from what I've observed.
hannulv 4y ago
Ego will always impair your ability to get what you want, because ego demands that you minimize ego risk. The brains post-hoc rationalization engine often settles on contempt as an ego guarding mechanism. Rather than face the ego-bruise of something you can't do or can't have, contempt allows you to settle into judgement and hatred as way to allow you to put yourself in the best possible light. (i.e. I can't throw a football and make the football team, but that's okay because jocks are retard rapists with bad taste and fashion and I hate them from the core of my being).
Unless you're severely impaired, you can learn to engage socially as well as anyone else, it will just be harder. The most important thing for someone in your position is to embrace openness. Virtually everything in the world is an acquired taste. If lots of people like it, it probably has some likable qualities. Learn to like music you hate, learn to enjoy activities you hate, learn to socialize with people that strike you as unworthy. Eat new foods. Travel. Make some gentle wardrobe upgrades to stuff slightly beyond the bounds you're used to. Pick a slightly different hairstyle. Your brain is entrenched in routines that don't matter. By wrapping your identity in your own tastes and holding others in contempt, you are socially amputating yourself.
Being successful in life (depending on how you define it) requires more than hard skills. It requires social acumen and soft skills. It requires reading people and finessing them. Most people that appear naturally social just learned social techniques at an early age. The top earning scientists are not the ones with the best science ability, they are the ones who know the most people. The value of an ivy league education was never what you learned in class, it was always the social network that came with being part of the institutions, clubs, fraternal orders, secret societies, etc.
First of all, get over yourself, you aren't the amazing person you pretend that you are. The first step in improving, is acknowledging the vast amount of room you have to improve. There are thousands of books and programs that can help you attain social mastery. This is stuff you can learn. Master reading body language. Master conversation techniques. Master approaching people and making friends. Master managing a network of contacts. Master pickup (pick one of the programs and learn and master it.) You probably won't hit your prime for 8 more years and may not come out of it for 18. Make the best of the time you have. I recommend building a map (Male Action Plan) which breaks down all the areas you need to improve and begin a plan to improve it. First be open about things that are different from what you typically choose based on your preferences and contempt. I would start with four areas:
Being in great shape is just another competition. You can approach the gym like another math problem with the end result being that you physically look better than 95% of your peers. Social mastery is another. Stop holding these things in contempt and realize that you're not competing in the areas that matter the most, because you choose the ones that feel safe for you, and hate the rest.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
Well, all you have to do is look at a guy like Donald Trump to realize that you can be an old fat ass narcissist with low intelligence and get elected president and marry a supermodel. You've probably been told all your life "It's not everyone else, it's you". Well, here's your 2nd red pill: It is everyone else. You don't have an ego problem, you just happen to be surrounded by social zealots.
Now that we've identified the real problem, the solution is easy. I already pointed you to my book in your last post so there's that but I'd like to take a step further. Us and neurotypicals are much more alike than unalike. We're a complimentary set of neurotypes that have been around for more than 100,000 years. Evolutionarily speaking, autists are the look-outs for the species/tribe/family. We're the people who aren't subject to group-think and social programming. We now have to adapt to this "autism is a disorder" group think by using science to reverse engineer social dynamics and socialize like neurotypicals.
Once you have the source code for this socializing ritual, which is laid out in my book, you gain a serious advantage over neurotypicals much in the same way you have over women by learning red pill.