I am very confused about this situation. I have been with this girl for over 10 months now she is not my girlfriend but we do everything that youd do in LTR.
So over the past month now or so, she has been telling me " i love you " way more and more and constantly texting me, about 7+ times daily and saying she misses me etc. I dont show her too much affection or give her a lot of attention when were not together but when we meet up usually we spend 2-3 days a week together then i take a week off. 2 weeks on 1 week off, i show her a good amount of affection and i give her a good time. She likes it and i like it too, we have a great connection together.
However, im really confused about this constant affection... Its not that i dont like it, i just think its too much a little and it seems like love bombing? or maybe im stupid? She hasnt been like this before only recently.. maybe its because i always keep my frame and i do play quite a bit of dread on her but id like to get some opinions please.
unplugged69 2y ago
Interestingly women only really operate on oneitis, but they can change their oneitis pretty quickly. This is generally how a woman who's into you would behave, she'd do anything to meet you, do anything for you, shower you with affection and attention and demand little back, this is what we should all be seeking and slowly gravitating away from the women who aren't FUCK YES about you.
How is this different from love bombing? well love bombing happens too early in the relationship, often so early you'll think it's creepy and often she can't keep it up long enough to hide her BPD behaviour.
Just remember when a woman says "I love you", you need to add "right now" in your head to complete the sentence. A lot of guys get fucked because they don't do this, they meet a woman like this and marry her, give up their dreams for her and then they are shocked when she does not care for them anymore. Enjoy the ride and try not to fall into that trap!
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Women get oneitis too. Once they think you're their hypergamous best option, they fall in love and make you their world. My wife is always at the ready to do anything I ask.
Amazonforest 2y ago
Okay, i think its oneitis . So youre saying this is a good thing and i should worry about it?
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Yeah, no worries.
RacksVictorious 2y ago
Good, why are you worrying dude.
Amazonforest 2y ago
I meant to say not worry about it. I'm worried because i thought it was love bombing and we all know how that goes..