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breyes4

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Hey guys so my gf (20 years old) left late August to study abroad in South Korea, its been a little less under 2 weeks and I am starting to have some differing thoughts about it...

She will come back around mid December and I am wondering if you guys think it is a good idea to wait it out, since it is only around 4 months or just end it in good terms. I am not really sure what to do, I love her a lot and have a high sense of respect towards her but I am wondering if this LDR thing will put our relationship in jeopardy and I am kind of afraid of what will happen when she is out on the bars. I am not too sure if this is a red flag but she seems overly excited to go out to bars and get drunk, and says she cannot wait to make new "friends". Am I looking too much into this or are my worries reasonable?

There was also an incident awhile ago when we were not official when she went on a date with some dude on Tinder and stated that if it was not for the fact that he didn't want to, then they would have had sex. She said this happened bc I would take longer to respond to her replies and thought I was losing interest, she didn't mention this until later now that we are official.

Is this something to worry about?

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Guyandtheroadtovictory 2y ago

wondering if you guys think it is a good idea to wait it out, since it is only around 4 months or just end it in good terms.

Never, ever I heard from acquaintances even that this somehow worked. Unicorns exist, but that "theme" is nonsense. Girl should follow you, if not, it is not the right person for you. If she follows "her dreams", plate material, period. It will be far worse and waiting always ends, as Richard Cooper says, with standard, boring missionary.

I suggest movie "Up in the Air ", great example for the mindset.

but she seems overly excited to go out to bars and get drunk

OF COURSE. Who would not? Peak of roller-coaster period and "some LTR guy is slowing down "the fun"."

bc I would take longer to respond to her replies and thought I was losing interest

Do not, please, take other people destructive behavior to "because I was.. " stage. Been there, done that - results, you only are comforting yourself from the truth and you really believe she did not ride the bull? (it does not matter, anyways). Women nature is hypergamy, and "becauses" can be found always.

I suggest movie "Hangover", remember Stju character?

Even your gut is telling to GTFO ASAP (little less under 2 weeks and I am starting to have some differing thoughts) - NEXT her and get a women who appreciate you and your mission!

breyes4 2y ago

Dropped her man! It was worth it, totally feel more relieved now

Guyandtheroadtovictory 2y ago

Feel great that you appreciate yourself and your value! Be strong my friend and follow your dreams! Women come and women go, but your life is already started, every day counts. All people not only see a man in his mission, but feel that. It is the passion and energy in eyes. Feel that spark. Lets make a difference!

whytehorse2021 2y ago

When I go to Asia I go way up in SMV for having blue eyes, white skin, and 6ft tall. Imagine going from a 6 to a 9 instantly. As an American I'm presumed to be rich and as a teacher I had status. Looks, money, status. I'd have to see your GF but if she's white and not fat she'll be a 9 or 10 there. Most of the women I met abroad were looking for Chads. We call them Bali Cowboys in Bali. I'm sure Korea has their version. Hawt tall guy that mooches off Western women.

Also when I studied abroad my #1 priority was to have sex with as many hot Russian women as I had time for. Honestly, just break up and spin plates rather than be her emotional tampon and financial back up plan. When she comes back an alpha widow you can put her on rotation.