I cheated, she found out. How do i get her back? | TheRedPill

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mosd

Posted 2y ago in Off Topic - Permalink - Locked - 464 Views

I read a while back, the best way to get a girl back after cheating on her is to ignore her. it's kinda a dark tactic but if you go quiet on her and don't apologize she will feel the other girl stole you away from her which will, in a twisted way, will raise her attraction for you. she'll still be hurt and angry but she'll likely chase you at some point if you hold your ground and don't chase/apologize.

Virtual_Hall8986 2y ago

Let me ask you - do you give a fuck?

mosd 2y ago

let me ask you - about what?

Tribdz 2y ago

Let her bitch moan and cry and never apologize or show weakness. If you apologize youre esentially saying that you fear losing her. You should show her that shes replacable thats the only thing women respect. Dont pursue her just let her walk and wait for her to hit you up and when she hits you up blame it on her and say you werent satisfied sexually and get the upper hand with that

mosd 2y ago

isnt that a bitch move?

Growing 2y ago

@Tribdz is right

mosd 2y ago

she did hit me up... called me outta nowhere. We broke up last week and she hit me up and want to get together and talk...

Tribdz 2y ago

Do what I said boss, blame it on her and dont apologize or show weakness

SheLarror1234 2y ago

Lets pretend you have the same values as me ~ You fucked up not because you cheated but because you didn't let your LTR know you had plates. You cheated yourself, instead of setting the rules that favored your nature you created restrictions then overstepped it yourself. Only do LTR if you have 101% authority and picked a women based on your preference. Your able to have multiple wives/concubines if needed, not her. You must realize, we are NOT on a equal playing field. Look at the power of women as a sex, and media. Look at all unbalanced benefits they get that we don't. The least you can do for LTRs, is make sure its in your favor. If not, plate.

This is the only way you should go about it imo. Let her know that you strongly believe in a more traditional approach to relationships and tell her how it is. If she really loves you she will go for it. Plus the unusual approach is more interesting anyways. This shit is about to sound funny but i would seriously say this;

"I should have been honest about our relationship, and how i feel about our future. I have very strong views on a more traditional way of living. I love you, but as a man of my household, they are some things that i am inclined to do, biologically. These are my rules. I must be treated as a king, and require exclusivity from you. But as such, am also in need to comfort and companion with others, as it is my duty. I hope you can understand that I still love you the same. And as a matter of course, even though this type relationship may be new to you, it is not without benefit. I am sorry/Sorry------ etc etc."

Something like this would be appropriate. No need to play all of the games with a girl who loves you for who you are.. I think this is the core of redpill. I also dont think you regret your action. Because if you did, you would not be trying to "not give her your power" If you truly regretted it you would be on your fucking knees repenting to her. Its not your fault though. So much toxic masculinity shit goes on that men simply cant be man anymore. Its harder nowadays to really say how you feel and act accordingly. This is why its important to start on this type of strength. If a girl sees you as a beta, saying some shit like that to her would be an insult. But either way, you will lose if she sees you as a beta. So think of it as a shit test to her from you. And if you have a strong frame, you win. And shit, even if she laughs at that shit i bet you she will still be highly interested in you just based on your beliefs alone. This is also the also the reason "alphas/assholes" take the W.

mosd 2y ago

i do agree on some points but i do regret it. And not going down on my knees and pleading is not going to help me nor her.

And im not exactly sure i want to be with other girls to be honest, right now. And not sure how to raise this whole traditional thingy. im 100% she is not going to agree.

SheLarror1234 2y ago

I mean, the subject is up to you. The deed is done. Why say sorry? Saying sorry wont change what was already done. Emotional control. I was assuming you want her back as a plate or something. And its never about whether she agrees or not. Is all about staying true to you. How do you really feel about the situation? You said that you are sorry, but wont really just go out and say it due to your viewpoints.

I was simply suggesting a viewpoint that I thought may align with your best interest. Like said, its prob best to cut it off completely, than to apologize for no real reason. Unless you have something to say, its best to not really say anything at all tbh. Since you are in the wrong according to you, just hold the shame and keep it pushing or say sorry without worrying about implications. If someone steals your car then decides to suddenly give it back will you still show hostility? Probably. Regardless of what you do, she will still be mad as shit and not agree with you.

mosd 2y ago

totally agree with you. And valid and fair points my man.

But how would one go about to get her back? To get her to forgive and accept? If i want the LTR to continue?

SheLarror1234 2y ago

Man read the posts

DDS2826 2y ago

Man I cheated on an ex LTR, the difference is she didn't find out.

Some of the advice on here I don't agree with.

Ask yourself these three questions

Does she really know everything?
Will she be able to whole heartedly forgive you?
Can you live with the consequences of her never being able to fully trust you?

I broke the trust in my former LTR. I decided it was better to leave and she never find out than tell her and let it affect her in ways it be hard if not impossible to come back from.

If you cheated and YOU defined the rules of the LTR as exclusive, then you fucked up man.

My advice is something I had to do and it was so incredibly hard but next her.

I had a submissive HB7. I was her first LTR and first fuck. I still had to next her.

There will always be issues, yes in an LTR she needs to fear losing you, but there's a line and you crossed it.

You've got to next and move on.

mosd 2y ago

Thanks for reaching out bro.

She does know alot, she looked through my phone when i was out of town. I dont know how much she knows but she knows alot.
Im not sure if she will be able to forgive me, hard to know.
Cant trust be built up again?

What are the advice you dont agree on?

And why did you have to next her if she didnt know? I dont get that.

DDS2826 2y ago

Forgiving after cheating imho is wishful thinking.

I don't agree on guys saying: "let me cry and moan" or another bashful comments.

We all have different purposes for participating in TRP, I however do not respect or participate in any bashing of women. I am not a white night I just find it unproductive.

For me personally my ultimate goal for dating is to enter an exclusive LTR and create a family, I want to plant my seed and feel that an exclusive LTR will do the most for me, my goals and what I want out of life.

I had to next her because of those reasons.

Its a calculated risk, by all means stay with her if you feel you will have no future problems. If she is checking your phone. Trust is gone.

My issue was that if I continue in an LTR with this girl, there's the risk she will exit the relationship down the line and resurrect past resentment from me cheating, if we were to cohabitate or get married (currently unsure if I ever will), it depends on what country I am in and she were to decide that she can't get over it or she tried for so long and still can't I run the possibility of divorce-rape, or being separated from my kids and some beta provider white knight motherfucker coming along and living with MY KIDS.

Possibility of my kids finding out, resenting me, forming daddy issues etc.

When passing on values to my kids, especially sons and saying they should be loyal, never cheat etc I am a hypocrite because I cheated on THEIR MOTHER.

I analyzed the risk, the future ramifactions etc and me fucking up my kids, being a hypocritical father, getting divorce raped, my kids being raised by an incompetent man is just not worth it for ONE WOMAN, who can be replaced if you look hard enough.

Do what you will this is just my perspective.

One of Rollo's iron rules:

It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship

mosd 2y ago

"It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship" this one hit hard...

Is trust gone once its broken? I always thought that you can fix things. Sure its going to take some time and work but surely sooner or later her and my trust for her should go back up again?

DDS2826 2y ago

Hit me hard too man its been 6 months and I am still coming to terms with it. Imho it's wishful thinking but maybe there's no harm in trying for a while and your gut will tell you what to do.