How I got nexted by my "friends"
Tldr: A short tutorial for fucking up your social life in the matrix.
(sorry for shitty formatting im on mobile)
Beginnings
Lets call my (ex)LTR Kim, and this new girl Ann.
I feel the relationship slide, so I break ties with Kim ~6 weeks ago. My friend group remotely knows Kim. (gonna be important later)
I meet Ann shortly after, we vibin a lot, but she has my blue pill buddy: Todd in friendzone. (in the last 2 years!). Ann likes me a lot so she joins our friend group on weekends,cause she cant stop being in my presence.
The climax In the upcoming weeks we go on dates, kiss, almost fuck. Kim also tries to "fix" things so I fuck her a couple times and we are back together in her head. A lot of my friends text Kim a couple times behind my back.
Fast forward to yesterday, my "friend" Todd tells Ann she needs to hear something, and they call another nice guy friend of mine and Kim on phone. In a nice little 4some phone call, they make the girls confess to each other about what they both done with me.
Both are furious. My friend group heads to Ann's house to "comfort" her, they talk shit about me all night (even tho they are my friends and they used to adore me).
And Todd throws me out of our group chat. Nobody bothered to message me, and I of course wont write a single word to them.
During these encounters nobody talks to me, I dont know whats happening, and I get this realization out of the blue. Later Kim tells me everything.
Takeaways and aftermath
I LIFT look GREAT and developed a LOT mentally in the last 2 years.
Im sure my blue pill, overweight friend group did not like that im better than them, and felt the need to fuck me over.
Todd obviously did this because he had a massive crush on this girl in the last 2 years. I guess he hopes now he can comfort and finally kiss her.
I have lost 2 girls and about 10 friends in the process(maybe more). I genuinely enjoyed our weekends together.
I guess they were not my friends.
Its time to cut my losses and find new people to build my tribe with.
Any comments?
yomanthatsfunky 2y ago
This makes me think of a couple of things. That whole don't shit where you eat thing comes to mind.
I watched a couple of my buddies try and navigate the blue pill world being red pilled with about as much success as your doing here. Its a lesson.
I think it comes down to your MO and how well these girls know you and what they expect from you. If the other girls in your friend group saw you as a player before and it was genuinely understood that this is what you do I don't think this would of blown up in your face. It could of still but they'd of been like oh thats Billy for you...
Ya Todd is bp and will swing for the other team every chance he gets. I wouldn't consider Todd or anyone on the phone talking bad about you as a "friend". Your plates got two close and both broke? Maybe you didn't loose Kim? Some other girl that saw this is going to be turned on that both these girls were digging you. This will for sure change the dynamic in the group if this happens and your MO.
I don't typically like to introduce girls to my friend groups. I don't like the networking that girls do. I think its mischievous on their part. The next thing you know there facebook friends with your friends and shit like this can happen.
There probably all upset because you were seeing two girls and the girls found out. You let Kim get to close. Ann was too close. Like the whole parable of Daedalus and Icarus. I mean I'd still act like you did nothing wrong because it sounds like you weren't in a relationship with either of them just they all met each other. Sinfield has that episode about worlds colliding.
If your going to pursue Ann within a friend group you got to have everything looking and being just right. Especially when you have guys in waiting(bp friends suck sometimes). I kind of wonder if Kim found out about Ann.
I've walked away from girls that wanted to jump me because they were apart of my friend group. They knew one of my close friends or they were to close in my life. I don't play this drama game well I aint about loose a friend over some sex.
The bp guys think there right here, Kim and Ann were probably seeing other dudes, Kim thinks she won you back now and your missing out on the weekends with your so called friends. Ann doesnt want Todd and if they do marry shes divorcing him.
Maybe its salvageable to get the friend group back. Time will tell.