I'm asking for a good friend of mine. His Girlfriend (3months Relationship) is sometimes thinking about her abusive Ex. She didn't tell him about that, He knows that from me. We both are Redpill aware, but it seems like she keeps thinking about her past toxic relationship, which was 2years ago. I don't know in what way toxic it was, but she is trying to find ways to forget her ex, talking about improving her self-esteem and that her self-esteem is currently good, her words. Yeah I know, it contradicts. It is really hard to tell what's going on because they both have Sex very often and she also buys gifts for him but still thinks about her ex. Any tips?
edit: also said that she has this self esteem issues when she is only with men's. assuming daddy issues?
Guyandtheroadtovictory 2y ago
Exes - emotional bond, also could be daddy issues due to choosing abusive partners. Or, it is the mentioned in the comment section hamster? Self esteem issues - could be daddy issues, could be attention seeking tendencies. Red flag, anyway.
3 months ltr, but how long they know each other?
Doubleaxe90 2y ago
Trauma bond, unresolved mental issues or she was the abuser and just projecting. One can't really know with the hamster.
The thing is 3 months is to short for LTR vetting and some may consider this "signs" red flags.
I had women like this, tried to complain about the abusive ex and i did cut that out from the start with "What makes you think i want to know?". Now she probably tells the next guy about how abusive i was.
Who gives a fuck? don't try to be the shrink.
RonSwansonsPyramidofGreatness 2y ago
tips? no, not really.
Here's whats going to happen though - she's going to go fuck her ex at some point.
Take it to the bank. She's a lost cause - accept it - she's not yours, its just your turn.