Enjoy The Journey -iatepussy

this is the shit that should be on r/getmotivated

Some of you reading here may be more like me. The journey to becoming a redpill dude feels much much longer than it should be. I have a million and one excuses of course- the issues is not that. Its that my road to becoming a true man is a long ass one because I was really lost.

So take actual stock of your life. Live in reality. My reality was that I was fat, very unhappy, my wife was running my life, my kids took the rest, I had no hope for a fun/exciting life etc etc etc. All roads pointed to a long and sucky rest of my life.

So I did what is said here. hit the gym (it fucking helps), etc etc. BUT what I have worked the hardest on is the internal self. The me that is unseen. The parts that do not have a drastic difference on the outside. That most people I have known a while don't exactly notice. I am a much strong person now. Mentally, emotionally, socially, and physically. I may still have my lovely gut but I have manly posture now, I am a strong as a truck, and am progressing nicely in Muay Thai (highly recommend).

But when I really notice the changes is when I meet someone brand new. Usually for work. Their respect level for me is way higher than I ever imagined. I am in sales. New customers I met in the last 6-9 months have a much higher respect for me than those I met a few years ago. New friends treat me like a man. Old friends- some do some don't.

And the changes in my wife are astronomical.

The problem is- my life still sucks for the most part. I work my ass off everyday at a Job that is just okay. Rarely do I find my wife interesting and fun to be with. My kids take up a shitton of my time and energy. My life is still not my own.

But the difference in 9 months is astounding. I have re-prioritized, hit the gym, and gotten my inner self straightened out.

The long hard road of work sucks. This is not an overnight sensation type life. Sure, if you are 17, slightly in shape, and no real responsibilities. If you hit the gym for a month, stand up straight, and start talking to women- you will probably hit the jackpot. If you are like me- over 30 with wife, kids, career, and long decade or so of bad habits, relationships, and issues... it takes time.

When I am alone. When I have a few minutes of peace. To take stock and think about who I am... I KNOW I am 10x the man I used to be. In another year or three... who knows.

So those of you reading this site to see what its about... maybe you have a sexless marriage, youre fat, and your life sucks. Hit the gym and start working on your inner self. When you do bulk up a bit, lose some weight, fix your posture, your inner self will be miles ahead of what you look like on the outside.

Then when you hit 45/50 and your wife drops your ass for who knows why (like it happened to my friend just this past month)- you will realize your life is on the up and up while your STBX is at her end. Its crazy to see the joy that comes of that. To know your life, as a man, will continue to mature year after year after year.

The redpill isnt exactly about banging hot chicks (a by product many here enjoy- and us married dudes kinda wish we knew when we were younger hah). it is about becoming a man. When you start on that road- the world opens up and you realize you are an alpha male.

Let me tell you something you already know

Guys always ask me how I bang hot chicks. I genuinely tried to help them. But no one wanted to do the work. They would always ask me to hook them up with their friend. I told them it doesn't work that way.

And there is no way I'm going to screw up my game by having these slack jawed faggots embarrass me and ruin my reputation.

This is the first thing newcomers should read.

That said if there is a more efficient, productive, or a quicker way then it's not "magic" but it's definitely a good tip. I don't see anything wrong with wanting the best advice.

A man is a sum of correct habits.

This pales to other ideas. Some think message boards contain magic which will instantly turn one into a success. Others think special spirits will jump out after taking TRP and lead you to endless sex. But this is bullshit. Even if you had every mental formula and idea ingrained in your head, you still won't be successful with women or anything.

Look at you! A plop of flesh sitting in a chair! How do you get from there to with the chicks?

"I will take a deep breath, go out with all confidence, and get the chick!"

This is blitzkrieg. It might work but you're still a loose cannon. Confidence is comfortableness. Don't try to force yourself to something that seems entirely alien to you. You'll never be comfortable with it.

Alter your habits and so you alter your life. Make it a HABIT to talk to girls. Make it a HABIT to be social. Make it a HABIT to hit the gym. Make it a HABIT to fuck HB9s! Make it a HABIT to be the man you want to be!

"How did you bang a HB9? What did you do? How did it feel afterwards?"

The same as all the others.

"When you look at people who are successful, you will find that they aren't the people who are motivated, but have consistency in their motivation." -Arsene Wenger

I don't often have much to offer TRP discussions but you are spot on. I too won my divorce and people ask me how I did it. I was stronger mentally and persevered. I never gave up and she won. People ask my how a man got primary custody of my daughter. I'm worked hard and am the better parent. People ask me how I got a nice house. I saved, worked hard and remodeled my house. People ask my how I started my business. Right place at the right time but I saw an opportunity and I work hard at it ever day. People Ask me how I have 2 girlfriends. That's a little more red pill, but it's not giving into their demands, managing my time and it takes work. You are so right.

I do love reading reminders in this group. Every day I am reminded that to attain my goals in life I need to stop slacking off, hit the gym more and work harder. People think I am successful but I believe that I am not successful enough

Thanks for the post U/RedPope. I did gleam one gem out of it on the condo rentals. I've never considered that but I am going to look into that

With determination, hard work, and a bit of luck, you might beat the odds. Maybe. That's as good as it gets.

Funny how this is true for everything in life.

It's so simple it feels like a "hack" because no one else does it. Or they don't want to put in the work. I'll be honest I have set backs or make an excuse then I step back and realize why I'm doing what im doing.

Good post Sir

Common sense is not so common.

This is why most women want to fuck the same few men

truth. there might be magic pills for illnesses or limp dicks etc, but there's no magic pill for any kind of relationships. oh well, there's the pill of making yourself better and that's it.

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A well considered dose of reality.

That said there is still a strong role for case studies and anecdotal evidence. Unfortunately people are more likely to believe a personal story than impersonal figures.

Hitting it out of the park again redpope. Recently I had a major set back in starting my own company. I need a silly license for something that comes naturally to me and that license is an easy 4 years away. Still the ground work has been laid and if I want it bad enough I will keep going and make it happen. Or I could give up and just keep the 9 to 5.

Yeah... Fuck that. It's all our nothing at this point.

Did the op delete his real estate post or was it a mod?

U want a magic pill...a creed...sage advice to change your entire life for the better??? Here it is- STOP JERKING OFF!!! Its amazing how you will seek out gratification from hard work and relationships when u stop instant sexual gratification.

Do nothing, nothing happens

Do things, things happen

This has been made into a movie called kung fu panda.

On a series note, wonderful post.

Why does every single successful TRP advice post have "hit the gym" somewhere in it?

Desire without expectation and you will not be disappointed. Take joy in your actions; act and you will be happy.

TRP's solutions are mundane: Stop believing in fairy tales, hit the gym, dress better, and learn how to behave in social situations. Women want attractive, confident, masculine men. Stop making excuses and become the type of man they want.

They may be mundane but they sometimes have the immediate impact that if done right feels like magic. This may be the reason why some guys here are excited about the results and post it, then others reading it thought it must be magic. Nope its you working on yourself to be the man women want.

Also, as a corollary, I'd like to add whenever anyone says you can have something "quick", "fast", or "easy" that person is trying to sell you something.