This was originally going to be a reply to a post about porn that was on here today, but it was really long so I figured I'd make my own post about it.
First off, thank you for making this post. This issue is not discussed nearly enough on this subreddit, let alone in society. I used to jerk it 3 or 4 times a day, for at least an hour in each session. Throughout the years I have unknowingly numbed my emotions and energy, all because I just needed to see Jynx Maze suck a dick.
I would stay up late, in search of the perfect video or maybe, just maybe, that one girl will ask to have sex with me. I would get out of bed late, all because I absolutely needed to see that one video of Riley Reid. It would make me late to work, all because that rabbit hole of porn is just so expansive. It would distract me from all the problems I had, the emotions I did not want to process, and just offer me an escape from reality. It offered me a syringe of good ol' dopamine, so I can forget all the trauma I have experienced in my life. It inhibited my sexual energy and confidence in my sexual abilities. Porn sells you a lie of what sex is, it ruins your perceptions and expectations about sex. This is extremely detrimental for people who begin to view porn at a young age, especially men.
Society likes to say "give into your urges, it's not a bad feeling". The natural urge to mate (getting a chub) is one of the most primal desires we have as humans. We want to MATE, not watch porn. When you jerk it, your body thinks it's mating. But, your conscience knows you're not mating. You're blowing your wad to watching people mate. Pretty cuckish, right?
I've only acknowledged this issue for about a year and a half. I used to see a therapist (shit hit the fan in my personal life, thank goodness for insurance) who I mentioned the issue to. He suggested I use a site blocker, but I told him nah I can get it under control.
I knew I had to stop and change something when I was paying money for OnlySimps, custom content, and premium snapchats. I didn't want to be one of those old guys at adult video stores. I didn't want to chase this unrealistic perception of sex. I didn't want to become a simp anymore. I didn't want my future self to be fucked over in relationships and game. I didn't want to chase that dopamine high anymore. I knew once my money was going towards it, I had an actual problem.
It's taken me a year and half to block the sites on my phone and laptop. Willpower is sometimes not enough, you must change the environment and circumstances around you if you truly want to see improvement. I blocked porn on my phone a couple of months ago. Hell, I even had my brother set up a password so I couldn't bypass the blocker. I even ran a script on my computer to get rid of incognito mode so I couldn't use that to bypass the blocker. I went on to unfollow fitness chicks, thirst traps, attention whores on social media, and deleted my dating apps to get rid of any possible "triggers" for a porn binge or relapse. (Yes, I am using addiction terminology. This must be treated as an addiction.)
I have been actively practicing Semen Retention and NoFap ever since quarantine started, as well as Red Pill. I feel like a whole new person. I've had an issue with porn and chronic fapping ever since I was young, and as a result my brain doesn't know what the baseline for dopamine is. I feel emotional, reactive, and have a great sense of gusto in my daily activities from not busting or using porn. It is hard to regulate, but I am doing self-care routines to ensure that I have control over this great sense of energy I have bestowed upon myself.
Today marks day 8 of not jerking it and using porn. This is the longest period of time I have ever gone without porn or fapping ever since I discovered it. Granted, I have relapsed in the past couple months, but I still saw improvement from not using porn as much. To be honest, I've even considered getting a pocket pussy. The Death Grip is real. If you're going to self-pleasure, do it safely: without porn and not using your hand. If women can have magic bullets, men can have a pocket pussy.
Now, I have bitches lined up for me after quarantine. I completely cleaned up my room, I am realizing what is important to me in my life, what my values and principles are, and I'm currently being mentored by a friend about the stock market. Instead of using porn, I'm doing yoga, reading, writing, talking to my friends, working on my career, and just focusing on myself more with Red Pill being the catalyst. I feel more confident and energized than I ever have before in my life. The Fabio inside of me was always there, he was just hunkered down by porn. Porn is all pleasure, no pain. Or at least, that's what the guys at PornHub and Brazzers want you to think.
The great Alan Watts once said : "You get to the hell world as a result of not knowing what you want. As a result, of thoughtless pursuit of pleasure, which ends you eventually in the pursuit of pain. So when you’re in the hell world that’s where you want to be.”
If anyone wants to talk about their issues with porn, please reach out. This is something I am very open about and offer a lot of guidance. I can offer resources and give you a rundown of what my journey has been.
Keep on Red Pillin.

CravyFavor 5y ago
I wanted to resist replying to this and I thought about using a throw away but, fuck it. Misconceptions need to be dispelled.
Don't click my profile if you're easily distracted by porn...I use this acct for internet marketing.
I have worked in the "industry" for 5 years now. First as a film editor, then as a creative director, and finally as a full on producer, running my own sites and freelancing for others. It's quite lucrative, but I digress.
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God. No. Speaking from experience, sex in porn is sex. My n count is far into the triple digits, was before I started in the industry. Sure, it's not for everyone. Sorry to break it to you but women do want to be choked/face fucked/slapped/spit on/gangbanged/gloryholed, etc. I am a professional dom. The things I have done to women in the name of pleasure, with their permission, are unspeakable. I started watching porn when I was 11 years old. I stopped when I started getting laid, and you know what? Women love how I fuck. Why? because I'm not afraid to do what was in their fantasies. Porn is selling you a fantasy. Not a"completely impossible trans dimensional deplorable apocalyptic" fantasy, just a fantasy 99% of people are unwilling or incapable of living and some women want that. If we're talking LTR, sure, you don't want one of these women, but plates? NSA sex? These women are savages. They love it. I've made first time squirters out of so many women who are 'ashamed' of themselves for what they did. Psh, please. Another caveat is that amateur porn is HUGE now. Gigantic. To say that what is happening in amateur porn filmed by couples or one off NSA encounters is a lie of sex is complete bullshit. Every women loves some classic long dick doggystyle in front of the tele. Get you some.
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How is this cuckish? Are you dating this woman? Are you raising this dudes kid with your resources? And bro, do not come on here and SHAME men for having a fap. We get it enough as it is from women, fuck outta here. She's an escort, not your wife. Is going to the strip club (and not throwing cash ) cuckish? Watching some girl grind on your homie for his bday cuckish? Who gives a shit? Hoes will be hoes. Have a looksie. You know when I jerk off? When I'm horny and I have work to do. It's WAY better to let one loose than to waste X amount of hours looking for or entertaining pussy. Cash rules. Rub one out, get back to work. In fact, "pump those numbers up, those are rookie numbers in this racket..."
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Yeah, that's exactly it. YOU have a problem. Don't sit here and chastise an industry for your clear and obvious lack of self control and restraint. Hey bud...PORN IS FREE. The fuck are you doing? This is coming from someone who explicitly wants people to pay for porn. Why WOULD you though? It makes no sense. When your'e talking about onlyfans and prem snap, you're not talking about the industry. They're not "the industry." They are hoes and you're the dolt giving them the financial freedom to be such. YOURE the industry, in that scenario. In the adult industry, WE pay girls to fuck and sell it to you. In the aforementioned scenario, you're the industry, you're financially backing the content which you demonize. You think you're going to come on RP and espouse some anti-porn, anti-jerk rhetoric for red pill points, bro, you're literally THE problem. Free porn will never die. But this Onlyfans, simp BS, that's on men like you.
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No, you're orbiting women during quarantine. You have a lot to learn. Women are fucking during quarantine. Increased my n count by 12 since march, currently spinning 4 plates. There is no such thing as 'lined up after quarantine.' These chicks are horny and bored. Go to a protest, they're literally throwing themselves at dick.
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Hi, it me (and it's called MindGeek - Ph and BZ are the same company). No. We/they want you to pay for a subscription for our porn because it makes us money and we're hungry for cash and pussy. We want to fuck women and film it and profit off of it. We are not selling you a lie. We are cashing in on your innate insecurity and inability to live the exact fantasy life we are already living. We are charging you a premium for a peek into what life could be like for you but isn't because you are too scared. You could have it, too for the low low price of hard fucking work.
And seriously, Alan Watts did not drink his zen ass into a sloshing stupor so you could misquote him. It's not about not knowing what you want. It's about indulging far too much in unthought out wants. Heres what he meant:
"As humans, we want power so we can engage in the pursuit of pleasure with no limits. But you can achieve great powers in this world and still be stuck here, in this material illusion. Because when you’ve reached the limit of pleasure, you have nowhere else to go but to hell. So, when we reach the limit of pleasures, if we keep pushing, we push ourselves into the dark side. So limitless pleasure (or unlimited power) should not be the goal."
Know your fucking limits, break through them. But when it comes to pleasure pussy is only a device. It is a catalyst, it is fleeting, momentary. It is valueless, empty, illusory. It comes in waves, in droves, in endless supply like fish jumping on a fishing boat. Know when to sail home and collect your reward or risk the boat sinking and losing everything. Know when to rest. Know when the limits of pleasure have been reached or risk casting yourself into hell. And the only way to know these limits is to know the self fully and what it desires.
If you've spent the last few years of your life jerking off to pornography and not getting laid or making money, you know absolutely NOTHING of pleasure. You ONLY know pain. It is not the creators fault. It is your own. I spend every waking day with pornography and I jerk off 0 times a day. YOU are the problem, not the industry. Leave us out of your mental prison.
I commend anyone for changing their life and making progress to become, better, stronger, men. But Pornography has its place. Jerking off has its place. Everything in the world has its place. RP is not about pointing fingers to society and wishing it wasn't X or blaming it for being X. RP is about taking societies BS with brute force and strength and coming out the other side better men. I hope one day you look back on the lessons being a porn addict taught you and realize what a blessing it is to even have the capacity to transform because if it wasn't 'porn' or the 'industry' your weak mind would be addicted to something else.
No one is trying to bamboozle you. You have simply bamboozled your self.
Edit: And for real if anyone has genuine questions about the porn industry, coping with working within it, coping with addiction, how to profit off it, how it functions to advertise to you, or just plain curiosity of some of the myths and misconceptions, you can DM me. I'll give you my skype and we can chat it up.
Mrbipartite 5y ago
Its my day 6 without porn and retaining. I am completely going to leave this habit and go into my base level.
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I've regularly masturbated for nearly 10 years, 9 of these years I was in LTR with a beautiful girl. I'm now 33 and barely masturbated or saw porn in the last 5 years.
Here is my personal observations about porn and masturbation:
Porn ruins sex
I now see that in my past LTR of 9 years I barely enjoyed sex. I suffered from delayed ejaculation. I preferred beat to porn than having sex with my ex. This could be understandable if she was ugly, but she was the type of girl almost every guy and girl stared when we're out.
After she broke up with me I decided to leave porn so it could motivate me to pick up other girls. Sex now feels fucking intense, if I don't cum for weeks and get a new girl it's explosive.
Btw, women love it, and I'm not even very creative on bed. I just ravish the hell of her.
Porn makes you insecure
After many years of porn I was convinced I had a really small penis. I was deeply insecure about it. Turns out I have average, in fact slightly above average penis. But compared to the ones on porn it looks fucking small.
Porn kills your motivation
On my 20s I just wanted to jerk off, eat fast food, and play video games. I don't even know how my ex-girlfriend stayed with me for so long.
Nowadays, I'm always hustling. Sexual energy is real.
Porn makes you a doormat
Back in the days I tolerated a lack of respect very easily. Nowadays it's the opposite, I'm way more aggressive and don't tolerate lack of respect. People instinctively feel it and respect me more.
Porn is beta
Think about it - you're jerking off while other big dicked guys are fucking hot young women. You're supporting this cuckoldry shit.
Porn kills your drive for meeting women
I notice this more in the night game. If I don't bust a load in a long time I'm way more aggressive and assertive. While many guys are waiting with a drink in a hand I'm already looking for girls to approach. They think I'm courageous, but the reality is I want to fuck and I hate porn and masturbating. So in my mind there isn't really a choice. When your desire to fuck is bigger than the desire for validation approach anxiety melts away.
CravyFavor 5y ago
You ruin sex
You have no motivation
You are a doormat
You are a beta
You have no drive for meeting women
Fixed it for you.
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The problem is always within.
TRPGaveMeLife 5y ago
I'd echo everything you said. Not jerking off gives you energy and the will to act. I also thought I had a small dick but it turns out I don't haha. Fuck porn.
masterpiece00 5y ago
I think you are lying to yourself, this contradicts all you have said.
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jackassington 5y ago
Amazing fucking post man. I'm still struggling with the resistance to stop jerking the little fella off. Yeah it's hard mate but I totally understand. I myself am trying no fap as well but I've been on a cold shower streak for almost 90 days now. I stopped counting. I've gotten used to it. I'd suggest cold showers as an addition to nofap as well. Finally, if you get a chance, watch the movie "Don Jon". It's fucking brilliant. Anyways y'all, have a good morning, afternoon or whatever time of day it is.
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comcain 5y ago
You might want to look at Wanted: Hot Girls on Netflix. It's the stories of young thots that sign up for sex films. They last around 6 months and burn out, then the producers run another Craigslist ad for more.
The girls talk about how little fun they have and that it's work to act even interested in what's going on. And the whole forced blowjob until they throw up thing is pretty nauseating.
Porn is like sugar. It tastes good but it rots everything ot touches.
Fine post, OP.
Cheers
hockeyaddict87 5y ago
It’s so bad for us. I have cut down a lot and went 2 weeks with no porn a month ago. You feel your mind changing it’s wild. What made me start trying to quit is when I though about the last year before I found porn, 7th grade. I had a very good year of hockey and had a 4.0 gpa.
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betachadtries 5y ago
Great post. I've been challenged to do the same. I'm on day 3 of 7
HorvathRed 5y ago
Honestly my suggestion especially when you've already had at least a handful of decent notches, drop porn entirely and jerk off to memories of you fucking a girl well / some hot sex moments you've had. Going NoFap in a quarantine is pretty autistic unless you have serious problems with jerking it, no problem in doing it once every 10 days if you keep it to your own past mental imagery. It's great and doesn't fuck up your brain like porn.
vsmgstone 5y ago
i understand what you mean but jerking off should have no place in anyones life
when_its_too_late 5y ago
Like I've said a hundred times...it's not the porn or jerking off that messes you up, it's the addiction and excess consumption that does.
Having a beer isn't an issue...but if it's your 10th one today and it's barely noon, we have a problem.
Not to take away anything from OP. But if you jerk off once in a blue moon stop freaking out, that one time isn't gonna start ww3 or the apocalypse.
_MrMemeseeks_ 5y ago
Great journey so far and don't stop.
I have also been addicted to porn for a while now but since nofap i realized the truth, the dark side and benifits of eradicating it from your life(hopefully i become successful).(so far blocked adult sites and removed almost all social media)
I've been doing yoga/working out and doing other activities to keep my self busy and keep my urges at bay. It is really important that you replace the habit with something else or else it wont take long to slip back into urges or start with a totally new bad habit.
So get busy living or get busy dying.
acoltismypassport 5y ago
I've gone back on forth on porn/jerking it for years. Started beating it to porn when I got my first broadband connection in 2001 at the age of 11. I'm 30 now, and still regularly watch, and fap to, porn.
I have not found that it interferes with my sex life at all. If I'm single and just dating chicks, I jerk it during the interim in order to allay horniness/get the 'dirty water out.' If I'm in a relationship, as I am right now, I jerk it the days I don't see her. I've found that I'll get sexually frustrated if I don't release after 24 hours - but then again I have a very high sex drive, and am still good for 3 - 4 nuts a day even at the age of 30.
It's worth noting that I watch amateur porn exclusively. Real people fucking, no fake shit. I think that plays a large part in why the negative effects of porn haven't gotten to me. I'm essentially a voyeur for other people banging, not watching a highly scripted, deceptively filmed flick with small women, skinny guys with supposedly big dicks, with unrealistic, staged sex acts.
I've attempted no fap and no porn in the past, and it's made zero difference whatsoever. I just became more frustrated and unable to concentrate due to raging levels of testosterone. Regular release is fundamental to me thinking straight. If my load is going inside some chick's pussy or ass, it's going in s tissue in front of my desktop.
Of course, I could simply be an exception. YMMV
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zephyr123_ 5y ago
I think you are delusional about it, take no offense
acoltismypassport 5y ago
None taken, but could you elaborate?
zephyr123_ 5y ago
As a 16 year old I really DO feel different on a streak- the confidence spike, attraction and its reciprocation from girls, raging hormones and energy surge with drive to do anything, I also feel like I intimidate others with just eye contact
acoltismypassport 5y ago
The confidence spike, I can maybe see the validity of that. But the girls somehow sensing your extra sensual energy, feeling more 'powerful,' etc - that sounds like some kooky nofap religious bullshit.
I mack on girls regularly, relationship or not, because i'm a social, high energy, 'get 'er done' kinda guy. Whether I watch video images of sex on the internet has nothing to do with that.
Of course, it is all psychological, in which case none of that matters. If you approach, looksmax, flex your social muscles, then it's all the same. The guy who practises nofap, noporn, no pillow, or any of that other gay shit will be in square one unless he takes action. I'm not calling you out, just to be clear; but it makes me laugh when I see guys talk about this shit and they've never before gotten their dick wet.
vsmgstone 5y ago
you mentioned not being able to concentrate and being frustated while not fapping and i agree with you but i found that it is becuase i didnt understand how to use all that pent up sexual energy in me. try working out or doing things to release the energy in other creative ways that are more productive than a simple nut.
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masterpiece00 5y ago
Man lay off the internet for a while, your just throwing around the latest meme words and calling it context and content but this post is so empty, just another person whom thinks they will make 2 million and live a life of wealth because they read red pill posts and stopped wanking.
Masturbation is healthy, if you do it only when needed.
MoDuReddit 5y ago
Didn't you know? Not wanking gives you super powers!
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Any form of jewellery. Including rolexes etc. Absolute wast of money.