Howdy cocksmokers, Donkey here. I read a thread on asktrp in which the OP of the thread basically said: “My nose was ugly so I didn’t get the girls I wanted, I had an operation and now I’m good looking so I get the girls I want”.

Now, what may the reason be for this? The answer lies in a concept called Shadow Psychology. I’m not going to delve in all to deeply in this concept, I’ve given you a keyword to google if you’re actually interested in learning about this. I will only elaborate how said OP disallowed himself fucking anything above HB7 because of his mindset.

TL;DR: How to stop cucking yourself

A fair warning is that this post will be relatively long

So, first of all, he actually got laid. He found TRP somewhere along the line, started lifting, got some sales job that elevated his social skills to an extent and in the end he got pussy - just not the pussy he wanted. Why didn’t he get the pussy he wanted in the first place? How come he got pussy in the first place if his nose was so ugly that the girls he perceived as attractive wouldn’t even look his way due to his ugly nose? The truth is, the answers lie all within himself, but instead of realizing this he blamed the world. What he did, was telling himself “I’m too ugly for these girls”, so he became too ugly for these girls. He created his own reality. As many men here understand, looks on men aren’t all too important. Don’t get me wrong, women love an attractive man, but it’s not as important as you believe. The only thing you're doing is projecting what you want yourself outwards; you want a sexy woman, so you assume that sexy want a hot man. Women probably do want a sexy man, but it’s not as dependable as you believe because where women ONLY play on their looks, men play on their looks, status, and money. Women’s SMV is based solely on their looks, whereas men’s SMV is based on an average between these 3. The funniest thing is that you control your looks and status entirely yourself, and how people perceive your looks and status is actually based on how you perceive your looks and status yourself. I’ll get back to this in a bit

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An elaboration on this;

Female SMV

Looks: 7/10 
Results SMV = 7/10

Male SMV

Looks: 2/10 
Status: 10/10 
Money: 10/10 
Results Smv: 2/10 + 10/10 + 10/10 = 22/30 → SMV = 7,33../10

Your looks are somewhat a mix of environmental conditioning and genetics. You control how fat you are, and what clothes you wear, but you don’t control the fact that you have an afro. Your status can be affected by genetics, but are for the most part environmental conditioning. Your money can also be affected by genetics (hello 10/10 models), but are in 99.9% of the cases environmental conditioning. Lastly, your looks are more dependant on environmental conditioning than you believe. You think that how people perceive your looks aren’t in your control, but it actually is. Actively thinking that you have ugly looks will affect any progress you’ll make with women, it will actually start affecting how well you do with women because your status will drop due to your shitty self-image. When you lift, your self-image becomes better and thus women perceive you as more attractive as well. As mentioned, your afro is due to genetics, but how you perceive your afro is up to you and it is essentially only that, that affects how attractive you are in your afro or not.

Realize

What said OP essentially did, was shifting how he perceived himself (by having an operation) - and now he gets the girls he wants, essentially because he deems himself worthy of them. Said OP mentioned that before the operation, he got women up to the point of HB7, that they approached him and talked about fucking him, but nothing above HB7 seemed to look his way. What he did mentally to himself, was saying “aw man these girls think I’m ugly due to my ugly nose”, followed by “now is my nose attractive, so the women will also perceive my nose as attractive”. He shifted how he perceived himself, though it was required of him (by himself) to have an operation before he could do so. After the operation, he got the pussy he wanted - because he deemed himself beautiful enough to finally fuck these pedestalized, glorified, oh holy attractive HB8+. The mistake he made from the beginning, was pedestalizing attractive women to the degree that he let them control him. They sensed this, so they didn’t want him - the ugly woman wouldn’t have wanted him either if he would have given them the sense that they actually could control him. For himself, he knew that these ugly bitches couldn’t control him, so he controlled them instead. He fucked them because he knew for himself that his SMV was so out of their league that they shouldn’t even have the audacity to not fuck him. Why he didn’t fuck any HB8+, was because he knew for himself that the HB8’s SMV was so out of his league that he shouldn’t even have the audacity to even try to fuck them - again, he created his own reality. All these HB8s perceived him as lower SMV because he believed himself to be lower SMV.

There was this man in Russia a long time ago called Rasputin. Rasputin was an ugly motherfucker, but this man more or less fucked every woman in Moscow. Legend has it that he even fucked the Tsar’s wife occasionally. How could an ugly motherfucker such as Rasputin fuck more or less every woman in Moscow? He learned how to do it by good game, so he believed he could, thus he knew he could, thus he did*.* He created his own reality.

Now, you might think for yourself “but Donkey, I know that genetics do affect how attracted women are to men”, so now I answer the question In which ways does genetics actually affect?

Your genetics are relevant to the extent that the better genetics you have, the more ‘slack’ you’ll have - that doesn’t mean you don’t have to work on your shit anyway. How your genetics is actually affecting your outcome is based on how you perceive your genetics yourself. If you believe your genetics are actually ugly to the extent that you “know” that you’re ugly, you WILL become ugly and you WILL be perceived as ugly - because you saw to it yourself. No man possesses Alpha genetics per se, you share over 99% of your DNA with each and every other human being, so every human would be Alpha per that logic. No, a man becomes alpha because he takes the role as an alpha. His genetics might have helped him in that direction, but he is alpha because he has seen to it and because he says so.

You create

The environment of TRP has partly become self-victimization; all too many newcomers let their reality control them because they believe they can’t control their reality and thus they can’t control their reality. You are stuck in the anger phase, blame shifting proclaiming it’s the world’s fault that you don’t get laid, and complain over the fact that female nature is fucked up. While female nature actually is rather fucked up, you choose for yourself how to emotionally react to that. If you accept that the female nature is fucked up, you deliberately accept that you can’t control it, thus you can actually control it more - if you have in your mind that you wish to change female nature, you blame shift to the degree that you won’t change how you perceive female nature and thus you will stay in the anger phase whining about female nature. This is why TRP preach Stoicism because Stoicism teaches you how to get rooted in your emotions, and how to act rationally instead of reacting emotionally. By saying “I’m too ugly for a woman”, you react emotionally to how you perceive yourself. You create your own reality.

Your reality

The mantra “lift” is chanted here because what lifting essentially does to you, is giving you the fundamental idea that you can control yourself and your reality. Even if this is something you don’t think concretely of, by lifting you actually control your reality - you perceive yourself as more attractive (logically) and thus women perceive you as more attractive; women find you attractive based on how you perceive yourself, and not on how attractive you actually are based on genetics solely. They might think you are genetically attractive, but if you don’t believe you’re attractive yourself, they won’t perceive you as attractive because you as a man control what women feel - this is why it is important to keep the frame and to play on your own conditions and no others. If you play in a woman’s frame, she knows she is in control and she doesn’t want to be in control.

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Now, in the original post, I’m speaking of, I somewhere commented

I am 6'5, 200 - 230 lbs (195cm, 95 - 105 kgs), and I'm literally perceived as a Viking. I have good genetics and I look good, I know it myself and others know it too.

And got the answer

Stop giving "create your own reality" advice to ugly guys. You're not ugly, you have zero clue.This is why TRP is full of shit. Guys who have it easy telling the guys who have it hard how easy it is.Do you honestly think you're helping or are you really just jerking yourself off?

Let me elaborate on how I’ve created my reality so that I can jerk myself off, without breaking my arm.

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5 years ago, I was a nobody - I was an AFC. I lifted, but I perceived and deemed myself as not worthy of fucking all those hot women because I was also fat. What I realize now in retrospection is that these women actually found me and my fat attractive, because I wasn’t fundamentally unattractive - what made me unattractive was the way I perceived myself - unattractive.

Because I was a nobody, I fucked nobody. And I somewhere accepted this and rationalized it by thinking “I’m not that attractive”.

This is the original comment I made

I'll tell you a bit about myself. I am 6'5, 200 - 230 lbs (195 cm, 95 - 105 kgs), and I'm literally perceived as a Viking. I have good genetics and I look good, I know it myself and others know it too. Do I get approached all too often? No. I can see exactly how many women want me wherever I am, but the truth is they are too scared to approach me - because I perceive myself as if there are no other human alive with the same SMV as me. The effect my mindset has? Basically fuck anyone I want, when I want to (and not when she wants to). Being approached means that you are talking with her on her conditions. I'm essentially displaying to women that I only would talk to them if I wanted so myself. I would only fuck her if I wanted so myself - her pussy has no power over me. Women can sense this, and because of that they stand desperately and stare at me. I made two sisters fight each other because I made out with one of them and fucked the other. Because I knew I could, and I knew I could because I believed I could.Now, I'll tell you something else about me. I wasn't always like this - 5 years ago, I was the biggest fake alpha / real beta you could find. My general attitude was alpha, to the extent that I didn't give a shit about anything outwards, and because of that a lot of women got attracted to me - but I was a beta because I cared more than I showed at first glance; I was insecure in my looks, I had a lot of muscles but much fat as well and I was insecure about my fat, and whenever a girl took a liking in me and she saw my "real me", she got disgusted by the fact that I had essentially fooled her with my fake alpha aura that she didn't even want to keep me as an orbiter. Now, imagine that.My Beta days were allowed, by no other than myself. My beta days were exactly what I had created for myself. Heck, I was a virgin far longer than someone would have predicted based on my genetics - because I had a shitty game. And I doubted in myself - I created my own living hell.So, what did I do? The third time I got heartbroken, I thought "why the fuck isn't these nice guy actions working", I found TRP and here I am, with an N count I don't even know myself. I realized that I was the one creating my own reality, thus suffering from my own creation's consequences. There is a book called The Gulag Archipelago, written by Alexander Solzhenitsyn; he was a soldier in Soviet, and after 15 years of war in Europe he got back to Soviet - only to be thrown into the Gulags (concentration camps of Soviet) when he got back home. Now, what most people would have done, would be to think "Oh, it's Stalin's fault that I am sitting here because [Insert any rationalization]", but what did Alexander do? This motherfucker thought to himself "how exactly have my actions up to this point brought me to where I am today", and the effects that his introspective thinking had was literally the settlement of the Gulags - he literally changed the world by accepting himself and the fact that his suffering was a consequence of his own actions.What has this to do with anything, you might think? What this has to do with anything, is the simple fact that every action you take, every thought you think, you are in control of, and you create your reality thereafter. If you've ever thought to yourself "ah fuck my nose man it's too ugly for all these HB8+", then this is the reality you will create - I repeat, THIS IS THE REALITY YOU CREATE. You become too ugly because you believe yourself to be too ugly. Accept yourself for all that you are, and so will the world.

Yourself

In closing, I’m going to tell you this one more time - YOU create YOUR OWN reality*;* none else have that power. Realize this, seize the power, and control your outcome. Don’t blame the world, because the world has essentially denied men doing so - it is asked of men as a group to take care of the world, so it is your task to do so. Whining about it will only drag you to the depths of the SMV hierarchy.