I keep seeing people on this sub conflate mindset and reality. Which is understandable because as humans we have cognitive biases that affect our thinking and perception. But, to be reach the best we can be, it is necessary to describe mindset and reality separately. I’ll explain later on, but first we should define the terms:

Reality - everything that exists or is real.

Mindset - a person’s way of thinking

Often what we do here is attempt to describe reality. Because if we know the truth then we can create solutions to navigate reality effectively. As opposed to if we had a faulty description of reality, then we can be lead astray no matter how good our solution is. For example: some guys believe being nice to women is the way to their hearts. This is their description of reality. But no matter how hard they try to be nice, they will fail because their description of reality is faulty. So it’s extremely important we describe reality accurately.

mindset will affect how you behave and therefore affect your attractiveness with women. For example, having an abundance mindset will make you act like you have access to more women. Women will pick up on this behavior and be more attracted to you. On the other hand, if you have a self deprecating mindset, this will affect your behavior and women will lose attraction to you.

So, accurately describing reality is powerful and a good mindset is powerful. The problem is that the two can contradict each other and people here conflate the two. They often use their mindset in an attempt to describe reality. For example, one might be confident despite being short, then say height doesn’t matter. This is a good mindset, but it’s not an accurate description of reality.

if you let your positive mindset attempt to describe reality, then you will fail to recognize your flaws and fix them. For example, you may be confident in your appearance (which is good) but fail to improve your appearance because you believe it doesn’t matter or are satisfied despite there being potential for improvement.

And if you let your description of reality negatively affect your mindset, then you will hinder your attractiveness. Reality is often unfair, so when people realize the truth they get upset. But we must not let the truth negatively affect our mindset. This happens a lot to people who are new to redpill. They learn how fucked up reality is, this in turn affects their mindset then their behavior.

To reach one’s maximum potential, one must learn to hold their description of reality separate from their mindset.

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WarmPotato69 6y ago

Esoteric posts seem to get fewer comments

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fdsafdasfdsafds 6y ago

I think all of this comes down to a heavy dose of self-awareness. With that, the contradiction doesn't matter. We will forever attempt to untangle the fabric of reality and fall short, creating paradoxes and contradictions, biases and beliefs in the process. We simply cannot comprehend reality through intellect. Direct experience through our senses is the closest thing we have, and we can't even trust our senses.

With that said, I don't see the problem holding contradictory information, beliefs, mindsets or whatever else so long as the person making use of these things is fully aware. I have an abundance mindset for all kinds of things, not just women, but I am also painfully aware of the limitations. From that a refined abundance mindset emerges.

I think these mindsets and beliefs are important to counter negative mindsets (such as scarcity), and can be a great help initially. I'm not sure where I would have ended up without an alternative to scarcity. Right now I have abundance mindset when it comes to women and yet haven't had sex in 8 weeks and have no options within reach. The reason is because this mindset stretches into the future and is paired with optimism (based on past success). The reality (right now) completely contradicts my mindset, and yet I can accept both. I know the abundance isn't there because I'm not putting in the effort, instead focusing on other things (mission).

Another note I'd like to point out is the relationship between mind and reality is far more consequential than affecting attractiveness. Your behaviour affects reality, which, in turn, feeds back into your mindset. Our modern reality is largely based on differing mindsets (eg. capitalism, feminism, religion). It's imperative you understand the difference between 'objective' reality and mental construct. Without that awareness you are lost in other people's minds.

To reach one’s maximum potential, one must learn to hold their description of reality separate from their mindset.

Yep. Good post to explore!

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INNASKILLZ2K18 6y ago

HHHmmmm....What I get out of this, is to work on both mindset and reality.

Red Pill can be a pathway to that. It teaches certain mindsets that are attractive - 'confidence, abundance, idgaf, etc', but also encourages you to actually build a reality where these are warranted.

Too often I see young, unattractive guys of little value thinking they can just walk around with abundance, idgaf, prize etc and it will work. Doesn't work like that.

Assess yourself, get brutally honest. What have you built to offer? What have you achieved? Why are you a prize, in reality....which gives permission to have the appropriate mind-sets.