I have seen some recent posts about "discretion" and also had personal discussions with male friends recently that seem to just emphasize tact, discretion, manners, whatever you want to call it, but what actually means is "treat women as if there are no Alpha Widows" or that being an "Alpha Widow is desirable to men." You should not do this. You should create Alpha Widows!

Example 1: Like the recent post from a woman in AITA about kicking a guy out for not wanting to use a condom. A commenter said something along the lines of "any guy who tries to not use a condom I immediately kick out and ghost."

Do you know what that really means? She's having sex with lots of guys who think they don't have to use a condom, or, more likely, she already has let a lot of guys raw dog it, and is now calming her hamster by 1) conveniently forgetting she did that historically; and 2) making herself feel that it is a bold, independent-woman thing to in the future now that she is widowed and/or hit the wall.

What does this mean to you: you should be hooking up with girls who are reluctant to let you not wear a condom, but do anyways. I know I have.

I'm not condoning this, obviously - wrap it up - but you get my point. This doesn't mean slutty girls, this means girl that are in your frame.

Example 2: I made a comment on a TRP post today about slapping a plate on her ass at the beach. One commenter said "no bitch would ever allow this."

You shouldn't be able to call a plate a "bitch" if you actually think that. I did it to two plates on the same trip last summer! Those plates have since fallen, as they all do, and I'm sure in their new Alpha Widow status they'll be less cool about that going forward. And the next low-SMV guy who tries to get even a little freaky with them will get put in the "creepy" category for even attempting it. Sucks bro. I'm sure you can hold her hand at the $300 dinner you're taking her to later.

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So, you're not afraid to birth a few Alpha Widows now. How do you find girls that aren't yet Alpha Widows:

- Get off apps / day game

- Skew younger (just statistics)

- Set your sights less on "hot girls at the bar" and more "girls at the library or in town for an internship"

- Up your social proof by trying to meet more creative / interesting people through family, mutual friends, etc. and attend events with them. Hell, invite yourself and bring a gift! Meet quality girls there

- Attend networking events related to your career field (but not so close as to cause trouble)

- Attend more weddings, engagement parties, etc. than you might normally go to

- Don't be afraid to slip your number to cute girls working at art galleries, museums, the bookstore, and these sorts of places. This has a low hit rate, but has resulted in a few plates for me.

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In summary, don't be afraid to seek out non-Alpha Widows and turn them into Alpha Widows. It's the circle of life. Don't feel bad for being a man. If you're successful, you'll see some pretty, perky, bright-eyed girls turn darker, cry to you, beg you to see them more, and then end up with Chad Lite. It sucks, but you got there first, and being first is all that matters.