The Problem: Tell Me How You Feel Goddamnit!
Now. A very core principle of the Red Pill is that women do not give men they like a hard time.
When they want it, they make it rather easy to come by for you.
And this, for the most part, is true. However, you must realize that not all girls facilitate things for you in the same manner.
I think it particularly necessary to talk about ambiguity. Namely, girls whose feelings for you appear ambiguous.
One of my most major fuck ups as a young blue pilled buck was showing my emotions to women. I did this because they never spelled things out for me, so I would pour out my soul to them in order to provoke an admission of interest in me.
As a generally stoic, mysterious kind of guy also having been blessed with ok looks, girls almost always showed signs of interest, until I, like a goddamn retard, sputtered out my secret confession of love to them.
When they were unaware of the way I saw them, they were quite evidently interested. But evidence wasn't enough for me. I needed a confession. A statement, if you will, detailing every minutia of their desire, and once I bared my heart, they become disgusted.
I'd done this far too many times before I realized how much it was screwing me over.
What I didn't realize was that I was a tall, agnostic, African American with a bad boy look and a rebel attitude trying to get at white traditionalist Christian girls whose parents would murder them for being in my general vicinity.
They were interested. But they weren't going to go screaming it from their rooftops with a megaphone.
Sometimes there is stigma surrounding you. Maybe you're a minority, maybe she's sworn chastity. Maybe her parents want her to get with that rich man named Jamesson. Maybe being too overt will make her look like a slut (or a nigger-lover.)
There is always something at stake, even if it's just her repututation.
Girls aren't always going to spell it out to you. So making a confession of love to try and drag her own feelings out of her is stupidity of the highest order.
Just keep your damn mouth shut and escalate.
The Solution: Allowance is Compliance.
I just fucked an HB8 in her boyfriend’s truck.
When she came on the scene, every goddamned male in my social circle wanted her. Dirty blonde country girl with milky skin and green eyes and one of those really tiny seductive voices. Everyone said she was flirting with them, but I paid her little mind. To be honest, I just thought she was entirely out of my league so I just didn’t even think to try. However, it wasn’t long until she was looking at me and wondering why I wasn’t giving her the same attention she was getting from the others.
Once I realized what was happening,I played into it. As a pretty social person, it wasn’t hard to get everyone’s attention. So I’d have my social group hanging on my words, and her watching. Being a “leader of men” really is an aphrodisiac to women.
She added me on Facebook, blew up my phone, and acted really kind and sweet. Like, strangely nice. She wasn’t overtly sexual. In fact, she wasn’t sexual at all. Though she was incredibly open to the idea of us touching, she never once made any kind of sexual innuendo or responded to any I made.
Well, she gave me a ride home to work once. My heart was pounding out of chest, but I simply pulled her in to hug her, and then just lingered there with our foreheads together to gauge her comfort level.
We made out. She turned the truck off. I ran my hands along her back. Ok. I edged my hand under her shirt and onto the skin of her back. Still ok. Removed the shirt. Still going strong. Removed my shirt. I got her by the hips and put her on my lap. The rest is history.
Allowance is compliance. And compliance is all you need. You don’t need signs from heaven, some kind of fucking lightning bolt to let you know.
Don't get this confused with acquiescence. Acquiescence is when someone has no desire to be a part of something, but rolls over for fear of conflict or retaliation. If you had sex with a girl, and she acquiesced, congratulations, you're a rapist.
No, by allowance I mean implied permission.
If she hasn't stopped you from taking her hand and leading her to another part of the venue away from her friends, if she's still sitting across from you and hasn't walked away yet, if you kissed her and she didn't stop you, if you led her to your bed and she went with you into it.
What you have to understand is that if she does not want to be there, she will not be there. You aren't forcing her to do anything. If you took her hand and she didn't want to follow you, she'd have let go of your hand. If you went for the kiss, she would've said something before your lips connected.
A girl who likes you but cannot say so for a plethora of potential reasons will give you implied permission and will offer no resistance to your escalations. Sure, it's scarier this way. You can't guarantee the absence of the sting of rejection.
But this isn't middle school. We don't go "hey, I like you." We certainly don't say "you're absolutely beautiful and amazing and incredible in every way and I want to spend the rest of my life with you."
She will run into traffic to get the hell away from you.
Another foundational Red Pill concept is to listen to a woman's actions, not her words. She may say "we shouldn't" or she may say nothing. If she says anything, (which she most likely won't) it doesn't matter. Her actions will speak plenty.
If she is compliant to you, she likes you. If she isn't, she doesn't.
Always test for compliance. Use subtle physical escalations. Squeeze her hand, does she squeeze back? Put your arm around her, does she lean in? Be calibrated, and escalate incrementally until she stops you. If she doesn't stop you, congratulations, you just got laid.
Be a man and lead her. If she's into you she'll follow your lead.
Rock on.
- a young whipper snapper

Odd_String 6y ago
> She turned off the truck.
Apollo 11, this is Houston. You are GO for staging.
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UpperRedSide 6y ago
Last minute resistance.
Take a break, turn your back to her, get up and muck around in another room, anything to give the impression that you’ve temporarily lost a little interest in her due to this behavior.
Then, come back, run a compliance test, and then continue to escalate.
If she resists again, repeat the process.
Eventually you’ll train her to stop as she’ll realize the consequences, you potentially leaving, are not worth bargaining for.
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NarrowBath7 6y ago
fml some girl was pushing her ass up on me tonight and i was too pussy to go for the kill. next time i will, regardless of the possibility she rejects me. i would've just laughed off a rejection had it happened anyways, makes no sense to not go for what you want. good post op.
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UpperRedSide 6y ago
Maybe. But, she’s not mine it’s just my turn.
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Angelrun 6y ago
Girls literally dropped hints I could’ve gotten laid back when I was too pussy to escalate smh good post tho
knightydk 6y ago
Best you can do is learn from it we all have made that mistake
r_u_a_badfish2 6y ago
lol I can imagine some poor shmuck getting me too'd or worse with this advice.
Co-worker...GTFO
Nicolas0631 6y ago
Bad things happen in life and actually it ALWAYS end badly as we all die. But if you refuse to live it because things could go bad, that's stupid.
How many men get me too'd really ? I bet there more that die out of a car accident than men that get me too'd. Still does that mean people refuse to drive or refuse to cross the road ?
Carboneraser 6y ago
Well, car accidents are one of the largest causes of death in most countries. Usually tops the list of accidental deaths so obviously there's going to be more.
On a less technical note, MeToo isn't just celebrities. Have you noticed that a surprising amount of your plates may tell you they've been raped before at parties or by friends or by family. They often don't report it but imagine having somebody who talks so casually about rape and defies odds by being involved in sexual assaults so many times. She could always say the same about you and the whole Coworker thing makes it even worse.
If you work at a factory or a minimum wage job the fuck around all you'd like. At an office job, I think anybody would advise against it.
WaspOnAWall 6y ago
Good field report, don't mind the envious boys.
strikethrough123 6y ago
This is a good FR with a lot of lessons.
The first bit about not showing how you feel about her really resonates with me. I too did this a lot (and still do it). I think it has to do with the fact that men are logical and need some things spelled out before they can make a decision, so if we suspect she feels the same way, we “make the first move” by revealing our cards first in hopes she’ll reveal hers. I can’t speak for everybody else but that’s my thought process.
Like you said, if she wants you she’ll make it easy as fuck. If she doesn’t, you’ll know as soon as you escalate.
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Alphathlete 6y ago
Good post!
Compliance is key. Also follow her actions, not her words and use your brain.
MrGreySD 6y ago
You're a good writer. Good job. It's about striking the middle ground between disinterest and escalation. Too much disinterest = passive vibes. Too much interest = needy vibes.
A_Bandini 6y ago
Well written post, however, never shit where you eat.
SuperCrazy07 6y ago
Ignore the haters. While this is all very basic, it’s a good example.
I was oblivious when I was young and stuff like this would have been a good wake up call.
Based on some of the unbelievably idiotic questions on askTRP, there are men in this sub that your post should help.
Quantum_Pineapple 6y ago
Yes agreed and I will talk the talk with an actual post over weekend.
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PrincetonNarcissist 6y ago
Not sure why all of these commenters are so butthurt. “Don’t shit where you eat” is a good rule but do what the fuck you want man. “Live life.”
Brutal13 6y ago
A good reminder that you need to escalate. Thanks, OP!
RedNightOwl 6y ago
Bruh lol, I stopped reading after you said co-worker. Then you say "I know, I know but I couldn't let this opp slide". You lack abundance regardless if you're in a small town. Cool you got a notch under your belt with a girl with a bf but then you decide to write this post because now you know what being a man feels like. Be a man. Escalate, escalating is standard 101 without it you're dead in the water. Not knocking you but go tell your friends this story not here. I might get flamed by broskis banging co workers even if the job is not serious (habit builds up) or people living in small towns but oh well. I rather have noobs here know the importance of not banging within a work environment and learn the true nature of abundance.
Dls95405 6y ago
Yeah, he sounds very young and naive.
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blancstare 6y ago
Do you know what false imprisonment is? Or the legal privileges that parents enjoy with respect to how they choose to raise their children?
Congratulations on your success, but you need to be more careful about giving advice to others in an area where you don't seem to be too proficient in yourself. This is the point of the post you're replying .
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TheRedPike Senior Endorsed 6y ago
Ok, so then why not talk about how validation seeking is poison, rather than this shit? I kinda agree with you. Can we not do the concern troll thing?
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Quantum_Pineapple 6y ago
Agreed, you can't win here, but I'll be damned if 3/4 of these don't sound like bullshit pearl clutching insecurity posts.
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TheRedPike Senior Endorsed 6y ago
No race baiting. Only warning.
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Andgelyo 6y ago
I don’t know if I believe this bruh, good night tho
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PrincetonNarcissist 6y ago
What are you going on about? This isn’t Christian Mingle. Keep your moralizing bullshit out of here.
TheRedPike Senior Endorsed 6y ago
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Comment looking like a teenage girl texting, man.
TheRedPike Senior Endorsed 6y ago
What I can't figure out is why there is not a single report on this post. As a mod, it's like you all love this post.
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UpperRedSide 6y ago
Lol.
I write what you deem as long posts because I’m a writer. I’ve written songs and poetry, and I’m currently working on my first full length novel. I write because I enjoy it, not because I’m a cuck. Also, as a side note, it didn’t take me very much time to type this post.
Maybe a couple of minutes.
Try again.
LVman53 6y ago
The fact that you spent a minute thinking about a woman and spending time you could be advancing yourself having some kind of sad game plan is pathetic. Id say try again in life bud, its not hard to have sex and it doesnt take some long winded bullshit. Fact is that you are owned by women, they own your mind and your time. Grow s pair
UpperRedSide 6y ago
My spider sense is tingling. I’m picking up incel garbage.
LVman53 6y ago
AHhahaha you call names like a woman hahahaha I have more respect for incel kids than grown ass men who spend time actually thinking about woman and trying to understand them. They are next of kin to Chaos and no matter what you do, you will always be on the losing end. Im sorry you need female validation and attention to eep you going.
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