I ran into a girl walking her dog on my way to work one morning. I thought she looked young and cute so I said good morning, her dog tried to bite me, I played it cool, invited her for coffee, and grabbed her number. She told me she won't be a good texter, and I replied that I don't have high expectations for her. I texted her that morning to say hi, and she texted me the same evening. Then she texted me again apologizing for seeming unexcited and told me that she really wanted to have coffee. I took this as a sign that she was really into me.

She blew me up over the weekend and I let her know that I was on vacation which she really liked. I tried to schedule a coffee date, and she couldn't make it. I tried froyo later in the week, and she canceled last minute. At that point I soft nexted w/out appearing butthurt (ok np, then no response), but she came back asking about my Thursday. I told her busy all day, let's get a drink later. She agreed, would love to get a drink.

I managed to pick a venue that she had worked at. She told me but I didn't change plans. I arrived and made friends with some students at the bar and some hosts. When she showed up, I knew I was unattracted to her. She was wearing a baggy sweater with baggy office-casual pants. Her face was 8/10, but I knew if she had a body she'd be showing it (not hiding it). She wasn't fat, but just the wrong combination of short and stocky that turns me off instantly. She looked better in a different outfit on the street.

That's ok, I wanted experience. She was such a motor mouth. She started telling me everything about her life. Her job, her deadlines, her boss, her family, her birthday, just everything about her. I could feel she was nervous. She told me she's 21 (I am 30). It was so easy, I had to pay attention not to talk too much because she was doing my job for me. She was agreeing with anything I said, even to the point of contradicting what she said herself one sentence earlier. I was doing some kino, touching her leg, sitting right next to her at the bar, touching her hair, etc. She responded pretty well to it, not touching me back though.

It was getting annoying with her knowing everybody at the bar, and also the two dudes I was talking up earlier (same University). The dudes did help me through a shit test, though, where she went to go "catch up" with some of the good looking guys who work there. I just started bullshitting with them and she rushed back to me. If I sat there on my phone waiting for her I do not think it would be so good. At this point I suggested a venue switch, but she told me she had to get home ASAP. I didn't give a fuck and got another beer, and she stayed with me for an extra half-hour past when she said she had to go. Then I told her I'd walk her home. She was telling me stories of how scary it is walking around with girls getting assaulted here and there, which put a very weird #MeToo vibe in my head. If I had any thoughts about working my way inside her house at that point, they were over.

I felt that she wasn't as interested in getting the drink as she was coming home with me. I felt a strong pull from, wanting me to make a move to come in, but the assault talk + I'm not really attracted fought against me. She ended up asking me for a hug, which I made fun of her for, but gave her a hug anyway. Then she was like "Well I guess I'll go inside now!" and I was like "Yup, nice night".

Kind of felt like I wasted my time, but this is also my first daygame date and my first "real casual" date ever. I think I could have got the hook up and gained valuable escalation experience, but I didn't want to fuck a sub par girl for the sake of fucking.

I was very surprised about how self-centered a 21 year old girl is, and how much she could just talk about herself. It was impressive how she could just keep yammering on and on about herself, her sorority, her job, her classes, etc, etc. I was also a little sad about possibly hurting her feelings, but I'm sure she can get 100 tinder matches in a day if she wants to.