Found some refreshingly honest red pill truths coming out of a Chinese dating show called “If You Are the One” last night (it is popular in Australia). If you haven’t seen the show it’s basically one male candidate who goes in front of 24 (mostly young and beautiful) women and he gets to pick out one he wants. If she has left a light on for him, which remains a mystery until the end, they leave together.

The candidate on this episode was a 6” smart, wealthy, physically fit, entrepreneur/architect with “a high IQ but low EQ” - his words. He was introverted and had little experience with women. He did not really get women or read their two-speak.

Anyway, the guy was retelling a story in which he and his ex-girlfriend had a fight. After the fight he asked her if she wanted him to stay (they were at her apartment). She said “no”. So he left. A couple days later she came back to him and said that “I only said no to see how much you actually cared for me, and to see if you would fight for me and to stay”. (Typical comfort/commitment test)

The discussion then turned to how women say one thing and mean the complete opposite - and various other subcommunication. There was slight variations on the theme but one woman (young and beautiful) said “if I say no 3 times, and firmly, that means no. But if I say no once, and not firmly, that means yes”. The other women on the show basically agreed, however an older woman (39) said that as women mature (pass the wall and get desperate) they don’t play these games. It was amazing to me to see these women actually laying out how they communicate. I seriously doubt the above discussion would have played out on an Australian dating show.

Interestingly, this conversation could have easily been read to have been a substitute for a discussion on sexual consent. We know women are aroused by sexual intent, and by male lust and desire for herself. If a woman says “no”, “not firmly, once”, in the heat of the moment, she is gauging the level of your desire for her, and seeing whether your desire will overpower her weak “no”. Just as the candidates woman was gauging his commitment to her - it’s a shit test. If you push through her weak “no”, you will prove your manhood a little more and show her you really want her, that her weak protest can’t stop you, which is what she wants to know, and this will arouse her more. “No means yes” or “please do what I’m saying not to”.

I think most guys know this (except maybe grade A betas) but recent times have muddied the waters. There was a government ad campaign in Australia on sexual assault and consent - and it may be popular in America too - “no means no”. Which is supposed to draw a firm and clear line in the sand, and to target young men in black and white terms - which is how men communicate. However, we know that women don’t work with firm and clear lines, and black and white communication, and no can actually mean yes, depending on how it’s said.

Now don’t be a fool and go and sexually assault a woman. Gauge the situation and read her subcommunication. If it’s “no, three times, and firmly” then she means no. If it’s “no, once and not firmly” and you already have her half naked in your bed, I suggest it’s a little bit of consent play and to continue. A lot of guys here say just back off for a couple minutes and then try again. But I thinks it’s actually more effective to override the no (depending on how that “no” is given) because that will result in better sex.