Hey all. Before I start this incredibly long chronicle into my life and story with The Red Pill, I wanted to say a huge thank you to all the people who have contributed so much as a letter to The Red Pill and all the fantastic self help resources here.

Anyway, onto the story. I'm 18 (19 very soon) and grew up in a single Mother household, whilst insignificant any pets we had have always been female, its just the odds I guess. So hopefully you're beginning to get an idea of my previous attitude to women, they are things to be idolised, respected and worshipped. Unfortunately, I held this view for most of my 18 years up until I found this place and more importantly all of the information here. Shortly after my 17th birthday I got my first ever girlfriend. I treated this girl like she was a fucking queen. You'd think she had my actual family hidden unless I was always nice to her. I would always message her first and we were locked in an eternal conversation if that makes sense? We would talk from getting off of the bus to when we would sleep and say good morning to one another. However, she would always take hours to reply later telling me that she was busy. Because I was needy, blue pilled and a whole host of other things at the time I would get frustrated when she wouldn't reply for hours, I even would check on instagram and compare her "Active x mins ago" to when I sent my message. Holy shit typing that makes me realise how bad I got. I pinned my inner happiness to her and honestly if I could I wouldn't even do the relationship again as I was just too unhealthy.

Then she broke up with me as she got a job as a flight attendant. Holy hell this took a toll on me. Looking back its kinda funny, immediately after I listened to Lukas Grahams Someone You Loved (banging song) to cry along to it, I felt like I could relate. Do you see the point I'm trying to push across? Think Blue-Pilled hunched back spotty beta who put too much of his happiness into something temporary. That was me, around 5 months ago. Today I'd be surprised if someone who knew me then would recognise me. The first thing I did was listen to a fuck ton of Jordan Peterson, I also read the resources here specifically to picking up women, "How to Slay like a Warlord" was a pretty good one except for sometimes it being a bit intense, as I thought that would help me. They are great reads and the principles of frame are honestly spot on. Furthermore the self help was the best decision I've ever made. I want to share some of the things and ideas that helped me the most, and how they changed my life for the better. To summarise; I used to be a Blue-Pilled, Needy, insecure little boy who held no value in himself or what he believed in.

• Lifting - Lift. Lift. Lift. Then when you're done lifting go and eat a lot. Lift for strength or Lift for aesthetics. But just fucking lift. The confidence and drive to push yourself are invaluable. In lifting it becomes you against you and it is by far the best form of therapy you will ever need. Plus the visuals are great. I went from 60KG-71KG at around 13% BF and get compliments every now and then, mainly on my shoulders as they're my best part but I digress.
• Learning about Inner Self Worth - Holding value in yourself is the most important thing not only when it comes to women but to your mental health. Being sound of who you are is so important. I personally believe that it is this self confidence that honestly built my ability to say no with the reason of "I don't like that". In the past I would always be saying yes to people, even if it was something I didn't want to do. I would pretend I was okay with things I very clearly wasn't. A guy at the gym asked if he could borrow my headphones for a session around 7 months ago (pre Red-Pill, although I was only dicking about and so made no real gains), he had them up until about 2 days ago where I demanded them back. He got almost aggressive in an attempt to intimidate me. I held my frame, but didn't become aggressive back. He asked me "What if I say no?" I just told the guy it didn't need to come to this and that he could just give them back to avoid making a scene. He did. For the blue pilled loser (prior me) reading this, yes, its really that easy. Most people don't want to fight, if they do they're idiots and its going to end badly for them.
• Just straight up not giving a fuck - For me personally this one has applied more to women than my professional life. I know its not a switch you can just flip and instantly be okay with, but its one of the best things to do for yourself. It will help 10 fold in talking to women and will help in achieving a happier life.
• Most importantly of all, just chill out - A common theme I see across Reddit is being so high strung and losing sight of whats important. You should already have goals set out, unless something is directly obstructing you achieving them you don't need to be stressed over it. If a girl doesn't get back to you instantly, throws a drink in your face or goes off in public you don't need to go ape shit and worry about it for every second of your life.

Like I say, they're the things that helped me the most. I'd consider myself to have started from a place lower than most of you fine gents did. I'd say I've turned out alright, better than alright actually. If you're new here I implore you to read every single resource here, they are fantastic collections of information built purely to help YOU be the man you should be. Opinions and questions are welcomed.