Not really kiddo.

The second rule isn't as straightforward; these are the kinds of things you would do that would act against the self interest in your potential suitors:

• Being cruel or mean to others

• Narcissistic

• Inability to listen

• Can't see other points of view

You're making a fundamental mistake here, and a very common one. You are assuming that because these things would be unattractive to to you, or to men in general, or to a reasonably thinking person, that women, who are none of those things, work the same way.

In fact, you have chosen a list of attributes that is almost diametrically opposite to those that are indeed unattractive to women. For example:

• Being submissive or deferential to others

• Seeking approval

• Indecisive

• Agreeable

These are feminine traits. They are strong turnoffs to strait women. They are perceived as weak.

Remember, attraction is not a choice. No one on earth chooses rationality to be attracted to what is in their best interests. Women do not choose to be attracted to men with narcissistic or dark triad traits. They just are.

TRP theorizes that this is genetic to the species, as an outcome of our somewhat brutal history in which females who were not attracted to powerful, dominant, cruel men—conquerers—simply did not survive. This makes a lot of sense. But it doesn't really matter what the fucking reason is, because we can observe for a fact that girls find outlaw biker escaped mental patient behaviors to be sexually attractive, and find compliant respectful generous provider behaviors to be first-class panty dehumidfiers.

This is fundamental red pill. You need to take this back to the drawing board, it's missing some core basics.

The notion of being Primarily vs Secondarily interested is rather curious.

My interpretation of such an idea is that the Primary is a genuine interest in a person due to their reflection of your value, where the activity of escalation and sex is a 'celebration' of your self-esteem.

A Secondary interest is born from a Machiavellian perspective whereby the target (yes, 'target', for now we shift to a Game rhetoric) is selected and primed based purely on how they may serve one's interests.

Indeed, Primary and Secondary are intimately linked insofar as they engender a sense of pleasure in the Prime Mover of the interaction (the man), yet are separated by the spiritual significance of the Primary.

I agree with the general premise that rule 2 is misunderstood and unappreciated. Your examples, however, are exactly the kind of traits that women find attractive in men, especially for casual sex and dating. The entire premise of the sub is that men get tired of reality not matching their Disney dreams of how relationships work, where shitty people get all the sex and women throw away their youth and vitality before settling with a provider who she kept at arms length and made crawl for the privilege of duty sex. Women desire men who are selfish and hold frame because if they can sink into the woman sized hole in the Achilles of every man, then she will have his power and protection. He will have the hard selfish shell to the outside world and the woman has the safe, warm, and gooey inner core to cocoon her. Hence why women like bad boys, how serial killers on death row get love letters and married, and how women stay and sleep with known players and cheaters.

This was eye opening when I personally had this proven first hand to me. The girl and I were arguing about a movie, where the protagonist was making stupid impulsive decisions and she was defending him. I kept it fun and more teasing than arguing, and ended with telling her something like "It's okay, we're all wrong sometimes." She replied, "Why do I find that so attractive?" Fun times were had afterward.

This idea that women want a non-narcissist, listening, and kind man is wrong. This is a subreddit filled with former nice guys who tried that strategy and failed utterly, the kind of nice guys who doubled down on it when it wasn't working and still failed. It simply does not reflect reality, and attempting to do so is really trying to paint the blue pill red.

Being mean is so f**ing attractive to girls its not even funny

You don't HAVE to be outright mean. It isn't always unnatractive, though.

The key is having some of these qualities in an amused mastery sort of way. A touch of narcissism, I'm the fuck'n prize, a little condescending.

You don't need to intentionally cause others harm, but you do need to hold your frame in a way where you're willing to say 'haha, look at all the peasants looking to me. Fuck em'.

Cocky, arrogant, narcissism. Amused mastery.

You're being black and white, where the truth lays in the middle 99% of the time.

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The things you mention as unattractive--being cruel, narcissistic, unable to listen, and unable to see other points of view--won't prevent you from getting laid. They thus aren't unattractive in the way you are saying because they don't subtract from your value in the sex market. True, in looking for a friend or business associate, you don't want someone with these qualities. But many other things will hinder you more in the dating sphere. Between an average nice guy and an arrogant jerk with the qualities you mention, the latter will do better with women.

Lastly, there is a concern with self preservation, as demonstrated in the Prisoners Dilemma, where if both people choose what's worst for the other person than everybody get's fucked (not in the way we're looking for either). This is where the concern for Rule 2 comes in as part of the social contract of casual sex. If you want to be apart of the causal sex dating group, you need to uphold the social contract of casually fucking. Break the rules and you're out of the group. Just like any other social group.

Not quite sure I follow you here. Can you expand on this? I'm taking it to mean that engaging in casual sex means both parties want to get something fun out of it and have low liabilities. From her perspective: be cool, nice (EDIT: I don't mean be a "nice guy"; obviously dominance, confidence, etc are attractive, but she needs some level of comfort and relatability) and don't slut shame her. From your perspective: she shouldn't get super clingy, nor ask for investment on your part, etc.