If we look around the world we will see murderers and rapists, thieves and thugs, perverts and psychotics. Men who may have once aspired to be more than these things but have settled for the names they have been given.
But no matter how debased, perverse, crude or fallen, there's not a man who does not look down on one particular breed of humanity: The Chump.
A chump is someone who believes in the greater good. Who believes that good triumphs simply because it is good. Trusts the government, trusts his fellow citizen, trusts feminism who says "show the world your face, it'll be okay".
And we've all seen that face, haven't we? The face of a chump. The man who lives and dies sipping the Kool-Aid served him by society, men who are ultimately forgotten.
Contrast this to an unidentified prisoner who was held in a number of French prisons, about 350 years ago. The man died in prison, actually, where he was for the majority of his life. Yet, exactly who he was is still a topic of interest, debated by historians today, centuries later: who was The Man in the Iron Mask?
When I started picking up women, I was scared to approach. I'm not sure of what, looking back, but I get it. It's not rational, the shakes, the sweaty palms, the stutter.
So before you approach here's what you should do: put on your "douchebag I-get-laid-every-weekend" mask. Literally imagine yourself with a mask on. No one can see your face. Don't be nervous about fucking up, because no one knows who you are. Kind of like you aren't nervous about writing stupid shit on the internet.
Next time you're trying to impress a client, put on your "confident" mask. It's not you. You don't even know how to be confident. You're emulating every Mad Men stereotype of what confidence looks like..... but you're not actually confident, under the mask. You may even end up looking autistic. But no one sees under the mask, so it doesn't matter.
Find yourself at a party, dicking around on your cell phone, not sure what to say to people? Boom, put on your high-energy, social mask and go nuts. You're playing a role, temporarily. Just think "social mask" and do it.
And if any of these masks aren't working for you... discard them. That's okay. You can always put on another one, even one with the same name. Yesterday's social mask didn't work, so put on one that's slightly different. Maybe it's more aggressive, or more goofy, or more energetic. It's hard to change yourself. But a mask? Those things are disposable.
What's important is to never let anyone see your real face, except your close friends. And maybe your dog.
Because the moment you take off the Iron Mask and show the world your face, the moment you share your feelings with your woman.... the mystery is over. No one cares about you anymore. You're just another chump.

DarkTriadDetector 7y ago
While there is a lot to be learned from taking on different roles and trying new things, I'd suggest people be careful if practicing this sort of behavior. The idea of putting on masks sounds very reminiscent of dissociation, where people put on fronts and play parts for the various people around them. I'd encourage people to read this account, and make sure what they are doing isn't in alignment with what this person experienced:https://psychcentral.com/blog/the\-masks\-of\-trauma/
FieldLine 7y ago
The assumption the article makes is that there's some "self", some fundamental "you" that becomes visible if you strip away all the "masks".
But the truth is that physically you are meat. The information that is consciousness is somehow encoded in your brain, and your brain is made out of meat.
And you -- the fundamental/spiritual/philosophical "you" -- are just your actions. (Which, incidentally, is why we tell guys to start working out and cold approaching, and the proper mindset will follow. Your thoughts follow your actions.) Whatever you choose to spend your time doing and talking about is what you are, and is subject to change.
This is the difference between saying "I'm not a math person" and "I never took the time to properly learn math".
barserek 7y ago
I love this metaphor. First you believe, then you act. Thoughts encourage action, which, when successful reinforces your initial thoughts, this in turn pushes you into more action, etc. It's a loop.
It also reminds me of a japanese folk tale/story I heard once. Everyone has three masks. The first mask, is the social mask, it's the one you put when being around strangers, co workers, random people. The second mask, is the one you use with your family and close friends, significant others. It's deeper than the first one, and it begins to show your true intentions and thoughts. The third mask, you only show it to yourself. It's the deepest and most terrible reflection of your thoughts and your true self.
seaguy87 7y ago
We all wear masks... metaphorically speaking.
RedDespair 7y ago
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_PanQ3g7j5E
seaguy87 7y ago
Hahaha I'm glad a few got the reference.
JamesP2018 7y ago
Being social while rooted in one's core values allows for growth of expression of those same values. Throwing on a mask that runs counter to core values is choosing against the growth of expression of those values. Expression of core values is the molding of the world around one's self into one's own image. Molding the world around one's self is dominance. Dominance is masculine. If there wasn't benefit to be had in throwing on the crazy party mask or whatever, it would have been selected out over time.
analonlybitch 7y ago
The thing about faking it until you make it, is that eventually you'll get exposed for what you really are. It absolutely works in the short term, but not the long term.
A more viable solution would be to actually change who you are. You don't need to put on a mask of "I'm a cool guy", you actually are a cool guy. You don't need to put on a mask and lie if you have actually made something of yourself.
I would also disagree that any man who believes in helping others and in the greater good is a chump. Virtually every successful person I have ever listened to has talked about the importance and fulfillment of giving back.
strikethrough123 7y ago
It's called "fake it till you make it" for a reason. Eventually you won't be faking it, you'll be living it. After a while, "I get laid every weekend" won't be a mask, because you'll be actually getting laid every weekend.
JamesP2018 7y ago
I would like to point out that these same people who love giving back so much first handled their own shit, and then worried about the giving part when they actually had something to give.
DamnDirtyApe87 7y ago
You can't make it if you don't do those things first, if faking it works as a stepping stone why the hell not. I'm guessing if you always wear a mask, yes people will see through it. But for starting short interactions, nothing wrong with faking it a little.
'We all wear masks ' -Dr. Arthur Neuman
FieldLine 7y ago
That's true. But how does that help me if I'm an unconfident loser who doesn't know how to talk to people?
"Putting on a mask" not only tells you what to do in a social situation, it also allows for a degree of separation. It's not you that's getting rejected. It's just the facade you've crafted.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YWyCCJ6B2WE
Becoming-The-Mask 7y ago
I agree. Every person and every situation requires a different approach to one than one you'd always perform. If people saw me for who I really was, they'd avoid me. But, they don't.
It's often fun to occasionally surprise people, but to give everything away would be to lose the game
Woodbroker 7y ago
Good point. You cant just fake it forever, hence the last part of the statement “till you make it”. One beautiful part of this is that once you are able to successfully “fake it” for a while, you realize that its not realy all that hard. Even though you may be shy, scared to approach, etc., if you can muster the balls to actually act, and pull it off, you realize irs not that big a leap from acting confident and actually being confident.
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U-94 7y ago
"You brought a mask and I put it on
You never thought to ask me if I wear it when you're gone"
/SistersOfMercy
EdmondDaunts 7y ago
I played in bands when I was a kid. Lead singer in a few. When I did presentations a few years later I remember the trick of adjusting the microphone or your papers before speaking to focus yourself on the moment. Helps reduce nerves.
What it really did was slip me into Rock Star mode. Get the first few chords out and away you go.
Masks definitely have their uses. As you say they may even be essential.
anabolic92 7y ago
Really good point and enjoyed reading, together with all the content linked to some of the points, thanks.
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arthurabyssal 7y ago
"But inside.." "But inside doesn't matter." "There is an idea of Patrick Bateman"
The_Noble_Lie 7y ago
There is nothing but masks. OP, you think you put one on for a particular moment in the past or present... but when you take that one off, you still have one on under it.
RedDespair 7y ago
I have made the same observations last month. Placing a mask does indeed help in confidence.
Have you noticed how uncomfortable you get when someone hides his face behind a mask or a balaclava? It's because you know he is unstoppable.
mghibli 7y ago
Yeah, the mask works at times, until comes a time it does not.
Use the mask but continue shaping yourself or you’ll never get out of the loop and burn out eventually.
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This works in the short term very well, but then it self implodes in the long term. Trust me. Its better to just be fully present, and in tune with your body, and then you wont need any masks. Your body or emotions will tell you "you are bursting with life and love!! Breathe in this delicious air! Smile in the sunshine!" And basically once you are present in the Now, you will know exactly what you want, and obtaining it will be effortless. As effortless as obtaining a bowl of rice. It requires meditation and focus. And best of all, you wont need any masks. No-mind, as eastern religions call it. No mind, just being. Just your body, exploding with life in every cell. Joy and awareness. Then you will find it incredibly easy to approach women, talk to people, etc. You can accomplish 100x more in this state. And actually, I'd argue that the only time you've ever accomplished anything or ever will accomplish anything is when you were in that state of being and presence, even if only for a few minutes.
Source: power of now, eckhart tolle
untonyto 7y ago
I've been reading books by various authors that explore this mind state. I try but this dog is old. Donno why this is getting downvoted, probably because you are promoting just-being in a thread advocating outward masks. There is no reconciling them so I won't even try. But as for my two cents, if one is congruent in thought, actions and intentions, which TRP promotes, then the need for masks falls away. It's really clumsy having to shuffle masks for different crowds and so I decided to drop them and rhe people who will reject the real base me along with the masks. Makes life a lot less political
banthrow 7y ago
> put on your "douchebag I-get-laid-every-weekend" mask.
But I DO get laid every weekend.
Well sometimes I pay for it but still...