The phrase “friend zone” is a concept currently owned and operated culturally by females. It is ostracized by males as a place to avoid at all cost. I would like to share a new perspective of diving head first into the ice blue waters of the friend zone to reveal that it can actually be a fruitful and refreshing sanctuary.

Start simple and befriend a couple. Learn to appreciate the friendship of both the male and female counterparts who have already chosen each other. You can avoid any awkwardness or assumption of interest by befriending both of them. This opens up new opportunities for work, hobbies, sports, or other shared interests. Befriending a couple can also double the network for social exploration because not only does the male have a group of trusted friends, so does the female. Now visualize this - this new couple befriends you and enjoys your company, you do activities together and you're the coolest new dude around and they’ve got a couple single friends they’d love to introduce you to. They’ve done the leg work for you. There’s no better approach than a recommendation.

Now, imagine the recommendation coming straight from a hot girl to another hot girl. That is the almighty coupon for 80% off an exclusive item. Pick and choose the rewards you’re willing to cash in within the dating game. Lets say you meet a prospect and there are a few reasons you don’t see it panning out. There are so many options we jump to. Hit it and quit it, smash and dash, move on, forget it, etc. All the typical catch phrase non-sense we stereotypically toss around with the boys at the bar. But what if you pulled a new move, the friend zone.

This concept only works if you actually find something you enjoy about this girl personality wise. Maybe she’s funny. Maybe she’s smart. Maybe she’s an athlete. Maybe she works for NASA. Whatever it is, find a reason about her that is worth a conversation. Still meet that girl for coffee, a drink, ask how her life’s going, invite her out with the friends. Bring her into the circle. Help her get a new job with a friend who owns a company or something. Be a good friend. Introduce her to a guy you think might actually click with her. The fact that you haven’t nexted her but have actually accepted her as a person will drive her wild. She very well still may want to get with you and may even come on stronger. At this point she may get a new haircut, start working out, change up her wardrobe and makeup game. Dang, she might even go up a couple notches. You can still pursue her if she has done all this work to get your approval, but if you decide it’s just not in your interest, keep her as a friend. This can go a few ways and if she begins to get jealous, do your best to diffuse it. If it works correctly, she will put you on a pedestal. There is nothing better than a recommendation from a girl who already loves you.

FR- one of my best friends in life is a straight HB10. She is a model in La. I’m one of the only guys in her life who has never given her a physical attribute compliment nor directly tried to get in her pants. She was in an LTR when we met and she literally wants me to get with her friends whether it’s casual or serious and has successfully set me up times before.