Hello ladies!

Obligatory “long time follower, first time poster”, though I did occasionally comment here and there. I am also on mobile so please bear with me regarding formatting.

I (24f), have followed the RPW sub for a little over a year, but only recently began practicing it over the last 6 or so months in my relationship once I felt I had a solid enough grasp on the theory to put it into realistic practice. I have been working on my femininity and submission in general for the last 3 years I would say, but this sub has been extraordinarily helpful in offering these ideas as tactical behaviors rather than just general concepts and ideas. I wasn’t coming into a lot of RPW theory cold, but it was a refresher and a wake up for a lot of things. Some of what I’d been doing in previous relationships and dating I had thought was the way to go and had been wondering why I wasn’t getting the results or as strong of a reaction as I’d been hoping. All of it had been well intentioned, just a bit misguided.

I started practicing RPW at the beginning of my new relationship (he is 25m). We have been together for about 6 months now. I had spent the 6 months before that vetting him and learning, as stated previously, before determining he has the qualities I was looking for in a Captain. A big part of my takeaway from RPW is the recommended idea of “take what works and leave the rest”. My Captain genuinely prefers a bit of sass from me, lighthearted teasing, and feistiness. These traits of my personality are actually what attracted him to me in the first place. He loves /earning/ my submission to him occasionally instead of me just offering it outright on a silver platter. But as with all men, this teasing and sass is never done in public in front of his friends, coworkers, or other men in general, and it’s important to know when to bring this out and when he needs loving deference.

Onto the big parts of theory I’ve decided to put into practice.

The art of STFU. Many times in my life I have found it difficult to hold my tongue, often to no avail. Learning this form of self control, allowing him to take the lead and not offering unsolicited advice has been major for both of us. He consistently tells me how he appreciates my respect toward him and his ability to make decisions!

Accepting him as he is. I’ve always been someone who tried to “fix” people, including previous romantic partners. Until discovering RPW, I had never realized how domineering and emasculating this comes across as I was not aware men read this as distrust and us viewing them as inadequate. Now, I offer advice only when it’s asked of me, which actually ends up being somewhat frequently because he values my input and knows I believe he’s going to make the right choice.

Complimenting his masculinity and juxtaposing it with my femininity. Real world example, the house he lives in had no shower in the downstairs bathroom, and the basement was finished but empty. He spent two weekends installing a complete shower and turning the basement into a home theater with surround sound and a huge projector and screen. He was so excited to show me! I of course gushed to him about it and told him he did an excellent job, and how I was so happy he is such a capable man who can do things like that, is so handy, and smart enough to figure all of those things out. He spent the rest of the night beaming, and showed up at my place the next day with flowers!

There are of course many other things, both big and smaller day to day ones. But what inspired me to make this post was our phone conversation earlier. He was talking to me about some stress he’s been feeling at work lately, he did not want advice, just to be heard and receive some affirmations. I told him I was proud of him for how hard he had been working lately, and that he was an intelligent man who is very good at his job and would pull through. He took a deep breath and said

“SweetDovely, I’m so happy with you. You really make me feel like a man and feel so loved in a way like I’ve never felt before.”

I was so over the moon! We talked some more and ended the call with him saying he’d be taking me on a nice dinner date this weekend and to the theater (which we both love). I just wanted to share this success moment, there’s been many others, but this one was so special I had to share with the community that made it all possible! :)