TL,DR: Wife begrudgingly gives husband scheduled once a week sex. No one finds this strange.
I came across this post while hunting for a laugh on srs. Of course, the colored hair entities on srs are veritable nut cases, but the comments they find objectionable tend to make me roll on the floor. This one did not. This one is just sad.
Let us begin:
I hate this so much. I am a wife and I have felt all of these things in exactly these situations (except the morning person thing) and honestly I don’t understand why women don’t “just do it.” Yes, we are tired, but is it so hard to just take 10 minutes for your partner? For something you are going to enjoy? (Make sure she enjoys it). Years ago I realized that life was sucking our sex life away. I made a rule that sex happens every Saturday night no matter what. No excuses. If I’m tired, too bad; should have gotten in bed earlier, I knew this was planned. I also try to make sure at least one other day happens during the week and I try to initiate so it isn’t always on him. So 20 years later this is still a thing. Sometimes I say “I’m tired, let’s make it a quickie” but it is an appointment that is written in stone. We did this with little kids, visiting family, etc. Of course things come up and it can’t happen on Saturday sometimes. But treating it as important means it gets made up soon. I really suggest this to women who aren’t interested. If you can’t convince yourself to have sex once a week you need to examine your relationship and find out why.
And there it is gentlemen. You believe you just locked down your oneitis for whenever you want, only to end up with scheduled, dried up, eyes turned away, starfish. How can a man look himself in the mirror if he lets this happen to him. Divorce will tear you a new one, true. But ending up in this indignifying situation is why I will not touch a golden ring. (For real though, if you happen to have Sauron's, pm me).
In the replies to this woman's comment, no one finds this strange. She gets applause; upvotes out the a; a couple of betas even want her to be their wife. SMH.
Oh, what did you just say? That the husband is a supplicating betabux who deserves what he is getting? That he doesn't lift? That he doesn't dread? That his frame is warm butter? That he just ain't alpha, bro? I bet you believe that you can be her captain, and keep it swampy like Louisiana down there. Alright captain planet, get your prenup that is stronger than superman's balls, and put a ring on it already.
Lessons learned:
Spin plates for life.
MattyAnon Admin 6y ago
While this is horrible - scheduled and treated like a chore... she's better than most. At least she's trying, despite obviously not feeling it.
Most men can look forward to this cold lack of feeling except combined with "I'm not your whore!" type outbursts, as the wife tries to shame/humiliate her husband into matching her level of disinterest.
Because this is better than most. When you're getting once a week starfish sex (or no sex at all), this looks like a great deal.
Do Not Marry
SKRedPill 6y ago
This one at least tries to take some ownership. I might be saying this because I'm a man, but even in duty sex, orgasms will still feel good when they happen. But then I'm a male, I could get that quite easily.
In any case, when the list goes like "Kids, Chores, Bills, Travel, Parents, etc...", where are you on that list? And if she says "I'm doing <list of all beta stuff>" -- well, that's not arousing. That might make me appreciate you and feel thankful, but hey, my parents did that stuff too. That's how beta game from a woman works for us, and most wives are frustrated when they don't get it. Just like nice guys, they talk of all the stuff they did and then complain when it comes to sex. I conclude that most wives have betatized themselves too in their own way, as seen by a man.
A bit of dread / separation game might help. By separation I mean, do something that causes them to miss you. You need to get hungry to enjoy a meal.
antariusz 6y ago
I don’t understand why men are surprised.
Women want sex, once a month for 2-3 days, with a chad. If she’s giving you sex once a week or even twice a week, you aren’t her chad. Because chad would be having sex with 9 other women for their 2-3 days a month.
jb_trp 6y ago
Yeah, if you read her comments she says they've been together 20 years. Having children together and still having sex a few times per week (with her initiating at least once per week) is decent for a marriage that has lasted that long.
outsider-outside-out 6y ago
Awesome post. I know couples who separated the rooms and you can imagine how many times they had sex in a year..
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MattyAnon Admin 6y ago
Or maybe you just got lucky.
Rian_Stone 6y ago
I'm about the same, coming up to year 9. It's not unheard of, but neither is replacing her ass with someone else, should it come to that.
Rules of attraction are always the same, be attractive, don't be unattractive. It's not a guarantee, but all the problems that stem up become much more manageable.
Granted, pregnancy can sometimes kill a womans sex drive, as much as a fat ass husband can. Things change, that's the issue. Hard to convince a man that the nuclear option is still effective with a kid in the house.
BluepillProfessor 6y ago
I have never personally seen a marriage anything like this and I have observed hundreds or even thousands of family friends, cousins, relatives, whatever. I guess rarely the sex drives match up so the woman cannot use the denial nuclear weapon.
Daddie0 6y ago
I can agree with you on this, a least she is recognizing it, which is better than most.
Take a look around at most married men, it's safe to say that over 50% if not 75% exhibit Beta Bucks behavior.
I have personally heard the outbursts you wrote of, trying to shame/ humiliate me into disinterest. “There’s something wrong with you. You’re a sex addict. You’re a pervert. All you want is sex.”
Found the following when I was a few months in to reading and working on myself:
Don't like chore / starfish sex? Don't have it. Want to see a hamster spin into overdrive? Work on yourself, get in shape, and when she asks you for the weekly chore sex, politely decline. At first she may be surprised but relieved, after a few weeks or months it may be a different story depending on your situation.
When she finally asks why you don't want to have sex with her tell her (calmly) how you feel about her starfish / chore sex. Tell her (calmly) how you feel about her shaming you for wanting to have sex with her.
BluepillProfessor 6y ago
Don't try to 'logic' a woman. Just agree and amplify this statement:
Rian_Stone 6y ago
yes, holy fuck yes.
Having said that. Was telling a guy yesterday. Don't be all happy for breadcrumbs, gotta think long term. If you want a nerd reference,
here
Taipanshimshon 6y ago
even for me this reference is a stretch
Rian_Stone 6y ago
Lol. Yeah, was either this, or quoting Zizec, and the crisis of capitalism, where he describes charity as protecting you from the true suffering occurring.
Basically, only a starving man learns to hunt. a hungry man sits there, hapoy not to starve.
Taipanshimshon 6y ago
more simply -
don't settle
Rian_Stone 6y ago
Yeah, that's like saying the trick to being rich is to 'earn more'
True, but theres some details missing
Taipanshimshon 6y ago
the actual trick to being rich is to spend less.
then the analogy works better. but I get your point
MattyAnon Admin 6y ago
This is exactly the language use when women are unattracted to their provider. I hope you have left this situation.
It doesn't. It's baseless and incredibly short sighted. Shaming language has no place in relationships. Women do it to get their provisioning from men they don't want to have sex with.
I've heard it from girlfriends too. I have never heard it from FWBs. Even though the latter is mostly sex, and even though I push harder for sex. Don't hear it. The worst I hear is a very occasional "I really want to but I can't tonight because of XXX valid reason".
The difference is so marked that I no longer can take it at face value. It simply means "not attracted". That's all there is to it. "Not attracted". Not tired, nothing wrong with me, not wanting too much sex, not having too much sex. Simply not-attracted and trying to maintain provisioning/security by saying "it's your fault" and thereby avoiding saying "not attracted".
You just don't hear it from women who are attracted to you, no matter how unreasonable your sexual demands.
Sure, I buy this, if you have children with her and therefore you have to make it work.
If no kids, just get the fuck out of there. I have no time for ungrateful lying manipulative women.
Daddie0 6y ago
Didn't leave, didn't have to, she realized that I was serious, wasn't fucking around.
Withholding sex, and then on top of it, shaming someone for wanting sex in a LTR / marriage is emotional abuse.
I had to own my shit. Not setting boundaries, basically give the dog a treat for pissing and shitting on the carpet. Not calling out her bullshit, for fear of abandonment.
MattyAnon Admin 6y ago
The narrative says only victims can be emotionally abused, and only women can be victims.
This is what you have to do when you're married.
It's insane. As if being married isn't enough already, you then find you have to be the parent to someone with the emotional maturity of a teenager at best. Far from getting support, men have to give both support AND manage her emotions.
It's a fucking shit deal for men, but I can't blame women for wanting it so badly.
Rian_Stone 6y ago
you should know better than this. She will never love you like you want her to.
there's a reason you list 'wife' under the dependents section of any form.
Now, we can argue if the juice is worth the squeeze, but we sure can't argue on some equal share of load in a relationship. As per usual, it's on us to get ours, since there's nothing else out there that empties our balls.
in OP's case, it's pretty standard. Pre-selection is the best way to attract a girl, from thot to 70 year old wife of 50 years. The dread of losing her man to another girl is functionally identical to a greek god who gives her tingles. Sure, there are differences, but her feelings don't know that. All she knows is a strong urge to fuck this man, and however she gets there is how she gets there.
OP stumbled upon passive dread, good on him. A ring is no guarantee of sexual desire, nor is a mortgage payment, expensive purse, or good parenting skills.
As per the usual, be attractive, don't be unattractive.
So, instead of wanting a lighter load, we ask for broader shoulders. Lucky for us, broad shoulders are in demand. Someone will be sucking that dick, and it's up to whomever you're saddled with to ensure it's her, and not that other bitch who will break off a piece if she gets half a chance.
Burden of performance. I don't even treat it like 'life is unfair'. I think of it as a blessing. Sure, harder than smiling and opening your legs, but at least my sexual appetites are under my own control. I don't have to wait for someone else to do it for me.
SKRedPill 6y ago
Don't you think women have a beta game of their own? I mean they do all the stuff your mom would do for you, but if they're expecting you to be satisfied with that, then it's just a gender flip of the nice guy game. Only here, the man wants sex (giver mode), in the nice guy game, the woman wants to be attracted (receptive mode) - a giant extension of how sex works. She needs someone who can give her the thrill, and we need someone who needs to be receptive to us.
No one enjoys a meal like a hungry person does. That is the essence of the dread / separation game. There's a reason for that whole "Men are like rubber bands thing".
In fact cheating at a biological level allows a certain kind of dread game. The oldest books on art and music have recognized that as an emotional flavour of it's own - it can make you intensely hungry because it's hard to get. It's like the feeling you get when you're aroused, but a T-shirt stands between you and a woman's boobs. I think the sensation isn't that different from taking off your clothes (For women a lot of sex is emotional). But since it fucks up society and civilization on an epic scale and ruins trust in a relationship, we need to create that feeling by dread game instead.
Too much familiarity causes contempt - I theorize that the tingles collapse like a flaccid penis. Create an obstacle, make some separation where you will be missed, create the hunger, create the thrill.
Rian_Stone 6y ago
Don't care what a woman does.
Also, look into DEVI. easy to keep Em interested
BluepillProfessor 6y ago
100%! It is cruel, calculated, deliberate emotional abuse designed to wear down the man into a compliant, on edge little Beta who will obey whatever the Goddess demands for a chance of a tiny whiff of pink. I really think this is calculated and planned on the part of the woman. They throw sex at you like rainwater and then in most cases they cut it off weeks after the wedding.
I no longer believe this is just a coincidence. I think it is a carefully planned strategy in most cases and that the women are fully aware of what they are doing from the earliest hypersexual phase to the 20th year of separate bedrooms. They fucking know.
Taipanshimshon 6y ago
why do you think they know vs responding to their emotional lack of attraction?
correction - responding to their physical lack of attraction emotionally
RedPill_Swinger 6y ago
Why are you fostering hypoagency?
They know because they're human and have a big-sized brain in the animal Kingdom lol.
I mean seriously? Is it always hamster's fault if they keep doing X only to stop a few weeks later? No. They. Fucking. Know. Like you would know in their shoes.
Taipanshimshon 6y ago
Just like we don't realize beta behaviors kill their attraction. Until someone points it out.
Asking a question of a user is not fostering anything.
BluepillProfessor 6y ago
I choose to imagine women in the worst light possible. I think it is willful blilndness and that they know exactly what they are doing to men BUT at the same time they really are blinded about what men find attractive.
This does not exonerate them in any way. The reason they are blind to men's motivations is because they don't care about men. They only care about what they can get from men. I believe "War Brides" and history has shown that women will jump ship and passionately fuck the killers of their husbands and sons. Women have a pathological dissociative ability that is frightening.
Rian_Stone 6y ago
As much as I want to believe they are Machiavellian masterminds, I'm more inclined to believe it's just a auto-pilot thing.
ThrowFader 6y ago
It is both.
If people think they can get away with something, they often do it.
Women discuss such things with friends and sometimes arbitrarily do such crazy shit just to see what they can get away with.
Women will compete with friends to see how beta they can turn their men. ive heard of this in real life, and I'm willing to guess it happens more often than we think
ozaku7 6y ago
Ofcourse, imagine how it feels to have power over someone that is supposed to have the power. It's like telling your boss what he should do and him actually complying.
Rian_Stone 6y ago
That's just boundary pushing. Children all do it
KirklandCamber 6y ago
She's been married to this man for 20yrs and still commits to at least once a week sex? This woman is a keeper from a long term relationship and marriage perspective. She's clearly committed to keeping one of the fundamental aspects of their relationship, sexual chemistry, alive and well. A red pill is that life is busy, and it gets involved in ways that complicate having great sex. If you're married, with young children, it's going to be nearly impossible to have 3hr mind blowing sex sessions on the regular. Even as a guy, if you're busy enough and progressing through life, opportunities to have long involved sex will diminish. Agreeing to at least once a week at a minimum, despite your moods, is a commitment to a relationship that you two will work past your immediate fee fees and do what's necessary for your long term commitment. That's a partner that can delay gratification and anticipate future outcomes. That's not easy to come by.
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Agree she's being unselfish which is something you will never get from spinning plates.
Archterus 6y ago
Agree. I've seen many, many men with a quarter of time under the belt getting less. At least she is committed, better than many. But is this what you really want? I think not. As u/MattyAnon says....
banjew 6y ago
Yep. Can confirm. I was married for 10 years, the same as my friends.
Marriage usually go two ways:
1) Sex every day even when you are 50. Incredible but it happens. My uncle was like that, famously she fucked his wife several times each day. He found a true unicorn, lucky bastard. Died of cancer some years ago.
2) Dead bedrooms. No sex in years.
At the end of my relationship I was getting sex once a week. Not bad. Now I have a new girlfriend and we used to fuck many times every day but we are now to 2 o 3 times a week. Mainly because we don't see each other that much.
Creakic 6y ago
You mean unicorn ?
Bp post .
OmegaMan2 6y ago
When I met my wife for the first time we hit it off and after 30 years are still going strong. When we were dating she tried so very hard to show me what a good wife she would be. She cooked for me, cleaned my apartment and the sex was really good too. After two years we got married and to be honest I was worried since her mother weighed in the 300 pound range.
To make a long story short, we have 4 children and after all these years she still rips my clothes off.
On the other hand, my sister, brother in law, 2 cousins and numerous friends were divorced. I don't really know why we were successful, except for the fact that everybody was against us getting married. The "I told you so's" would have been far worse so we stuck it out.
The other secret if there is one is to be kind and decent to your woman. Always be the man in the relationship but be honourable.
The third secret would be to keep yourself fit so that other women are hitting on you. I never cheated and she knew it but she also knew that I had options which I could exercise if it ever came to that.
Having said all of that, I would still advise men to be very careful in today's marriage market.
My wife was also 21 when we got married
juliusstreicher 6y ago
OK, are we all going to get together and kick the shit out of this guy???
OmegaMan2 6y ago
Another secret would be not to be a noodle armed twerp nor a whiny little bitch incapable of formulating a rational counter argument.
juliusstreicher 6y ago
OR, not be such a fag and accept a compliment couched in the form of a witticism.
OmegaMan2 6y ago
In that case I accept your complement, and offer my apologies for being a bit on the bone headed side
OmegaMan2 6y ago
In that case I accept your complement, and offer my apologies for being a bit on the bone headed side
Entropy-7 6y ago
Realistically, you can't "spin plates for life". There comes various stages where you have to give up on the idea of banging teenagers, then banging 20-somethings, and perhaps at one point not being able to pull 30-somethings.
I got married last Sunday, just a few days after my 51st birthday. My wife is 18 years younger and gets upset if I do not bang her every day or two.
Check back with me in a decade to see how that holds up.
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Billybeanist 6y ago
Lmao wtf. Some people value a companion over just quantity of sex.
Being able to be with the same woman is alpha Bouncing around to different girls is beta Sorry to break it to you
FaderOne 6y ago
Sad to say, but she is better than most women of that demographic I hear/know about these days.
On not getting married: After a few years of reading the sidebar and shutting the fuck up, I decided to commit to having a life I wanted which would give me purpose. This included getting a vasectomy at 23, and making an oath to myself that I would never marry in the traditional sense.
I tried to think “how will I be different and what are some potential different needs/wants may I have in the future?” Because the fact of the matter is, by 2027, everyone here will be different. Through time, changes in life, and a greater accumulation of experience it is an almost guarantee that what I am will change.
I look forward to seeing if the design of my life still holds true in time. A few years in, and I have not one thing to complain about.
EtMementoMori 6y ago
Don't listen to that mycyka bullshit man. Nothing is wrong with vasectomy. But I do hope that you did freeze your good sperms (and continue doing so after the vasectomy). This will make sure that in the worst case scenario, when you want to have your own child, you do have another option if the natural way does not work (after vasectomy-reversed procedure). PM me how you feel when you go raw dog with a girl and 3 months later, she saw no shits :))
FaderOne 6y ago
Thanks, I take his response in stride, as most things.
I thought long and hard about freezing sperm, but in the end I opted not to do it. I think I justified that decision with personal and scientific reasons.
Personally, there I am awful history of mental illness in my family. Father’s life is destroyed, my oldest brother last 15 years of his life. Thankfully I have yet to succumb to it but it is hereditary...so despite having confidence that I will be fine & proactive health checks in place, I wouldn’t want to risk having a child of my own to pass it onto.
Plus I can always adopt. Bitches love orphans.
CRISPR is exciting technology in the world of life sciences that serves as a “genetic scalpel” allowing you to remove genes that dispose you to such illnesses and disease. The technology is developing well, and it makes me think that if I did get my vasectomy reversed, I could CRISPR the bad genes if I were to have children of my own.
But again, bitches love orphans. We shall see.
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mycyka 6y ago
So basically what you've learned from Red Pill is to almost castrate yourself at 23? You will 100% regret that decision, later in life.
Musicgoon 6y ago
What the hell are you talking about? Castrate is to remove ones testicles. A vasectomy doesn't lower testosterone, kill sex drive, or remove testicles.
All that happens is you're able to Raw dog without worry. Don't spread bullshit. I should have got a vasectomy at 23. A snipped guy will be happy while other guys are paying child support and having their son feminized or their daughters prepped to become an entitled borderline..
A vasectomy is a very good choice!
mycyka 6y ago
Hence 'almost castration'. Dude... you are a retard if you actually think like that. A snipped guy will be an evolutionary stump. A worthless piece of meat.
Musicgoon 6y ago
And how many children have you fathered? And what have you accomplished except for trolling people on Reddit?
FaderOne 6y ago
Might happen, it’s a possibility that I would be remiss to ignore... But I didn’t learn that solely (nor is it my lone takeaway) from TRP.
Castration does differ from vasectomy, not to be nit picky with semantics, my friend.
Happy to explain the entire rational behind my decision, if you think that would be useful.
IwannaFocus 6y ago
Honestly, even if you do everything right and marry a chick that checks all the correct boxes; there's no guarantee that it will be smooth sailing.
My dad has good genes (tall, high SMV, Ages nicely). He told me that he around 100 women over the course of his 31 years (before he met my mutha). He had game, charm, passion and ability to make women do what he wanted.
Then he met my mom. Classical beta shit of falling in love. And you know what? It was fine and dandy in the beginning. But you see, when you're high SMV - Women don't give a shit if you're married or not. The ring might as well be invisible. So naturally, my dad received a lot of attention. Women would flirt with him despite the fact that his wife stood right next to him.
It crushed her. Legit got into her head. Think paranoia. She would check my fathers clothes for perfume smell and leftover hair. She would ask his friends if he's been with other women. She would confront the chicks that flirted with dad (think mateguarding x 100).
In all honesty, despite her never learning the truth, my dad did sleep with other women. He was on another level of her on all fields, so naturally she could never catch, defeat him etc. In the end her paranoia got so bad that my dad called it off. No marriage was worth that shit in his eyes. To this day, he still says that her paranoia aside - she was a good wife (submissive, agreeable etc).
People have been saying that it's possible to have a successful marriage (ala Rollo), but in my eyes his wife is a very, very rare exception to the rule. A true unicorn? Hell, I sometimes wonder if Rollo tells us the truth. Perhaps, having high SMV isn't such a good thing when it comes to marriage...
p3n1x 6y ago
A BP comment. So many here make it about the wife. It is about the man and his frame. Stay solid and so do they.
BS. She knew. Thier intuition for that is stronger than ours. Some woman actually enjoy that part of dread. It keeps their mans SMV up in her eyes.
PM_ME_UR_TECHNO_GRRL 6y ago
It's not mere paranoia if she was actually right.
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p3n1x 6y ago
You need some sidebar training. FEELINGS ARE TRUTH to a woman. It doesn't matter whether the action happened in the physical world or not. If she "feels" you suck, then to her you "truly" suck.
outsider-outside-out 6y ago
If a chick thinks that a high SMV man will be sleeping with just her, she's either delusional or idiot. What's awkward here is that she thinks that this high SMV dude is supposed to be loyal to her anyway. Nice to see that he banged other chicks.
SrPildoraRoja 6y ago
Great insight my man. Thank you
buddhadarko 6y ago
Great post, and hats off to your dad.
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p3n1x 6y ago
Sometimes they do this because they are the ones with someone on the side and they are upset with you for letting it happen.
IwannaFocus 6y ago
A good point, but then again there's no "safety" in having a relationship where both are cutting edge of SMV. The risk will still be present because at that level, people just don't give a shit. If he's got Brad Pitt looks, but wears a ring - the chicks will still approach.
Love is a drug. But unlike other types of drugs, you build resistance to love over time. Obviously the sexual olympics of the first few months are on another level - but it does not last. I find it baffling that despite all the proof in the world, our society still can't accept the fact that people do get tired of each other. Companionship for life seldom lasts for a lifetime (even if it does, doesn't mean that both parts are happy). Perhaps when both parts are 60 - and are looking for soul-searching rather than carnal lust, it can work.
I'd also argue that few people are aware what a true SMV high value male is. HB10 woman is not even close to HB10 man. HB10 man is attractive to the point where high value chicks (HB8+) are willing to break their taboo, of not approaching. They attractive to the point where women would rather be willing to share them, than potentially fight and lose him.
It's also kind of eye-opening how women and men differ in that regard. Women are willing to share if they are afraid enough of losing that man. Men on the other hand.....
7thAnvil 6y ago
Women are willing to share a high value man because of the instinctual drive for high value seed. Critically, she knows any baby coming out of her vagina has her DNA. Even if he cheats, if she is only sleeping with him, then she gets the high value seed anyway. Men, on the other hand, have historically not been able to prove paternity. So assuming they have options they will not be willing to share a womb (no matter how high value).
Thinkingard 6y ago
Your remark on Rollo makes me think of Married Man Sex Life and when I discovered his wife was a fat fugly. It just made me lose all interest in his material.
juliusstreicher 6y ago
Athol Kay, the force of MMSL, has also fallen out of favor for other reasons. I can't remember what they were, but, didn't he also start preaching some BP nonsense?
Also, his wife isn't fat fugly; just fat.
Westernhagen 6y ago
Hey, whatever works for him...
http://marriedmansexlife.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Author-Jennifer-Kay.jpg
enjoy_life88 6y ago
She is? Oh boy...I loved the Rational Male...
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RP085 6y ago
From David X:
"Hmm, let's see...
You know? You're right!"
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I don't get OP's point.
If you make a long term commitment to anything then discipline > motivation.
This includes fucking. You can't tell me that every workout in the gym your excited to go, sometimes you just have to force yourself to do something because the habit is too important to be held hostage to your whims and feeeelings on the day.
This goes for marriage, it takes work and discipline to make work, this is why it's such a bum deal now days because there is no societal expectation to make marriages work despite your short term feelings.
If this quote did come out of SRS I'm amazed, it's great advice. Replace "sex with husband" with "going to the gym" and you could post it here.
NakedAndBehindYou 6y ago
Regular duty sex is actually the best that many beta males can hope for.
U-94 6y ago
Unless you're hellbent to have children (ugh, why) do not get married or really date any seriously. Understand that as a guy, you'll get tired of the same girl after a month. You can try all types of tricks, juggling girls and so forth....but everything gets old. Imagine playing the same video game level over and over. If sex is your ultimate goal as some sort of reward for yourself, please consider you will have to balance the good nights with many by yourself.
cashmoney_x 6y ago
Every marriage is an uphill battle because committing to one guy is contrary to female nature.
m0rphing 6y ago
It's even more contrary to male nature to commit to one female.
BluepillProfessor 6y ago
This is the best wife you can get these days. Most of them cut off sex after about a year and quickly reduce it to twice a month.
GreenPiller 6y ago
So basically men get friendzoned by their wives? Because I honestly see no difference here, women aren't asexual but its so easy for them to lose attraction. I'll never understand women...
EtMementoMori 6y ago
Same answer. Maybe Blue-pilled for most Chads here, but a life-saver for those Married Betas. At least they have a "sex-life". sigh.
RedWinter88 6y ago
To be honest I just read this as a woman who knows having sex with her partner is important and not to let life get too busy to have sex with her man. She isn’t even talking about avoiding him... just making sure he gets it because it’s important.
enjoy_life88 6y ago
The point is that genuine desire is not negotiable. It either exists or it doesn't - forcing something just makes the situation worse.
Who wants to fuck a woman that goes "Okeeey then. Let's do it theeen... /sigh". Right, only the deprived.
banjew 6y ago
I had a girlfriend like this. Then I couldn't get it hard, I was really worried, this went for years. She gave me shit on that, never able to get a full erection. Tried lots of things, doctos, food, exercise, etc.
Then I tried the last option: Fucked other girls. I was hard as a diamond every time. Turns out, my body was working perfectly.
Archterus 6y ago
Believe. Many a time a man has asked me for Viagra for ED. Turns out the problem was sitting on top or lying beneath him.
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enjoy_life88 6y ago
Exactly. Some women display such asexual behavior and wonder why the wood won't do.
NEXT.
askmrcia 6y ago
Yea but you need to read the post again. The wife is giving him duty sex. Meaning she's not even into it and she's most likely just laying there.
Put it this way, imagine trying to have sex with a guy time and time again where he won't get hard. I mean sure you can suck on his floppy dick and grind yourself on him, but is that sex really enjoyable?
See the problem here? Just making sure he gets it is important to a point. If she doesn't want to have sex with the husband and probably have it with someone else, there's a huge issue and it may be up to the wife to fix things assuming the husband is clueless on what the problems are.
Most likely the wife isn't attracted to the guy anymore because she got married. She settled down with a guy that she really don't want after sleeping around with a lot of other guys during her younger years.
RedWinter88 6y ago
Maybe because I am not seeing the rest of it or whatever she is replying to.
She even brings up that she makes sure she is initiating it. Just because they have a schedule / routine doesn’t really come across to me as duty sex that she doesn’t enjoy / want to have.
I understand your point of why duty sex is bad, but she doesn’t really come across as if it’s some awful chore. Looks more to me like a woman making sure her man is taken care of, and apparently has been doing it for 20 years.
I don’t really understand what point you are trying to make about having sex with a floppy dick and how that relates to this woman who makes sure that she makes time to bang her man every Saturday (and during the week) even if she isn’t feeling like it.
askmrcia 6y ago
The way it sounds, it comes across as chore. She knows she has to do it to keep the marriage alive. But she really doesn't WANT to do it.
I honestly don't know how I can explain it any better. If you're having sex with someone and you feel like they are not into it, how the hell can someone enjoy that?
Who wants to have someone just laying there like a dead fish. My point about it being floppy is that the guy is turned off from having sex for whatever reason, yet the girl is still trying to have sex. I'm not a chick, but I'd assume that doing that is not enjoyable. They are doing it because they have to or whatever.
RedWinter88 6y ago
Nothing about her post comes across as anybody is laying there like a dead fish. I get the point you are trying to make but just because they make an effort.
It doesn’t even come across as the dude is turned off from floppy fish sex. It comes across as 2 adults who are probably busy as shit and on a schedule, make it a point to take time out of their day to bang.
empatheticapathetic 6y ago
It's a chore yeah but you really don't seem to be able to comprehend the idea of a dead bedroom.
It's better than nothing.
askmrcia 6y ago
I do. I consider that a dead bedroom. Having sex with someone that's not really into it is just nasty to be honest. There's nothing fun or enjoyable about it. Its pretty much the same thing as a deadbedroom
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askmrcia 6y ago
Oh ok. Well yeah just from experience it's horrible to have someone just lay there.
empatheticapathetic 6y ago
The point was you're talking to a starving man about the importance of nutrition.
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Fontess 6y ago
Problem is more deeper than that.Your wife is not some plate who is not fuckign you so its no problem if she doesnt want to fuck you, you didnt invested much in her anyways and there are other woman around. its your wife. You put time and effort in your wife and then she wont fuck you because she is simply not attracted to you and you probably did soemthing loserish lately. she doesnt respect you. worse than no sex is getting duty sex (or rare sex ) when you invested years of effort into realtionship while you could spend that time and effort in yourself and fuck 10 times better woman than your shitty wife. Your time is much more valuable than shitty sex with your wife.
BewareTheOldMan 6y ago
This is the classic AF/BB scenario. Women scream, whine, and complain all over the place the number of sexual partners doesn't matter, but by the time she "settles down" with the best man her looks/SMV and RMV can attract she's already "burned out" from sexual activity with too many different men.
Of course sex is used to "bait" men into marriage only to "switch" to starfish or duty sex post-marriage…if the husband is getting sex at all. Meanwhile, Beta Provider Chump has to provide his wife benefits along with the legal and social requirements of marriage while suffering the indignity of not only crappy sex from his wife, but restricted to not being able to relieve himself sexually with anyone else.
It's an all-around win for the wife, but crappy deal for Mr. Beta Husband.
Women who are genuinely attracted and enthusiastic about sex with their husband don’t behave this way.
I give her credit for trying to work through the situation over a 20-year marriage. Hopefully, she makes up the difference somewhere else in her wife and mother skills. That’s the only way I can see a man accepting this pitiful situation.
BluepillProfessor 6y ago
Who are they? Where are they? How do they behave?
p3n1x 6y ago
So many guys think they can hold the proper frame with only "one" woman in their life. I'm curious if the commenter above has a mistress?
In my situation, I always have one. 20 years later, the wife and I still 'fuck', a lot.
banjew 6y ago
In my experience, it sad but the more sex partners a girl have had in his life, the less enthusiastic her is about sex.
Lots of partners "You dont satisfy me sexually, buy me toys bla bla bla"
Few partners "Lets fuck until my head explode"
BewareTheOldMan 6y ago
I can’t speak for everyone else, but my LTR is locked in and provides me everything I want/need in virtually every aspect.
We don't have problems in any major area of the relationship. I know it's good now and is subject to change.
If and when it does, I am ready to adjust or terminate as dictated by a major shift in circumstances. She's tracking that everybody is replaceable and she has to earn her position (in the relationship) every day.
I have seen the same/similar examples in other relationships, but it's rare and my focus is her and how her actions/presence benefit me in the relationship.
It's not one-sided. She's making out pretty well in the relationship as well.
Wilreadit 6y ago
Wait till she gets bored and approaches a family court for money
BewareTheOldMan 6y ago
Wait till she...approaches a family court for money
The ex-wife pulled this tactic. I received several promotions over the years, but the last promotion resulted in a huge increase/quantum leap in monthly salary.
The laws allow for women to petition for more financial support. Interestingly enough I had no objection to paying more child support. My objection was she was somehow always financially burdened despite receiving on-time child support for years and huge tax refund/head of household tax breaks.
I tried to negotiate and direct expenditures, but the courts and the laws won't allow for this control measure. You have zero transparency or control on how child support is utilized. It's frustrating and expensive to fight against the system. It's better to accept the loss...just take the "L."
When I got the kids for the summers/holiday weeks and weekends/Spring Breaks, I would always have to make additional purchases for what I considered basic items.
She would purposely hold out on academic items/equipment (computers, backpacks, software, arts and crafts, raw materials for school projects, etc.)...knowing I was going to cover down because my kids used these items in school. I was not going to let it slip. It's just how it was and likely how it still is with women.
Wilreadit 6y ago
Siphon money to a trust. That is one. Then get her to marry someone. Fix her up with a total loser. Get evidence and then re approach the family courts.
But most of all.DO NOT MARRY. DO NOT LIVE IN.