Strong emotional stability is a turn on for women. They don't want to hear your bullshit and if you don't speak of it they will thank you for it. It shows them you will be able to deal with the issues that life throws at her and at yourself. As well as giving her an indication that you have the ability to hold a steady job.
This guy's name is Richard Kuklinski, he is a contract killer whom exhibits an emotional detachment from empathy. And an ability to "compartmentalize his emotions." In the end his intense emotional stability turns women on. This is an excerpt regarding certain female responses to a documentary created of him in which he speaks of murder with complete emotional detachment:
“He also received, oddly enough (especially to him), many love letters from scores of women from around the world who wanted to have relations with him. Many women even sent photographs of themselves to him. In some of these the women were buck naked, boldly exposing their charms.”
At the end of the documentary, he nearly begins to cry when talking of his family. However, his wife was miserable around him, he was overprotective (insecure) and physically abusive. As well as highly unstable around the house (breaking furniture in front of his wife and then showering the kids with gifts the nexy day). All this emotional instability made his wife resent him. (The women whom watched the documentary didn't know this).
All I'm saying is that a woman doesnt want to hear your bullshit, it's called emotional stability. Not stonewalling or being boring.
bvg68 6y ago
I do not consider contract killers "emotionally stable." An equally likely explanation is that he is in prison and unlikely to get out; is the exact reason he gets so many letters. Women like the silly romantic fantasy archetype of an unavailable hero. I have not read any accounts of prisoners who are released after serving their time becoming great PUAs.
Daddie0 6y ago
Women do not want to hear about your problems, or really give a shit about how your day was, but they will tell you about their problems, and how their day was in great detail.
Just a few weeks ago my wife was bitching about work, I was listening to her as I was doing other stuff. She finally said "You probably hate listening to me talk about work, because when you talk about work I could really care less..." before I could even take a breath to say anything she proceeded bitching for another 10 minutes nonstop.
A few years ago before I even knew what BP / RP was, I was "opening up" and bitching about work to my wife, I was really stressed out at the time. She basically told me that she was tired of hearing me bitch about work and didn't want to listen anymore.
I'll still catch myself from time to time, and I stop myself. Normally if she even asks how my day was I'll just say "Fine." and STFU. She really doesn't want to know and could care less.
Ananonguy88 6y ago
I wanted to break up with my latest LTR without coming out as a dick because I'm a manipulative coward.
I just broke my frame on purpose and threw all my emotional bullshit about my life and past on her that I could.
Next morning she left me by herself.
So I'm just throwing tips for guys wanting to avoid emotional drama during breakup, she will even pat you on back if you play it well.
Not sure If this is the right way to do it, but it works for me.
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VasiliyZaitzev 6y ago
Umm....
Except Kuklinski suffered from both Antisocial Personality Disorder and Paranoid Personality Disorder. He was also likely a malignant narcissist which, in combination with APD, is how you get "Natural Born Killers".
TeaTree100 6y ago
This is why his wife resented him and the house tensed up every time he came home. That side of him is defiantly not a good TRP model.
CloudGuide 6y ago
"The women whom watched"
Whom?
Andgelyo 6y ago
Disagree, kind of. The guy who's charismatic, funny, and all around personable will trump the "unemotional" dude all the time. Being unemotional is all cool and all, especially when you're banging sluts and never calling them, but if you really wanna impregnate yourself into women's minds and drive them crazy you gotta shine that personality.
ekilic911 6y ago
Careful with the examples you present on in this sub since we got a lot of lurkers and outsiders.
ShakaLeonidas 6y ago
Dopamine- withdraw -Oxytocin-withdraw-dopamine- dopamine- withdraw - oxytocine . Repeat.
Girls dont want emotional stability. This aint 1955.
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Qwertyete 6y ago
No it isn't - 90% of the time emotional stability is boring, what do you think the phrase "we been through so much together means"? It literally means that the guy she was with put her through so many emotions that it feels like they've been together for years
The more highs and lows you take her through the more she'll get hooked, and she'll be additcited to the emotional turmoil, its like condensing a decade into a couple of years if done correctly
These women aren't attracted to The Iceman because he's 'emotionally stable' it's because he's a fucking serial killer who has a whole bunch of power, women love danger because it's exciting and that the exact opposite of there boring little lives of Netflix and Instagram
Charles Mansons a fucking Manlet at 5'1 who's ugly as shit and gets hordes of letters so do those fucks who shot up columbine, serial killers are attractive because they represent a fantasy nothing more
What's that saying? You can do anything to a woman but bore her
Daddie0 6y ago
You do realize the fucks who shot up Columbine committed suicide?
TeaTree100 6y ago
Dude, emotional stability is the ability to act on your emotions as opposed to letting your emotions act on you. Of course you don't walk around with the same emotion and not give excitement.
Med_rapper 6y ago
Putting her through emotions not you experiencing them.
VasiliyZaitzev 6y ago
This is a photo of the wall in the cell of Colorado movie theater gunman James Holmes. A lot of those broads are certainly bangable...but how many of them would have looked at the Joker-haired object of their (now) affections when he was just a "normal" guy?
newName543456 6y ago
Emotional stability means YOU have a strong frame.
You can take them on a ride while keeping stable yourself.
AshyLarry27 6y ago
You seem to be correlating a guy's emotional stability to his ability to make a woman feel emotions, but that makes no sense. I agree emotions are a huge part of connection, but that is based on the experience you give her. You can show some emotions, but the bigger message was that this guy "appeared" to never let his work deter him. He appeared under control despite working in a job that involved a lot of mental stress. This is similar to a James Bond personality. How often was that guy on a roller coaster or emotions?
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MisfitPL9 6y ago
Yeah - The Iceman is a great TRP role model. Fuck me - what is this shit
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no-one said he's a role model.
He's a case study.
PhishPhan700 6y ago
Truth, women don't give a shit about your problems. They just don't. If you really want to test this theory I would suggest finding your significant other and starting a conversation about your existential dread or depression. Her vagina will quickly become a Sahara. That is not to say that you should simply be emotionless as women like charisma and laughs, they just don't care about whatever emotional issues you may be having.
teuwo 6y ago
Do you usually get turned on when a woman tells about her existental dread or depression?
PhishPhan700 6y ago
Definitely not, which is how I know that it applies to both sexes
OneRedYear 6y ago
Nobody gives a shit about your problems. Even your friends and family will get tired of them. Either solve them or learn to live with them. Carry on.
PhishPhan700 6y ago
That's pretty accurate. Your family will (generally) care more than women and friends will but there is a limit.
ScottishBarfly 6y ago
For those curious, you can read more about Kuklinski in the book 'The Ice Man' and there is also a movie and documentary with the same name.
bickisnotmyname 6y ago
Not to be confused with Wim Hoff
rigbed 6y ago
Hoff is also a great case study
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48756394573902 6y ago
Emotional stability is an indicator of psychological maturity which is extremely attractive. If/when they realise that youre faking it or its a symptom of some weird psychology ie youre just dissociated like this guy, then theyre going to turn on you.
ExposeTheFAUX 6y ago
Who the fuck cares about girls finding out you're fake. Just replace with different plates and move on.
FREEDNA 6y ago
"I'm on to you mister!!"
"k" block delete
NEXT!
IdolStud 6y ago
Emotional detachment does make you attractive in women's eyes, because it is a source of strength and dominance. Amazing documentary.
However, you don't need to be a psychopathic contract killer to achieve this ability, and showing emotions once in a while is necessary if you want to connect with women on a deeper level.
DamiensLust 6y ago
Thanks for pointing out that you can be mentally stable & not an assassin.
IdolStud 6y ago
My ex used to call me a sociopath since few things (her adorable little tests) would faze me. Usually right before humping my brains out. Girls do make that connection.
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tibikush2012 6y ago
Maybe the fact you are seeing the kind of women who dont want to hear about your problems is why you witness AWALT every time?