So I'm relatively new to this whole dating thing. I went to a small university and "dating", where a specific time and place was set up, was never something which I needed to ever participate in. Now that I'm living in a big city, I've had to learn (and suffer) how exactly this whole thing works. I can remember at first how nervous and unrelaxed I was going on dates. It wasn't my own space I was in, I would never feel completely comfortable and I'm sure my dates saw it. I'm much more confident now and I want to share one thing I have noticed and changed about myself.

In pretty much every date I go on, there comes a point in the night where my date and I gaze at each other and the conversation dies out. At this point the girl usually asks something like "What are you thinking about?" or "What?" with a nervous laugh behind it. My old self would, at this point, also nervously laugh or say something like "Nothing" and move the conversation on to something lighter. I used to think that I was being too intense with my gaze or that I was making the feel uncomfortable. .

However, I realise now that this point in the date is extremely important. Its at this moment which you can show your own strength and uncompromising state. By simply smiling and not saying anything, you show her that you have the strength of will to hold her in your gaze and not be ruffled by anything she does. Her asking the questions is simply a shit test and nothing more.

On my last date, I used this to great success. This was a first date with a smoking hot ballet dancer who I took out for a drink. Throughout the night I made a point of keeping confident body language and my frame, but not making much physical contact. I've found that if you escalate physically too fast sometimes, it shows a woman you are too needy and she will put up her ASD. Well later on in the night we were talking about something sexually funny which made us both laugh. At this point I looked at her and the conversation stopped. She asked me "What?" and giggled nervously. I took it at this point to escalate physically and placed my hand on her thigh. She shuddered and then looked around and told me that "You just made met wet." At that point, I knew the date was a success and she told me se wanted to go back to mine. I didn't even have to ask.

TLDR; learn to STFU when it counts and hold your frame. Silence is a great tool.