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showerdudes99 6y ago
After being rock bottom since my past gf of 7 years passed away in cancer, my mother also and one of my best friends, within the period of 5 years. I'm 32 and all of that happened from when i was 24 to 28, had to move in with my stepdad and had been living like a loser there, smoking weed, wellfare, alcohol, pornaddict, adderall, caffeine, nicotine, you name it.
The past 8 months has been a complete turn around, I stopped all of those things one after another and suffered withdrawal like you would not believe. I rode it out day by day and it strenghtened me like jesus christ. I've gotten a job which is very sociable, meeting new people all the time (i was an introverted, shy, anxious loser obviously, still a bit introverted but def. not shy or anxious around people anymore)
Payed off debts i had, removed all computer games, have morning routines, do great at work and I started lifting although without a real program so i've only gotten some base strenght but didnt want to mess up my body too much by lifting poorly/too randomly so I'm hopping on 5X5 SL and adding some accessories. I feel like I have an enormous hunger for life and come back with enough discipline to pull it through even though I am 32.
How I found TRP was that 3 months ago while I still was fairly vulnerable, i met a girl online who had a bf since many years but she was looking for other options it seemed (something i read it's called BRANCH SWINGING) and we started chatting every day, talking on the phone, while i also knew him a bit (we played some online games together) and it all was such a fucking mess, but back then i was a bluepill beta, well kind of still am but now i at least understand things better while i'm processing the TRP swallow. Plan was that she would break up and move to my country, but the more i pushed and wanted her and loved her the more she hesitated and ended up crushing me, we also met once and I gave the most beta bucks impression possible, cause i was still a bit of an anxious nervous wreck from withdrawals and shit.
Either way, she said she was gonna stay with him some and then i ended contact and said id block her cause i refused to be friendzoned and she was sad but said ok, a week goes by and she contacts me again and says shes ready to move out from him if i still want to pursue our relationship.
by then i had just found this TRP and had my mind blown (my life was flashing by me and my brain was connecting so many pieces that I never understood before) so i was like forcefeeding my brain the whole sidebar while at the same time ordering 10 different books
Although being a TRP rookie i still had fragments of the oneitis cancer left in my brain and started talking to her a bit again but with a much different attitude, more confidence, less needy, and she was surprised by it and wondered where the old me was and i said i'll never give her the old me until i've had my dick in her, i refuse to be an emotional tampon, she was surprised but understood and then we kept talking and i also raised competetive anxiety in her when i told her i was also seeing someone else atm but just for sex, it pissed her off which i thought was pretty funny since we weren't even together and she had absolutely no claim on me even though she somehow thought she did.
either way then she said i hurt her and that this would be her last sms to me and i said good, i hope it is and that was a week ago and some of the oneitis cancer in me is still there but its slowly being fought off with meditation and constant self improving, and also coming back to this sub to remind me of AWALT.
I cant stop feeling like i sometimes hope she'll come crawling back again so i can maybe have a chance at fucking her (i havent had sex for so many years and i dont fap anymore and i'm in no position of dating since i live with my fucking dad after being at the absolute rock bottom in a loser life).
The rational me tells me that i need to ignore women completely until i've fixed myself entirely and at the very minimum have a steady job, appartment, driver license. The only thing going for me is that i have a really good body / base, even if it's a bit small still it's def not fat and it wont be hard for me to get a really good looking body when i start taking nuitrition seriously this month's pay.
TLDR: shit loser life abused every substance possible and fapped myself to near death surpressing emotions of death from close ones until something snapped in my brain, but then a fucking succubus comes by and casts ONEITIS on me and halts my progress and fucks my mentality a bit but then i gather more strenght and slaying this ONEITIS cancer one piece of the tumor a day
[deleted] 6y ago
First your backstory sounds horrible and I'm glad you're getting on your feet again and improving.
One thing that seems strange though is:
followed by
Isn't moving countries to be together pretty commitment flavored? How do you expect a woman to understand dumping her boyfriend for you and moving countries to be with you--and then telling her she's nothing to you? Why wouldn't she be pissed? You're asking her to be a fool in front of her friends and family.
showerdudes99 6y ago
I forgot to add a part that this was after she had made a choice (i gave her an ultimatum to break up with her bf since i got tired of being an orbiter, this was before i knew about trp) and she chose to stay with him and i blocked her and after a week she contacted me again (she had bought a new/temporary simcard) and told me she was ready to move out from him and pursue me. during this week that i was crushed and shaking like a beta leaf from heartbreak i read about trp and my mind/brain completely flipped, although there is still so much oneitis left in my brain, but its more manageble
i somehow need to convince my brain that i am in absolutely zero position of going after girls now, even less relationships. there is so much self improvement that i need to focus on. It's just so frustrating because falling in love of the caliber i did gave such an insane dopamin and maybe even testosterone/energy kick that everything in life felt so fucking amazing, and then the rollercoaster of being fucked by it though got me shaking like a bitch.
my brain just needs complete rewiring. I need to be patient. Maybe in 1-2 years i'll be in a position to even date/fuck/start plating 5-7's.
there's so insanely much more to my backstory and i really want to write a book about my life once i hit the 40's. that is one of the things that drives me and one of my long term goals
[deleted] 6y ago
I can't imagine what it's like to have your girlfriend, mother, and friend die in five years. And of course it's going to take time. I can't really imagine. Do you see it like you fell off Maslow's hierarchy of needs and are working your way up again? It sounds like what you need is friends and companionship and you're understandably afraid of loss again. Maybe the built-in distance of the LDR helped. Building platonic IRL friendships with perhaps other men where romance is permanently off the table for all involved would help maintain that distance and keep it safe until you're ready.
showerdudes99 6y ago
I feel i'm past the "safe/comfort"-levels. I've been afraid and scared for every single day since the events. I'm taking charge of my life and facing all of my fears one by one and I can feel how much i'm developing from it. Honestly I don't know if I need company in that sense. I cut contact with my two "friends" I did have contact with, mostly online though, but who were not supportive of me once I stopped being a real beta who could be pushed over and made fun of constantly, and instead started making something out of my life. They were really holding me down in that sense (crabs in a bucket mentality thing i read about afterwards).
I'm very much alone and it's where I will need to be until i'm on my feet and can afford to slack and spend time/money on things that aren't self improvement.
[deleted] 6y ago
The solid- Found new daycare for my son (2 weeks on two weeks off is tough to find. Took about 100 phonecalls to find a new one) Hit 235 5x on DL Did shit with my kiddo, invited a neighbor I had never met to come hang out.
The shitty: Dropped meditation Have NOT been approaching girls I see during the day. For whatever reason I can't seem to overcome this damn fear--and it is really starting to piss me off. My house chores have fallen to the wayside.
[deleted] 6y ago
Stopped watching porn and gave a fuck about myself and finances, and health, Told my cunt parasitic mother that she was a cunt and broke off the relationship with her and told her she was a piece of shit. Made plans to go back to school, finally decided what i want to do with my life, started my first savings account in 10 years, started meditating.
FAT_BOSMA 6y ago
I've been trying soo hard to make funny videos on social media but it's just been sooo difficult to make progress.
The red pill helps but I feel like I need someone body to go to for help/advice, but I guess that's what not having a father means for a guy like me.
Huskimbo9 6y ago
Gonna put this out there again.
there's a redpill chat on the app Discord.if you'd like to join,download the app and send me a pm and I can send you a link to join,it's not a busy chat either.
Peace.
onedankmemes 6y ago
Just swallowed TRP earlier this week after my LTR (first relationship) ended in finding out my SO was cheating the whole time. Friend pointed me towards TRP and it was not a hard pill to swallow so to speak. Been reading as much as I can on TRP. Time to work on myself and I will probably make my own post sharing my story soon enough. I'm just glad I found the answers I was looking for so I could stop choking on that blue pill. Looking forward to fulfilling what I am truly capable of.
drty_pr 6y ago
The funny thing is, that when most men discover red pill, it's an immediate epiphany. Kinda like "well ho-ly-fuck! This is what I've always thought, but thought I was a asshole for thinking".
Remember, stay fun man.
onedankmemes 6y ago
Thanks, still reading and learning and transitioning myself mentally. I know it's going to take some time to fully digest but I'm grateful to have found TRP at this time in my life.
[deleted] 6y ago
You think you've swallowed the pill but you haven't. This is just the start.
The pill has been handed to you. You're playing with it with the tip of your tongue, pushing it to the roof of your mouth.
It may slowly edge towards the back of your mouth and towards your throat in the next few weeks. Or it may linger right behind your teeth.
Eventually, it'll start sinking down your throat, and within a year or so, you may have swallowed it. If you really want to.
Congratulations on starting the fire. Don't let it go out. There is so much to learn.
bogeyd6 6y ago
Yeah, welcome to the club pal. Life isn't fair. You need to find a gym and start working on your diet. The TRP mindset will come, but your body will improve faster than your mind. I call it getting "noob gains" and they really help getting the trainwreck of your life moving again. Don't rush it, don't force it.
iamtheswoop 6y ago
Sorry man, it hurts but welcome to the club. This is the best place to do it because people force you to Own Your Shit and get better
Hector_Castillo 6y ago
Best of luck, brother. Painful beginnings are usually the best. May you fly high.
TRPLeft 6y ago
Similar situation here, although as far as I'm aware mines wasn't cheating... wish you all the best on your journey my friend!
redskirmish 6y ago
Pros:
stopped watching porn and fapping for 9 days.
Cons:
I'm out of bed too late
[deleted] 6y ago
So what are your plans to do better next time?
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bogeyd6 6y ago
Most people at the gym don't care what you are doing unless its spectacular. I felt dumb the first time I went to the gym because I also started at the bar. Don't give up, iron work is the best work you can do.
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bogeyd6 6y ago
Hahaha, I've seen that guy in the gym. Works the same for me. DL is my lowest lift and I do 50% resets hoping to get the back to accommodate it. Looks a little weird to squat 490lbs and then DL 235lbs :D
[deleted] 6y ago
this am decided I would up my light weight deadlifts. pretty sure I blew a disc at 195. not sure how. wtf.
[deleted] 6y ago
It always baffles me when I see people say this about the gym. I'm a gym rat, and when I see a huge wale that looks like they never see the inside of a gym working out for the first time, I feel respect for them. They are in the one place they should be.
Just a small dose of reality. This feeling comes and goes. When it goes, don't stop. Keep pushing through. Trust the process and the feeling will come back (usually even stronger).
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[deleted] 6y ago
Interested to hear what you've changed that started getting you replies.
Ginger_destroyer 6y ago
Made a goal to get to 180 lbs about three weeks ago. I've always averaged about 156 and now I'm averaging at 160. Working out everyday with a buddy and have been making 1600 calorie shakes every morning. I've been staying the course to get bigger because I'm tiny
nebder 6y ago
The good
DL hit 2 plates this week. Chalk helped improve my grip and got it double overhand. Previous DL had to be cross gripped without chalk. Double bonus.
Squat went over body weight.
Making it through my first full week of 50/50 custody with my son at my residence. It went how I expected. He loves his daddy time and I love hanging with him. He's at the nonstop question phase so it's a ton of fun. Got some interesting texts from his mom like this has been hard. Thanks for supporting me in this. (By meeting her when she goes out on walks so she can say hi to him, etc). This arrangement will work well.
Have a meeting with a realtor to start looking for my own place. Currently have a sweet rent free living arrangement with a friend, but a man needs his own castle.
My boss put in for my switch from hourly to salary exempt. Gotta get through HR and my CEO. good stuff here. This change was in the works right before I heard the words "I want a divorce" so I iced it till that shit got resolved.
Got one of the best compliments I've received in a long time. I was hugging my daughter goodnight and she goes dad I can feel your ribs.
Lots of positive steps this weeks
the bad
Still kinda monk modeish. Want to get more social overall. Got a tinder match that didn't pan out. I'll keep working on that shit and seeing what works and what doesn't.
My financial planning is not fully in place. I can wing it just fine but I don't have an overall plan. That's on the agenda for this weekend.
I haven't made it as far into "becoming a supple leopard" as I wanted. Definitely need to improve my mobility. Braced neutral spine has helped my posture and walking, but I need to finish the intro chapters and implement the changes or one of the 14 day prescriptions.
Meditation dropped off this week and I didn't keep my morning routine. Need to set myself up for success in the mornings when I have my son.
I don't have an overall mission. Yes I'm being an excellent father and all that, but I still think I'm reacting instead of proactively determining and achieving my goals. I've hit my pre-divorce goals so I need to take the time to write out my next set of goals for this part of my life.
Writing out the bad gives me actionable items to work towards this week. Time to own my shit.
do_it_or_leave 6y ago
Great report man.
Pull-ups greatly improved my grip, you should give it a try. I struggled with my grips at two plates, but now I can lift three just fine double overhand.
SteelToeShitKicker 6y ago
I hope your patron never buys a drink when he goes out because you won't let him. Someone who will help you in a time of need is a great asset.
nebder 6y ago
You are 100% correct. I am far from ungrateful. I earn my keep and work to go beyond what I would expect if I were the provider. Been told they will be sad to see me go cuz they'll have to start doing shit again.
Hector_Castillo 6y ago
Had probably my greatest accomplishment so far in life this past week (I'd only rank my meditative achievements as superior to this and I suppose my seductive accomplishments).
I finished my book on college game. It's about 800 pages and I'll publish it in a month or so. Five years of undergraduate craziness (chapter president, IFC president, most infamous playboy on campus,etc) boiled into one monstrous tome. Although I'd been writing for Girlschase.com for years now, I couldn't find the energy to finish the book until I finally settled down in Europe and have spent the majority of the past six months furiously writing (I graduated two years ago). Had to all but give up women during this period (though I did pull a few times I went out and had some help from Tinder, too, plus some social circle pussy).
The sacrifice paid off.
Currently setting up editors, graphic designers, etc. Should publish within the next month or so. Have had lots of guys ask for it, too, so my financial situation could change dramatically very soon. I'm beyond pumped.
[deleted] 6y ago
What advice can you give to recent college grads who have moved away from the whorehouse that is campus to keep slaying in the pussy game?
Hector_Castillo 6y ago
Lots. In no specific order
If you're living with your parents, move, even if you have next to nothing. I packed my car with anything that would fit then moved to California. No job and only one place to stay for a few days while I found somewhere. Talked my way into a job at a hot new club in a week and then found somewhere to live downtown. Nothing motivates man like fear and pain. Also, living alone and being on your own should motivate you to meet women. Women find this highly erotic ("wow, so you just packed up everything and moved?! With no plan?!")
Learn. Day. Game. The quality of women I met and went on dates with in my first year post-college blew college out of the fucking water. International bankers, models, etc. Day gaming is the king - nothing else even comes close, save for being a nightlife industry insider or celebrity status. even then, daygame gives you the ability meet women you would NEVER otherwise (obviously I recommend GC for material).
Get a job in the nightlife industry. Unless you have some really good career in mind that has quick growth, you can make STUPID money in the nightlife (I was making $600-700 a weekend from tips alone, working only 6 hour shifts and then had the ENTIRE next week free). I knew a girl pursuing her Ph. D in chemical engineering who bartended on the weekends, so "I don't have time" is a really shitty excuse. Also, the nightlife guys have the best game in the world - there is absolutely no competition. One of my favorite non-GC guys, Luke from RSD, is a former nightlife guy from Vegas and he's the real deal (I met him randomly on the street in my old city, along with Tyler). I'd recommend promoting/VIP-hosting. It's free indirect-approach training and you make money while also building a network of pussy. One guy I know had a list of 5,000 girls that he regularly invited out of every weekend. One night that I was off my normal job and did promoting for fun, I brought in 20 girls. My doorman said my girls were hotter than any other hosts, guys who get paid to do this shit. Promoting is ridiculous easy if you can approach (which is why you need to get good at day game).
Get your fundamentals insanely good. Without the social proof machine of college, you need to now compete with millionaires, VIP hosts, bodybuilders, etc., in an anonymous battlefield. THere's no reason why not to get as jacked, suited-up, tatted-up (if that's your style), and well-groomed as possible. Also, train your walk, your breathing, your eye contact, and your voice. Your voice is the most important fundamental. Very few date coaches focus on fundamentals and waste too much time pandering to mindset mantras.(it's the first thing I do with my clients). You can't game a girl if you don't get your foot in the door. Fundamentals do that.
With a lifestyle like this, I wouldn't put it past you to fuck 60-70 girls a year once you get good. I have friends who do this (mostly nightlife guys). I'll eventually go full speed into girls again once I've got my finances under way and my goal will be 100 girls a year, which is hard for a non-celebrity but not entirely ridiculous, imo).
I plan on writing abook about this, too lol.
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The_Redmen 6y ago
Just received my NMMNG book and started reading it, started to run again, have been watching my diet and cut out all sugary and processed foods, and am now on 24 days of no fap! Decent week for me so far.
M1ster_X 6y ago
MONK MODE progress:
Started back in the gym after 5 months away. Managed to squat
255 lbs225 lbs. first day back (yay muscle memory!)Purged my hard drive of all porn. Unbelievable how mentally challenging such a things was. In the back of my head I'm think "keep just a little bit", but I'm cognitive of these thoughts and aware that I was sounding my mind like a fucking junky, and that's exactly the problem with porn. Plus, these women you'd never actually fuck, and if you could why would you want to? Nobody rides the CC more than a porn chick, right?
InSunlightWeBelong 6y ago
You squatted 255 after 5 months off, what were you squatting before?
M1ster_X 6y ago
Oops, I typed that on mobile and didn't notice the total. It's 225 I squatted last week. Two 45 plates a side, plus the bar. 255 was my max before I stopped.
bogeyd6 6y ago
I am guessing it's a 1RM we are talking about here?
M1ster_X 6y ago
Yeah. Slowly building back up to it, because I'd be an idiot to try it again after 5 months, lol. Will do 5X5 again my next session and max out at 230, then jump to to 240, 245, etc. The mission is to get back to 255 by the end of the month.
Lots of Glutamine and BCAAs, man. LOL
general_derez 6y ago
Improved: Lifted more weight and/or reps than last week. Closer to Goals: One successful week closer to graduation. Less than 11 months to go. Fails: Passed up on many opportunities to approach. Success: Approached, Gamed, and went on a hot date with a girl. My first serious effort and success since the end of my LTR a month ago. Aiming to plate her and get another one.
SteelToeShitKicker 6y ago
Assume that plate will break soon. Do more approaches, get more numbers. The first 100 no are the hardest, after that, you don't give a shit.
Good job.
Roflsquad 6y ago
Lifted three times this week and planning on going on sunday again. Got a meet up with a girl tonight. Also studied for my exam. Life is good.
Huskimbo9 6y ago
Started a new routine this week.its a rough start but by the end of next week I should have it down. Having a routine saves a lot of time,even better when you you leave no idle time inbetween your objectives.
TRPLeft 6y ago
Went a jog for the first time in about 4 years yesterday. Girl played hard to get and I tried to implement the abundance mentality. Spent 4 days job hunting and applying for college courses(different from US college)
Cons: Girl made arrangements for me to Netflix and chill, she ghosted for 3 hours around the time I was supposed to head over and I sent two texts enquiring about her company.
It's a good start and I am feeling good about myself but this week I will really step it up a notch. Back into reading and the gym are my two goals this week.
SteelToeShitKicker 6y ago
Girls will ghost, have more girls in the pipeline so you just go to the next one.
TRPLeft 6y ago
Yeah I realised after last night that it's like juggling. You can't pay one ball 80% of your attention without risking dropping them all.
As I'm just new to this I've been working via tinder, snapchat and texting primarily, and have been trying to keep it casual chit chat like I'm shooting the shit with the boys, is that the right approach?
SteelToeShitKicker 6y ago
As an OMG (stoney put out the call in MRP to assist in TRP), I came of age when cellphones were only recently becoming widespread, and texting was still pretty obscure. So I wouldn't give you advice on tinder, etc.
However, having a pipeline of women, who you keep semi-interested is a good idea regardless of the technology. As an MBA, I can tell you that the online services (tinder, etc) provide a market in which it can be hard to get a foothold because of fierce competition.
Going out in person (day or night game) should be at least 50% of your leads, maybe more. Don't let online be a crutch. In person is far more dynamic and you can play to your strengths. I'd almost guarantee that what you can pull in-person (unless you are an Addonis with some pro level photos) will be +2 SMV higher than what you can pull online.
"Give me 10 minutes to talk away my ugly face and I'll bed the Queen of France" -- Voltaire
TaxationSucks 6y ago
Been losing weight. Posted a picture last night where I haven't looked that thin in years so confidence is high. I have slipped in bass practice after my move and need to bring that habit back this weekend. I started a trainer on Saturdays, my weakest day for my diet, helped me tremendously avoid shitty food. Once I add the bass practice back into my routine I'll bring back my reading routine as will and be back to my full routine. This move was such a bitch.
[deleted] 6y ago
Have a lunch hour? I've switched most of my reading to there. It doesn't even feel like it takes time, since it's when I eat, but haven't skipped a beat on reading...
Also, for the eating, have you tried some 16 hour Intermitten fasts? The one benefit that I found trumps all of them, you learn to treat hunger as a suggestion, not an order. That, and you just don't have cravings like you used to
TaxationSucks 6y ago
I tried it and it doesn't work for me really. I need to keep things simple and just not eat gluten and have my 6 meals prepped.
Edit: Haven't tried lunch. My job can be draining so I usually use it to get away and "chill" for a moment. I prefer to read before bed.
[deleted] 6y ago
My SO does that, it works for her.
TaxationSucks 6y ago
Thanks for the reply and recommendations!
arthurabyssal 6y ago
On second day of a 6-7 day water fast. Just went weightlifting as well. Just doing it to see what happens lol.
[deleted] 6y ago
a week long fast? How would you function?
arthurabyssal 6y ago
Well the average lean person like me has around 50000 calories of stored body fat for energy so energy is not a problem since the average male needs 2100 a day. Human Growth Hormone increases by over 2000% while fasting and this preserves all your muscle mass. Protein and carbohydrate oxidation (fuel burning) go much lower on a fast, so muscle is not used as fuel whereas stored fat is. Muscle lactate is recycled into glycogen by the liver for workouts. The small amount of glucose your brain does need comes from the glycerol portion of stored fat when it it broken down. The brain mainly switches from sugar burning to ketone-burning. Ketones are a fuel which your liver makes during low carbohydrate intake (eg: keto-diet or fasting) that the brain can use as fuel (more efficiently than glucose actually). Your body uses periods of fasting to regenerate its immune system, grow the brain (increased Brain-derived-neurotrophic-factor while fasting) and heal older injuries as well as get all the shit out of it's system. Inflammation decrease as well, acne improves tremendously (no insulin), face looks leaner because you get rid of water weight. Physically I feel fine, even full. Your mind craves the food but your body feels more or less the same. You just feel different, not better or worse, just different. Sleep is amazing, slept 6 hours, woke up at 5AM, had some water, checked the election polls and then slept amother 6 hours, proper deep sleep.
[deleted] 6y ago
confirmed that fasting men need less sleep.
its mother nature flooding the body with hormones to go find food
[deleted] 6y ago
I'm already up at 6, but looks interesting enough to try. 24 hours ain't a biggie, will see how far to go.
you CAN use coffee and tea, right?
[deleted] 6y ago
If you can make it past day three it's easy.
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arthurabyssal 6y ago
Yes you can, I don't personally because I'm trying to rewire my brain (not fapping, no caffeine etc)
CaptainSupream 6y ago
Impressive. Long shot but, have you tried sun gazing and fasting?
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Reeeeeacher 6y ago
Book of Five Rings is dope.
I feel you I the talking with women thing.
Keep grinding
ExplorerTRP 6y ago
Been going to the gym 6 times a week for the past month, which I am really proud of. I used to skip 1-2 sessions, but got very consistent now. Sticked to my nutritional plan, however due to going out a few times this week, had to eat fast food. Not too worried about it, since I'm trying to gain mass.
It's been alright in terms of social life. Talking to anyone doesn't seem like a problem anymore. Ever since my failed date few weeks back, I started regaining confidence. I tried to push myself out of the comfort zone as much as I can in order to further improve myself as a person.
Nevertheless, there are some complications. First of all, I'm extremely tired. I consistently hit 7.5-9 hour sleep every night, but I feel tired when I wake up and then after around 5 p.m. I don't know the science behind it, but I highly doubt that's normal. Secondly, there are moments when I just feel down. Say I come back from home after a long and busy day and I just feel like it's not worth it. I feel like giving up, but thankfully I never do. However, the thoughts are there. Also, I can't stop thinking about all the shitty mistakes I made in the past. And I hate to admit it, but I'm still not over the failed date I had a few weeks back.
yonormalguy 6y ago
You may be tired because of your sleep cycles, waking up in between the cycles. Try Sleepytime.me. To check what time you should sleep.
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bogeyd6 6y ago
Dating and socializing is all a numbers game. The more you do it the more success you will have. As far as confidence you need to realize that none of this matters. Don't put too much pressure on it and keep your OI in the front of your mind. The idea of a comfort zone is actually your mental fence. Our minds work very strange like that. The mere fact that you keep something in reserve means you are not utilizing all of it. Treat dates like the TRP advises and start going on more dates.
ExplorerTRP 6y ago
You're absolutely right. I need more date-game practise and I know for a fact that it will help. My night game used to be horrible, until I started going out a lot and approaching for fun. After a few month, I have no trouble with it.
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ExplorerTRP 6y ago
I'll need to try mediation, because this has been going on for more than a year.
Teenrug 6y ago
Caffeine intake? Might be Adrenalin Stress
ExplorerTRP 6y ago
One cup of coffee in the morning (mid-strength latte). Rarely have any more than that.
TaxationSucks 6y ago
Are you doing any cardio now or any meditation?
ExplorerTRP 6y ago
If you consider playing sports as cardio - then yes. However, I'm inconsistent with it, plus the fact that I am trying to gain mass (I'm pretty lean right now) stops me from doing any proper cardio.
And I don't meditate.
TaxationSucks 6y ago
How often are you in front of a screen?
ExplorerTRP 6y ago
More than I'd like to admit. Possibly 7-8 hours, which mostly includes work.
TaxationSucks 6y ago
Yeah me too. How much processed foot and sugar are you eating?
ExplorerTRP 6y ago
I don't eat sugar at all, from processed foods - only when I go out as a necessity. Apart from that I ear fairly clean.
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RenaissanceMan79 6y ago
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rogerramjetz 6y ago
Improving drastically with weights.
I've been doing the Strong lift 5x5 beginner program for about 5 weeks after finding TRP.
I'm finding that the boost in testosterone is helping me give less fucks and improves my confidence.
It helps me in all areas of life.
This week I squatted 73 kg. Tomorrow I do 76kg. I never thought I would be able to do this in my whole life. I haven't lifted weights for about 20 years. My Day job is a software developer.
Thanks TRP.
iamtheswoop 6y ago
Finished reading: Rationale Male second time Roosh V Bang 1st time 3% Man 3rd time
Finally got tested for low testosterone, turns out I'm beyond low, so starting TRT soon
setsuna0 6y ago
I'm healing from an injury so I'll start lifting soon. I'm practicing driving for my test next month. Deleted any and all dating sites/apps that felt great Regulate my online time Returning to old hobbies Tomorrow I'm planning on getting my hair cut, buying clothes, and talking to women while I'm out.
studentsensei 6y ago
Hit a wall in my fitness goals. Extremely disappointed because I'm no where near my goal and yet I'm struggling mightily. Took a week off and started StrongLifts 5x5 and haven't been as consistent as I would like to be.
Not giving up though.
rogerramjetz 6y ago
Make sure you are consistent and eat the appropriate foods and supplement accordingly.
I'm nearly 40 and have been doing SL for 5 weeks and I'm still making nice gains.
I find that supplementing with a high quality protein powder helps a lot at my age. If I don't have it then I recover less and struggle more for the next workout.
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why are you not consistent with your workout routine? There is no reason to be disappointed in something you have not put in the work with.
studentsensei 6y ago
Very true. I was on it for about 3-4 months but I wasn't seeing the results that I wanted so I researched and stumbled upon StrongLifts in order to seek the improvement that I sought.
You're right though. I just need to recalibrate and keep it going.
TehJimmyy 6y ago
19 M ( 20 in one month) Computer Engineering College Student
Deloading for next week . Finally reached 130 lbs on 5x5 but need to take a rest. A month remains before summer break (no lifting for 2 months,maybe i will get to calisthenics). I am cutting and i am slipping a lot but i get back to it with cardio .
Today i got stuck by the barbell on bench press on the last rep.Luckily i called one of the guys and we racked. Thanked him and handled it really smoothly continuing my day.
My mom mentioned seeing a therapist as a joke after i had a fight with her. I took it seriously and have been thinking about it since.I just cant make it alone. However i dont think my family can afford it alongside my university . Exams are next week. I am gonna give it my best but i know i left the hard work studying for summer.
It was almost time i got some hobbies.
I figured out your life mission should be these and that . A life mission is yours and it never abandons you unlike women.
Finishing again No more Mr nice guy and rereading the sidebar. This time i am taking it's contents to heart and thinking about it unlike the first time i read it. One time read is never enough. Atleast for me.
I am still fighting with my porn addiction . I figured again i would fap each 4-7 with porn only once at a time.I just cant cut porn even tho fantasizing with MO seems better.
I am not really relying on NoFap. Of course it makes me happy confident more social but on other side it makes me needy depressed and cant focus on work.
Like everything must keep a balance at it.
Anyway if you read this here's a good song :):https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eUesDQxGLXA
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One of these things is not like the others.
Yes you can. If you're gonna fap, just try it w/o porn for a while. Make rewards for yourself. Add a little more difficulty every time you succeed.
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TehJimmyy 6y ago
you must mean Anime-Shows. I get it.
setsuna0 6y ago
You can watch a few. Just regulate your time and don't binge.
Reeeeeacher 6y ago
First comment here but this is a good way to journal and hear from others so I'll keep it up.
I'm reading a book called You Are a Badass (it's written by a woman and I don't usually like their style but this one speaks to me). This is being super helpful in my mentality.
I've made the decision to have faith in a higher power because of the book. God isn't an old white man in a bath robe, or maybe he is. It might be a taco that poops ice cream for all I know. What I do know is that instead of everything we experience there could be absolute nothing. I have always believed something must have kick started the universe. And this new faith I have is more of a gratitude toward that higher power. A belief that the universe wants me to win (I still believe religion is the opium of the masses and organized religion is run by charlatans)
I've also started writing down and saying out loud some positive affirmations. I am self conscious about my looks so one of my affirmations I constantly say is, "I love how tall I am and get better looking every day." This is producing amazing results for my self image.
Even with my new beliefs I still feel like shit at work. I have literally zero things to do and I sit on my ass 40 hours a week and it's depressing to me. I have asked for additional responsibilities and am always told to be patient. I'm fucking dying of boredom.
Overall, I'm starting to see myself as the man I want to be and who I will be. This is my real accomplishment for the week. That I have hope for my future and that I'll reach my goals if I continue to improve myself.
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You seem to be asking everyone and everything to spoonfeed meaning for you.
Guess what youre avoiding?
Reeeeeacher 6y ago
Honestly, I'm proud of what I've been doing and I see positive effects in my daily life.
Are you telling me I need to be doing more for myself? I really don't understand what you're saying.
BluepillProfessor 6y ago
Self improvement is about action, not about deciding to believe in a higher power. Actions, not words or feelings. In several paragraphs you told us you read a book (action) and you made affirmations (action). The rest is not action.
This is not action:
Reeeeeacher 6y ago
Yeah that is why it's listed in my fails category. I've been asking for work because I want to do well and I'm told to be patient. I just need to use what's available to me and quit my bitching
Cos_7_ate_9 6y ago
The gym has been paying off and I'm physically the best I've ever been. Also absorbed some fashion sense from a few friends and I think I dress well now. I've taken some steps to move to a new college away from my hometown which I think is going to open up a lot of opportunity since its a much bigger city and I'll be out of my parents' house.
One fuck up last week. Me and a friend went to this bar and within minutes this drunk chick is all over me and I'm just kind of ignoring her and talking to my friend so she's trying to get my attention.
Another few of my friends showed up and soon after I got up to go to the toilet. When I came back the girl was sitting in my seat so I asked if I could have it back. She said no so I just picked her up and sat down with her on my lap which she responded well to and it ends up with her sitting on my lap with my hand around her waist. I'm not really talking to her much just keeping up the conversation with my friends.
They tell me they're leaving to go to another place which was the plan originally and I ask if she would come but she has some excuse not to. (red flag no. 1). One friend tells me to stay behind and pull because it looks like its gonna be easy so I decide to do that. A couple of minutes before my friends leave this girl has her full attention on another friend of mine (red flag no. 2) and he's kind of uncomfortable because he thinks I care. Soon after its just me and her and we're not talking much at all which was sort of how it was already because I was talking to my friends mostly not her. Its a bit awkward because it feels like the energy has left with my friends (mistake no. 1). I ask about a tattoo on her arm and she tells me she has a big one on her stomach but she can't show it because she's wearing a dress. She shows me a picture of it and I tell her I don't believe her and she says ok she'll show me and I say "no maybe later" since we're in a well lit room full of people and she's about to pull up her dress (mistake 2, why should I care). She seems kind of disappointing and shortly after she says she has to go somewhere and she'll be back and idk if she left or got lost (the place was packed) but yeah I wasted some time on her.
I mentioned the 2 red flags along with a third that she wasn't making much eye contact. If those had happened with any other girl I wouldn't have thought I had a chance and I would have gone with my friends but her being happy to sit on my lap threw that instinct off.
The 2 mistakes I mention in my opinion were due to me not knowing how to deal with and allow her to be the slut she was ready to be. I should have just talked shit and been forward sexually but my quietness and not wanting her to pull up her dress (I know what the hell) made me waste an easy chance. I had her attention and attraction but I was completely empty handed when it came to having a plan on closing with her.
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Next time worry less about the girl and more about what you want to do. i.e. continue to hang with your friends if that's what you wanted.
Cos_7_ate_9 6y ago
Yeah I realised that I should done that like I usually do but this one seemed so easy at the time.