Paris, France, saturday night.
Yesterday I met with a friend who introduced me to a couple friends of him, including his best friend. This guy was born in one of the richest families in Paris, and obviously he's loaded. He took us to a very famous and select club in Paris, that I only heard about but never been to.
I was dressed rather well, nothing too fancy because I thought it'd just be a casual night, but still had a nice fitted shirt on and jeans. Straight up the bouncer looked me up and down, and told me "hey, maybe make more of an effort next time, it's saturday night" looking pretty pissed. I was really surprised and wanted to tell him to go fuck himself but I just played it cool to not bother everyone else by getting rejected. When I got inside, I fucking understood. If you're thinking very fancy club, you're not even there. Shit looked like a palace, marble and gold everywhere, ridiculously luxurious and nice atmosphere. Right when I got in, I felt like I didn't belong.
But the most surprising was the crowd. I made a lot of progress over the last years regarding how I look and how I carry myself and with my success in general with girls. Well everybody, bar few exceptions was 8+. Guys were all 6'0+, extremely chad looking, muscular and very, very well dressed and groomed. The women were just all insanely hot, groups of 9's and 8's all over the place, wearing designer clothes. Celebrities at the tables. Just one of the fanciest places in Paris. Well, shit. I'm not gonna lie, despite all the efforts I've made over the last years, I was starting to feel that I was in a pretty good place, and being pretty content with what I had. Let's say that I felt like I shouldn't be there. Over the night, I got in the mood and I was fine, but I realised that in this place, my perceived SMV was close to 0. 80% of the guys over there were the top 1%. I caught the gaze of a few girls nonetheless, but I just wasn't feeling it that night, for the first time in a while I felt unworthy. I know it's a stupid mindset to have, but sometimes reality hits you in the face and it's good to acknowledge it. I was starting to feel good about where I am, but this night made me realize I still have a LONG way to go. I guess the best thing is that during my blue pill days, I'd have felt down and insecure one the way home, but instead I feel just determined to work harder and better to keep getting ahead in life. A humbling experience.
Rugby11 7y ago
Some stuff to think about https://soundcloud.com/user-580652804/the-mark-baxter-podcast-episode-6-rollo-tomassi-and-ed-latimore
RedPillFreedom 7y ago
Honest Question
How will you ensure in the future you do not make the same mistake?
What will ground you so in the future you do not forget?
Is your ideal to reach that level?
In terms of the FR, I think it was a fantastic experience.
g4casting 7y ago
No my ideal isn't to reach that level or mimic anybody. My ideal is to reach a point where I feel completely at ease with who I am and what I have, no matter what the context is.
The only thing I have to keep going forward is this deep, raging hunger I have since I have stopped being afraid. I turned my sadness and fear into determination and ambition. Sometimes I slip and find myself doing all the wrong things again. But unlike before, I have something built up that I want to defend now, and the sinking fear of feeling like a failure again gets me back on track.
2017invnt 7y ago
What was the name of the club, out of curiousity?
Scroph 7y ago
It's always a matter of perspective with these things. A good rule of thumb to follow is that if you're the smartest person in a room, you should find another room. This is a common saying among programmers (in the context of career advancement) but I found it to also be applicable to other aspects in life.
When comparing yourself with someone else, you should also take into consideration the level from which you both started. Climbing from #2 to #1 is still going to be easier than climbing from #100 to #20 (assuming it is linear). For instance, some of those rich people you met could have inherited those riches, but you on the other hand, have put in a lot of work to reach your current level.
With that being said, your attitude in regards to the difference in SMV is a healthy one. Back in my BP days I would have felt bitter and jealous, but we both know that a reaction like that won't get you anywhere. I know this because I have been in a similar position. Just know that the initial burst of determination will fade unless you keep yourself surrounded with people of that caliber.
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aditas 7y ago
Top 20% could be good enough. If you're not Chad you may decide that chasing 9's is not worth the ROI. The possibilities of things you could be doing are endless once you are free.
DavoAmazo 7y ago
It's just your personal work ethic that you have towards wanting to improve yourself.
agentsmolder 7y ago
Excellent state of mind to have after that experience. Thanks for sharing this.
LordThunderbolt 7y ago
You don't need to be a rich jackass who dances in gold and marble clubs that serve free caviar as bar snacks to know you made it. You need to know your market. There's places you'll go to and you will be the Chaddiest motherfucker there. Dont sweat it.
TheTruthTeller1337 7y ago
His market is not 8s and above because he can't compete there. He said it.
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