I'm only a few months along my red pill journey and this subreddit has been a really reliable resource for me as I become better at ditching my old blue pill tendencies.

There have been a couple of posts lately about the benefits of meditation (mindfulness, transcendental, etc) and I wanted to weigh in with some of my own experience here.

I'm no zen master, but I went through a period of time where I meditated every night for about 20 minutes over the course of 3 months.

It's just like going to the gym — if you fall out of practice or attendance, you start losing the benefits.

About a week ago, I picked up meditation again. Even though it's such a short period of time, I can already feel a shift in my own behavior during the day.

Put simply, regular meditation helps your mind default to a more "satisfied" state. You're able to appreciate what's going on right in front of you or around you.

Proverbs and zen wisdom have talked about the destruction of being focused on the past or the future, and it all rings pretty true. It's great to have goals ahead and learn from previous mistakes, but you'll be so much more content if you're just focused on what is happening right now.

Being more content has led to the following for me:

  • More relaxed in all conversations (coworkers, bosses, friends, family)
  • More present when speaking to people, which leads to a better sense of connection. This is helpful, since women connect on a more emotional level and don't really listen to the literal words coming out of our mouths.
  • Better perspective of where I am — I don't psyche myself out thinking of where X or Y could go wrong, how I'm going to get the girl to do what I want, or focus on any of my past failures.
  • Seeing the world through a more unbiased lens. Everything seems to be in its right place, I don't get as frustrated.
  • Speaking more slowly, and less. This was a big blue pill tendency for me; I'd talk way more than I needed to. Now, I don't really have to try to restrain myself — I'm a lot more comfortable in the silence.
  • Much clearer thinking. This helps with asking more questions, having more natural conversations, and knowing what to do/say.
  • Better sense of self-esteem. Before, I was always caught up on my less desirable qualities (height @ 5'8) or not coming off as "masculine" without a beard or some dumb shit like that. Now, I'm more in touch with who I am under the hood — and it just crosses over into my daily life.

I'm not out here to sensationalize meditation. But it's made a huge difference for me.

And in reflecting, the period of time where I meditated for a few months was also the period of time that I was developing attraction from girls HB8 and higher. I think it enabled me to not care too much about how they saw me.

Meditation is free, and you can just give it a try to see how it works! Take 20 minutes that you would have otherwise spent on your phone and try it out.

And thanks for all the advice and resource, this community is great.

Edit: Thanks so much for the gold! I am in a greater state zen than before knowing that it was helpful to someone.