Co-worker of mine is 6'4" great facial genetics, pure mesomorph body type and the girls swoon over him. Yesterday, flew his girlfriend in for the day and she was a dime piece let me tell you. At first, I felt a tinge of resentment , but the Redpill is helping me to put these encounters into perspective and not succumb to emotional turmoil and self loathing like I used to. Even if I never get a girl of that caliber, I'm beginning to realize that the very beautiful people out there are basically not any better than the rest of us, only luckier. Assortative mating is real, and while guys can box above there weight class, model good looks seeks its own kind. Thing is, the sex isn't necessarily better, nor the couple necessarily happier just because they are at the top of the desirable pyramid. Some manosphere authors exclaim that cumming inside of a 10 is the superlative male experience, but what happens an hour later, a day later, a week? Nothing lasts in this world, so enjoy it but be unattached. I think part of bluepill brainwashing is convincing the population that normal people will never enjoy the abundance of life that beautiful people do, but this is simply a lie. Long story short: don't put beauty on the pedestal.
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PantsonFire1234 7y ago
Friends of mine are models, scouts have equally offered me the gig. I've been often told I look like Brad Pitt, this and that- blah blah. I'm taller than him though, 6'1 and I can easily pass of for 6'2 with sneakers. Things were different though, I used to be small, baby faced, bad hair cut etc.
Back then I pulled maybe 5's and 6's and one of these girls became a promoted plate. I got my ass handed to me in the breakup, she could do better than me- her words.
Things right now are much different, your co-worker might be some levels higher but I get much better girls to pick from, talking 7-8-9's. Initially it confused me because I didn't realize they were actually into me all of a sudden (women are shallow yes).
I'm not denying there's a difference but it's hardly noticeable for me. The girls I 'pulled' when I was low value gave me the same high I get from these hotter ones. It's not worth being envious over.
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Anyone that tells you that fucking a 9 or a 10 is a 'superlative' male experience is full of shit. If you can get that on the regular, then sure, it's definitely preferable, but having sex with someone that attractive doesnt do shit in terms of lasting effects on your life. I should know-i've fucked plenty of hot women and my life is still pretty shit. When i'm depressed and alone and my resolve is being tested, it's not like I can think 'oh, well at least i fucked that 10 4 months ago' lol. It doesn't change shit nor displace any emptiness you might have. It's a huge self esteem boost for a day, maybe a week, but that's literally it.
edit: and the girls I consider 9's and 10's are NOT. WORTH. IT. The entitlement is insane, their personalities are garbage, and most of them are head cases to boot. I know awalt and all that, but on average, sub 9/10's are far less annoying and ridiculous. Something to consider as well.
AspotMadness 7y ago
It's a fleeting pleasure. I used to think sex with a beautiful girl would be transformative, but that was hardcore bluepill spirituality.
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jzekyllandhyde 7y ago
Very true, this guy is just over the minimum height for being healthy.
But men don't live long anyway…
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CrazyHorseInvincible 7y ago
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telenoobies 7y ago
ITT: bunch of fa back rationalizing on the fact that they can't fuck hot chicks lol
AspotMadness 7y ago
There's an element of truth to that
telenoobies 7y ago
whatever makes u sleep at night. heh.
Pastelitomaracucho 7y ago
On top of that, attractive people let their attractiveness get in their way. They are attractive and at the same time extremely self-conscious of that. You think they may be lucky, but many of them are rather miserable trying to keep up to their beauty and constantly thinking that the beauty will end up fading away.
Fight your own fight and stop comparing yourself to others.
oilersareterrible 7y ago
It's all a matter of perspective. Your 6'4'' co-worker is genetically luckier than you, however both of you are genetically luckier than someone with cerebral palsy. And then all 3 of you are luckier than the unfortunate souls born into extreme poverty halfway across the world, who might not even make it past the age of 5, much less have the luxury of bullshitting on the internet all day.
There's only 4 aces in the deck, motherfucker. Play the hand you were dealt.
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yeah perspective needs to be considered. As a doctor friend often says, 'Every day not in a hospital bed is a good day'
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Not to mention that some of the most attractive and strong men have died before the age of 20 in battle.
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This is golden. Pure gold.
+1 Internets for you, sir. Have some chicken.
-contrarian- 7y ago
Spend a few months in Africa (not South Africa). Some of the happiest people I've ever seen, and most of them have very little to be happy about, at least from a westerner's perspective.
Rufferto_n_Groo 7y ago
When your world is limited to what you can see on the horizon, and you don't know nor have the capacity to think about topics the average Western man is bombarded with on a daily basis, you'd be happier too.
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drunk-astronaut 7y ago
And every single one of them would like to move to the States if given the chance.
Blaat1985 7y ago
We always think the grass is greener on the other side, but that doesn't mean they will be happier in the US. See the current migration trends in Mexicans.
-contrarian- 7y ago
I'm not sure about that (I didn't downvote you, though).
From the inside looking out, we appear to be the greatest place on earth. But I got to tell you, I'm considering becoming an ex-pat when I retire. America isn't all that it used to be, and there are some other really nice places to live in the world, as long as you can get by without a Walmart on every corner.
drunk-astronaut 7y ago
I agree. I wasn't implying that America is the greatest country in the world or anything. Only that most of the people I knew were happy on the surface (my theory is because there is much more emphasis on strong social bonds and community and less emphasis on the individualism that's prevalent in the west) but lets not romanticize poverty. War, disease, low wages and short life expectancy and the general insecurity of the day to day struggle to survive in countries with no social safety nets and low social mobility is something that most people would gladly leave behind.
oilersareterrible 7y ago
I've never been to Africa, however i have spent some time in Cambodia and what you say is true, those people have very little to be happy about, and yet they still are.
I blame western society for the ungratefulness i see everywhere. The poison that is social media, where all you see is other people's photoshopped and edited highlight reels causes envy. The obsession with materialism, fast cars, jewellery, big houses out in the suburbs, always chasing something bigger or fancier, its all fucking POISON to your mind.
As the parable goes: "A man said to the Buddha, “I want Happiness.” Buddha said, first remove “I”, that’s ego, then remove “want”, that’s desire. See, now you are left with only Happiness."
That's all there really is to it, the secret to happiness in 4 simple sentences, yet our society will never heed it. Much better to sell your time that you will never get back on that 2017 model of that car to try and impress people who don't give a fuck about you. Lol
borderrline 7y ago
You spoke my heart. Being from a third world country, it sometimes is very annoying when people cry over pity things. Dude, if you go to my country, people are content if they get bread three times a day and your are arguing for not getting the latest iPhone.
CQC3 7y ago
It's more complicated than that, there's only so much individuals can do to escape poor conditioning. This is a dangerous territory because part of it isn't totally their fault, but you have to make people take responsibility somewhere.
It's almost a cliche about children playing in shit in some crap country and being happy because it's all they know, this is true and also untrue.
It is as you say, desire and attachment cause suffering, and the more advanced a society becomes the more desire and attachment people have. The more we move away from not needing to appreciate or worry about basic safety and needs like food and shelter, the more we can spend a disproportionate amount of time worshipping and lusting after frivolous things. These things are not innately bad, like fast cars and computers, because they're phenomena like everything else, equally existing. It is in how you see them that counts.
You can have the fast car, appreciate the sounds, the workmanship, the detail, the performance, but you cannot be attached to it. You have to let it come and go, you can't see it s a part of your identity or "self", this is a very difficult thing to do and typically by the time you are able to do it you may not want most of these things.
jewishsupremacist88 7y ago
as someone in the know, (((they))) know the charade is coming to an end sooner than later. what happens next is a big unknown, but..its better than this.
Wanderwow 7y ago
I find that remark highly interesting. I agree with what's being said here, but Is it really 'better than this'?
jewishsupremacist88 7y ago
would you rather spend the majority of your adult life enslaved in the jew matrix or would you rather rebuild something for yourself?
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That's such a simple way of looking at life, granting humanity no differences or agency; it's happiness in a world where everyone is a child.
What if happiness for me is being better and superior to my peers, to compete and prove myself? That's my happiness.
So yes, I'm going to work harder than you, and yes, the profits of my labor will afford me whichever luxuries I should choose, be they a nicer car or a hotter wife or a bigger house.
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And that's great for your dad. Good for him.
But nice cars drive better and faster and are built with more precision.
You, my friend, are being an armchair psychologist and judging anyone with a different version of happiness as beneath you.
That's lefty shit and it bores me
Vicycle 7y ago
I agree with you. Happiness is whatever you want it to be. As long as you aren't causing harm to others to bring yourself that happiness, then by all means, you do you.
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Even if you ARE.
The beauty of this life is that as long as you're willing to handle the consequences of your actions you can do whatever brings you satisfaction.
If you like having sex with other people's girlfriends that's fine, but when some dude beats the brakes off you then that's fine, too.
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Thewelshpill 7y ago
Everyone is an ace until you show your cards
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Just accept it and let go. You can and maybe will be cheated. Once it happens, just dump her. Since you're smart and didn't marry, you'll keep your assets.
WeedDaddy 7y ago
AKA play to lose.
Anyway, it's a somewhat common practice to marry/LTR a 6/10 and have short or paid relations with prettier women. Your kids will hate you for it though, as they'll likely end up being uglier.
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Oh wow.
This is the funniest thing I've read all day.
CQC3 7y ago
Wrong, even low SMV women are capable of such things in a society that feeds their egos so greatly. You're still thinking of it in terms of trying to find some magic trick to keep the girl, this is counterintuitive to everything that TRP suggests is true. You can't keep the girl, as they say, "it's just your turn". You need to get to a point to where you can enjoy being with her, but you don't need her, and that is the bitterest pill for most people. To clarify, it's not true that they WILL cheat on you, but it's more like they're all capable of it under the right circumstances.
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thedaynos 7y ago
this is so true. i'm not sure if this abides by redpill law but i agree 100%
prodigy2throw 7y ago
Saving for and getting plastic surgery helps.
aanarchist 7y ago
what do people who don't even have a pair of 2s? try to bluff their way through? that's a sean stephenson strategy if there ever was one.
WeedDaddy 7y ago
Become famous and wealthy by preaching others how they can become too despite their disability.
Many PUAs do this too, with hired actresses for proof.
aanarchist 7y ago
i've seen some of rsd tylers shit and he's like blatantly talking to the camera in front of the women he picks up and they don't even blink. he'll like jump out in front of her and act like a freak, one will walk away and the other will stand there and he just walks up and makes out with her. that's not how real life is.
how do they get the money to hire actresses in the first place? like before they sell pua. what they pinch their pennies in a dead end job?
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Him - "Hello hot trailer park girl, I'll give you a nug of sour diesel if you help me make a short video."
Her - (looks around hmmmm my obese mom and drunk dad aren't watching) "Ok RSD loser, I'll help you trick neckbeards into thinking they should wear a feather boa to clubs."
And the rest, as they say, was history.
WeedDaddy 7y ago
In the case of RSD, one of the founders had his dad bankroll them. Then they sold DVD courses (before Youtube prank vids flooded the market) and "bootcamps".
Maybe it's better to call the women plants, an actress sounds expensive. You could get one for a hundred bucks or two on Craigslist, Model Mayhem or just on the spot (they have sick cold approaching skills, after all). Some PUAs just "bootstrap" it and have their female friends work pro bono, or perhaps can talk a local college drama club into it.
aanarchist 7y ago
i like owen personally, i like his positive mentality. his dating strippers and trying to pass it off as he's dating a cool chick on the other hand it's like cmon bro. i mean alright fine, you're an alpha profiting off of betas, that's how the game goes. it's just poor taste for me.
what happens to those dudes that pay to have him hover them in bars?
Ivetakenthepill 7y ago
Looks really don't matter for men so much, at least from my experience I don't think so.
There are exceptions obviously, but even then, I don't know. I'll share something I posted a few months ago about two friends of mine.
I don't really know how he does it, but a friend of mine in his late 30's and probably 5'4", 5'5" as well. He sleeps with more 18-22 year old girls than most people I know. He's not even incredibly Alpha, doesn't dress particularly sharp, but what is sharp is his wit. He's one of the funniest guys I know, talks to most attractive girls and finds something to latch on to. Even writing this I've already forgotten how short he is.
My second friend is about 4 feet tall and has no arms. Not kidding, it's a birth defect he looks similar to the motivation speaker Nick Vujicic, except he has legs and can walk. He looks so much like him in fact he gets mistaken a lot. Dude just hitchhiked across the country alone for several months, he's hiked the Inca trail in Peru, and he's about to start rock climbing. He's a good looking guy, tons of confidence, talks to every woman he finds attractive, and HE GETS LAID frequently.
Both of these guys can land HB8's+.
As for myself, I'm 6'2" with good facial and body genetics. I've been told by one of the most beautiful girls I've ever seen (a model) that I should get into modelling.
I still struggle with women every day. I didn't grow into my looks until my 20's, was sheltered and bullied and was a total dweeb until I was 19, so it is always a battle to not feel like that guy.
It does get your foot in the door. For example, three beautiful co-workers of mine (at separate times) were all heavily interested in me. They are all pro dancers, HB8-9's. How many did I sleep with? Zero.
As soon as you flash those beta traits you might as well look like Gilbert Gottfried. Your frame and your game will always be the deciding factor.
ridgerlandic 7y ago
Your 4 foot armless friend bangs 8s regularly and fucking rock climbs? What a crock of shit, stop lying for attention it is truly pathetic
Ivetakenthepill 7y ago
I really don't understand the salty anger fuelled replies. What would I gain from lying about an anonymous friend on the internet. For attention? From who?
Kingtorythegreat 7y ago
lol dude this red pill subsection is cancer....most people who learned about the redpill before the past 3 years have mostly left to other sites and ventures.
the fact that people here believe its a section for men 20 -25 ( gaylubeoil) proves our point
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I have to ask - how the fuck does your friend do rock climbing? Nothing else seemed 'off', but I'm genuinely curious how he manages that one?
Scroph 7y ago
I was too distracted by the fact that he hitchhiked without a thumb to even notice the part when he climbs rocks without hands.
Ivetakenthepill 7y ago
I'm curious too. He told me a few months ago but I had little doubt he'd find a way to hack it and figure it out. He always does.
AtMyHands 7y ago
Looks really don't matter for men so much, at least from my experience I don't think so.
As soon as you flash those beta traits you might as well look like Gilbert Gottfried. Your frame and your game will always be the deciding factor.
Ivetakenthepill 7y ago
I'm referring to my own beta traits from my own personal experience.
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Rufferto_n_Groo 7y ago
Your two bro's struggle, too.
No one has perfect state control without effort, except perhaps Buddha or Jesus.
Everyone struggles. How well you struggle is what the game's about.
Ivetakenthepill 7y ago
You're right.
I'm giving an exaggerated example. I've seen both struggle with self doubt. I guess I just felt like looks haven't made much of a difference with any of this.
trippinallday 7y ago
Loving those positive vibes however I find it just a tad bit difficult to believe a 4 foot tall man without arms regularly gets laid, by so called HB8's no less.
I used to be incredibly beta, but I'm also 6'4 and built well so I always did okay with women even when I couldn't make eye contact or hold a conversation.
Obviously those relationships didn't last long, however I'd assume that the same theory works inversely with regards to looks and actions, in that regardless of how alpha you act, if you're, say, a midget with no arms, you'd find it incredibly hard if not impossible to get laid.
Ivetakenthepill 7y ago
Being a 6'4" well built man I imagine it is a tad difficult for you to believe much outside of your privileged perspective.
I've spent enough time around this guy to tell you that those positive vibes are everything. When you're born in such a way that the odds are incredibly stacked against you, those positive vibes give you what you need to survive, and then succeed and thrive. He has had to learn from a very different and unique perspective his whole life, he's figured it out cause he's made that a priority, and you're going to tell us what he can't do from the one snippet of story I wrote and your 6'4" frame?
Now you're being insulting. Your post screams "There's no way this guy is scoring hotter women than me!", well, he is. That's precisely what my original post was about.
used to be
trippinallday 7y ago
Well judging how you're talking, as I'm clearly soooo priveleged and that's why I did so well, doesn't it imply that the opposite is true? That people who are significantly dispriveleged would have significant difficulty and wouldn't be regularly laying 8s? You don't get to play both sides just because it's convenient for you bud. You literally just proved my point.
I'm not even gonna go further with my rebuttal, as honestly just reading how you talk you're clearly a sjw/libtard cuck. Shit like "I imagine it is a tad difficult for you to believe much outside of your privileged perspective" and "Now you're being insulting".
Also, why the fuck are you acting so aloof about me being 6'4 when you literally said you're 6'2 with "good facial and body genetics"? I'm literally 2 inches taller than you claim to be, that's nothing.
Either you're a shorty lying about his height and making bullshit up about armless midgets getting laid to boost your ego, or you're projecting with the whole "There's no way this guy is scoring hotter women than me!" deal because you're still awkward as fuck and can't get laid. You wouldn't be so triggered by my post if everything you claimed was true lmao.
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trippinallday 7y ago
There's a variety of reasons. The taller you are the less any additional height is noticeable/matters. Most people don't really differentiate between say, 6'9 and 7'1, they're just fucking tall at that point.
Similar idea with 6'2 and 6'4, but to a lesser extent. In both cases you're noticably taller than the majority of people, you can see over people in crowds, stuff like that. And when you consider the average female is 5'4, how much do you think she's gonna differentiate between the guy who's 10 inches taller than her vs the guy who's 12 inches taller than her? Obviously there's a small difference but actions and other aspects of attraction have a much larger impact at that point.
Now, allow me to ask you a question, do you believe in the armless 4 foot tall man who regularly lays 8s?
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200usd to cum in a 10 puts matter into perspective
MattyAnon Admin 7y ago
Aaaaahhh quit your hamstering. You wanna fuck 10's, admit it :)
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DESPERATELY TRYING TO BE UNOFFENSIVE, NOT VERY ALPHA BRO!
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wtg2989 7y ago
Your girlfriend will always wish you were your 6'4" coworker. She will always fantasize about him and resent you for not being him. She may even sneak off with him and go wild in his dick. The simple truth is that unless you are at least relatively genetically fortunate (i.e. naturally attractive/tall) you are not meant to exist. You certainly are not meant to ever attract a mate. Still feel good?
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
There's always a bigger fish
fearl3ss 7y ago
Fucking a hotter bitch is like getting a first class ticket on an airplane. It's significantly better, but it's just a better ride.
Fucking a 10 is like flying private. Huge ego boost. It's clearly a lot better, and it makes you feel like "you've made it." But again, it's just another ride.
People saying 7s or 8s are better are fooling themselves. 10s are better. But remember, it's just a ride.
jewishsupremacist88 7y ago
is the hassle of keeping a 10 around worth it if you arent high value?
brokensocialscene1 7y ago
"It's just a ride..." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KgzQuE1pR1w
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yeah but fucking 5 is like going barefoot :))
fearl3ss 7y ago
And a 3 is riding the Greyhound....
assured_destruction 7y ago
I'm 6'2, being 6'4 would not be an improvement, I barely fit in most things as it is. Do you think life would be better dating a girl 5'10? Pffft
Good looking would have helped, maybe, but being smart, owning your shit and picking a good mate is more important
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yeah it fucking sucks when you live in a place where 7's act like 10's due to a dearth of quality competition. I'm currently living in an area where that is definitely the case, and it's fucking frustrating. It's not uncommon to see fit and successful men dating chubby bitches. It's still a medium sized city so it's not as bad as some situations, but the over-entitlement is obvious when you compare it to living on a bigger city on the coasts or in the south, ill tell you that much
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look at Dicaprio. He dates 10 but really I doubt he put them on a pedestal
redpillren 7y ago
My grandad used to tell me that all women look the same once you turn the lights off.
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lilbro1984 7y ago
oh, the many faced goddess!
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BigTexas07 7y ago
How are 7's or 8's better than 10s? I agree that looks don't matter in the long run, but to say being less attractive is better for women is ridiculous.
A woman's value is based heavily on her looks. All things being equal a 7 or 8 would never in this universe be better than a 10.
FreeRadical5 7y ago
That's the thing... they never are. The attitude premium of a 10 compared to a 7 or 8 is ridiculously high.
brgrss 7y ago
First of all, subtract 2 points from any internet ratings
NorthVilla 7y ago
Hahahahaha ohh how wrong you are. There's something cute and alluring about the 7's and 8's. They're the girl's next door, the ones you lust over and simultaneously want to take home to your parents. You want to stare into their eyes, have deep conversations with them, fuck them senseless, and share your life with them.
Can't see that as much with 10s. Fuck em, and then you're gone.
BigTexas07 7y ago
Why can't you do those things with a 10? You're making a generalization. I've met plenty of 10s who were stuck up cunts and I've met plenty of 10s who weren't. Looks don't define a person 100% of the time. What you're doing is you're making an excuse as to why you don't want to approach/go after a 10 instead of taking responsibility that is all.
I'm sorry, but that is crazy to me. I value my one and only life way too much to ever want to share my life with a 7, but thats just me.
-contrarian- 7y ago
Yup, grass is always greener. So much of our lives revolves around that principle.
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WeedDaddy 7y ago
And the grapes are always sour.
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FreeRadical5 7y ago
Got to agree. Absolute quality is a real thing. Been in a situation where I was fucking an hb5 on the regular and I became really sad deep down. We still fucked a lot because I am a horndog but I never quite enjoyed it fully. There was always a reminded of a mild level of disgust towards her and disappointment with myself for fucking her. In an LTR now with a much more attractive girl, sex is completely different... the way I grab her, the way I appreciate the warmth of her pussy, the way I relish rubbing against her skin, her voice... everything drips with passion I never felt when fucking the uggos.
On the other hand a 10 is guaranteed to have a shitty attitude which will take a giant shit on the entire experience as well.
NorthVilla 7y ago
You're setting yourself up for unhappiness.
-contrarian- 7y ago
Yeah, but short term happiness, as a metric, doesn't usually translate to the best decisions. Super premium cars ARE fun to drive, sure, but if you're going into more debt for it, you're just trading immediate gratification for delayed prosperity.
So later on, your old junker may look greener.
Unless of course you're independently wealthy, in which case nevermind.
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-contrarian- 7y ago
Won't seem stupid when your wealthy friends are retiring early.
I'm hoping to just stop working at age 44. With current lifespans, it's basically another life without work. Yeah, I won't have enjoyed my youth as much as others. But I think I'll enjoy my mature years better anyways. There is no substitute for experiance.
FreeRadical5 7y ago
There is another very important element to this that you should do some deep thinking about. Your desires and ability to enjoy things really goes down with age. In my late 20s and I am already enjoying things SUBSTANTIALLY less than I did in my early 20s. Not even things that I have had a lot of... even completely new and exciting experiences are becoming "meh"ish and overall I am a fairly happy person.
E.g. I bought a sport bike 2 years ago... this is something I never thought I would own 6-7 years ago. It would've literally changed my life if you gave it to a 21yo me. Just the meaning and "omg its so cool" sentiment I would've associated with it would keep me as happy as a pig in shit. Yet here I am less than a decade later and I can't be bothered taking it out more than a few times a year. It's just a small thing now that really doesn't change much in my life.
I couldn't imagine a worst fate than slaving away your entire youth just to be a retired late 40s guy who doesn't really enjoy anything in life anymore.
-contrarian- 7y ago
I would say you enjoy different things with age. I used to be crazy about video games. Now, not as much. Tennis, however, I've become fanatic about. You'd never see me enjoying sports as a kid.
Imagine trying to figure out how to pay the heating bill, your rent AND still be able to eat when you're 75 years old and didn't save enough because you enjoyed your youth. That, in my opinion, is a worse fate. Good memories don't satiate hunger.
WeedDaddy 7y ago
One could euthanize himself. Could do it already at 65. I've seen old people, and the "golden years" are more like rusty years. You'll likely have a long list of medical problems and will be decrepit anyway.
-contrarian- 7y ago
Fine, I'll remember that when you people are bitching about starving in old age. "Hey, at least you enjoyed your youth old man. Time to kill yourself, already."
I mean, sure, great plan.
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FreeRadical5 7y ago
I think to have this realization you have to go from absolutely restraining yourself to letting go a bit over time. That way you get to experience exactly the amount of joy you get back and the delusion of being a really happy 45yo bcz he can finally have everything he wanted now is destroyed.
Thankfully I experienced all that in my 20s already. If there is one thing I wish I could do, that is send myself some money in the past.
-contrarian- 7y ago
And yet strangely, I don't remember a lot from when I was 20. A few memories, sure. That Hawaii trip was fun, yeah. But the rest... who gives a shit?
People who care only about the now usually don't fare very well in life overall. My brother only cared about the now. Racked up a bunch of debt doing fun stuff in his 20s, then killed himself once he hit 30 because he saw the party was over.
I don't consider him a success story at all.
America, as a nation, is facing a similar error in judgement, financially. Live in the now, until you can't anymore. Then blow the fuck up once the party is over.
FreeRadical5 7y ago
Sorry to hear about your brother. It doesn't have to be so extreme. While I'm saying all this, my current saving rate is still over 50% (started off at 10% few years ago... So it's really cause I make much more than I have desire to spend). But going to either extreme is a bad strategy. Goal should be to maximize overall happiness in life... Even if that means not being the best saver early in life.
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grewapair 7y ago
The next time you're in the grocery store, look around at the 45-55 year old women. Fat, ugly, you wouldn't come near them. And their personalities are even worse.
That's what those hot girls look like 20 years later.
PlusGoody 7y ago
The notion that "model good looks seeks its own kind" is pretty wrong. For your typical 10 women, at least half recognize and use their beauty as currency, and recognize that the efficient frontier will always like with a less-good-looking but even-higher-status man. A good portion of those who remain are simply not "tuned" to score looks above a 7 with any differential and care more about confidence, humor, etc. A good portion of those who remain from that like the power of being the stunningly beautiful one. It's only that small portion who remain who are really focused on getting the best-looking guy.
Forcetobereckonedwit 7y ago
Happiness is the only real indicator. I lucked out with physical beauty (but not height, damnit) and feel lucky about it, BUT, while women are attracted to a handsome or pretty face, they are much more attracted to a dynamic personality and strong social standing. As men, that is our advantage in the gender battle; that we can improve ourselves and become very attractive to women. Women can raise their smv a bit with good health, fashion and make-up, but they're much more dependant on genetics and youth for their value.
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kez88 7y ago
After having cum in a 10, let me tell you, it's really not all that great. During sex before you blow is fantastic, sure, but it's no where near as great as everyone goes on about, or as great as you would think it is considering how much effort and time people put in trying to get 10's. As soon as you really understand this, getting 10's becomes quite a lot easier, because they just become a girl like everybody else.
TheRealPancomplex 7y ago
Beauty is the eye of the beholder. A 10 to you is a 6 to someone else.
For instance, I would not fuck Jessica Biel or Scarlett Johansson with Bill Cosby's dick but most men have wasted many a box of Kleenex thinking about them. They are simply not my type.
A 10 girl does not always equal a 10 lay. There is much more to sex than just looks and if the chemistry is not there then it's just a ride; but not a very memorable one at that.
AspotMadness 7y ago
Generally their is a high degree of agreeability amongst men as to what is attractive to plus or minus one point according to dr. Doug lisle
mikesteane 7y ago
There is actually a great deal of consensus about who is considered attractive, especially within a single culture.
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it is funny because I am skinny and love skinny brunettes and my friend is ripped and fit and way more good looking than me and he loves blondes with big asses so.. it is really not that simple what is attractive. I am really not attracted to the girls he is pulling...
TheRealPancomplex 7y ago
I have seen those studies. Regardless, every individual has a "type" and sometimes it goes against what a particular society as a whole, may consider "Attractive" or not.
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Thick brunettes with defined calves and long hair.
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