Summary: OP wants his girlfriend to wear thongs for him but she refuses. White knights excoriate him for even daring to ask her, because apparently that's misogyny.
Every goddamned subreddit on this website is chock full of feminists, proud card-carrying beta males, and white knights. And to prove it, here's another story of a sad guy whose girlfriend isn't even attracted enough to wear a thong for him at home - even though she wears one at work. Yes, you heard that right. She has no problem wearing it everywhere else, but for him... eh.... her vagina is just too dry to entertain the thought.
So instead of manning up, he tries to barter and reason his way to attraction. But as we at TRP know, you can't negotiate attraction.
She is quite a piece of work when it comes to sexuality, but that is not really much of a problem, as long as I know that we are making progress.
We often talk about her underwear and I asked her multiple times already to wear something more sexy for me, but she doesn't see any reason to it
I know that she is already a bit annoyed if I start talking about that, but I dont really want to give up that easily. I told her I am willing to make compromises, for example It doesn't have to be every single time we get intimate or that I would gladly pay half of it if she would buy some new underwear to wear for me.
Yeah, if you cringed in embarrassment after reading this, congrats: you're a normal person who can see what a supplicating dude he is. Trying to get her to wear thongs by sitting her down and discussing the case as if they are in a courtroom... buddy, if she's attracted to you, she'll do it. If she's not, she won't.
The more interesting thing in this story is the utter hateful reaction he gets from the commenters. Apparently it's not enough to be respectful - you're still a misogynist if you even ask your girlfriend to do something sexy for you! The goalposts have officially been moved, gentlemen. Male desires are unacceptable now. Read on...
I suggest that you have a real conversation about with her, ask questions about her point of view. Help her understand why it matters to you. Explain what foreplay with sexy underwear would actually be like. Talk about it instead of just ask for it.
"Talking to her about it didn't work, so try talking to her some more."
I don't think this is an issue with thongs themselves, but rather that your girlfriend doesn't see thongs as lingerie. She sees them as a regular clothing item and it doesn't make any sense to her to put one on for sex if it's just normal underwear to her.
Solipsism. "As a female, I don't see how thongs are sexy. So why does my boyfriend? Weird." It doesn't even occur to maybe do something selflessly for her boyfriend; but then again, females generally aren't selfless in relationships. It's always take take take.
Since you know she doesn't want to wear them, are you even going to be able to enjoy seeing her in a thong when you know she's not enjoying herself? For me that would be a mood killer.
Classic strategy of turning the tables on OP instead of, y'know, addressing the problem.
How often do you bring this up with her? I hope it's not more than several months apart, because that really gets annoying and naggy. Girls already have to spend a lot of time grooming, choosing clothes, putting on makeup, shaving themselves, because society expects it and will imply that you're GROSS and unacceptable unless you are baby-smooth. Women already get judged constantly on their appearance. To come home from work and be ready to be intimate with your partner that's supposed to be your safe haven from bullshit, and then have him say that sex isn't good enough, you need to be wearing some lacy thing because it pleases HIM is not going to be something that feels good.
"Once every 6 months you may ask me to be sexy for you, but no more, or else you're creepy."
Just to give you a different perspective, I am a woman who personally feels that lingerie is a pretty sexist, as there just isn't a male version of it.
The cherry on the shit cake. LOL is all I have to say about this.
TL;DR: Attraction can't be negotiated. And even if you try and are "nice and respectful" about it, beta society will shame you anyway because they hate male sexuality.
the_savvyhead 7y ago
Just tell her to wear it and lay out specific consequences. Maybe the consequences are you dump her. If she's not willing, then it's a big red flag that either she's shit or you're shit.
hailhailhailandkill 8y ago
She has no hots for him,
He maintains no stance and gets needy.
Chad is coming...
[deleted] 8y ago
I fucking hate relationship subreddits because of the self righteous idiots that populate them. I often intentionally post opinions that run contrary to the established commenter narrative and eat the turdburger of a reaction just because I think it needs to be said.
MakeEmSayAyy 8y ago
cuz it's so infuriating seeing HUNDREDS of just fucking WRONG answers and not one that would actually work.
chocobaby 8y ago
Turdburger...new account on the way!
beachbbqlover 8y ago
If you haven't yet had you tongue pierced by high heels, then you're a misogynist.
The beta shaming is real.
rebuildingMyself 8y ago
It's simple really. She doesn't value her bf enough to look sexy for him. She has his balls in her purse already. No need to over water a plant that doesn't need it (even if it wants it).
If Chad came in her life, told her to wear a thong, and carry his shoes to him in her mouth she wouldn't bat a fucking eye
NightwingTRP 8y ago
Yes there is. It's called a Power Suit. Women love taking that off slowly.
NiceKicksGabe 8y ago
And some fucking pecs and biceps and a six pack. All of which are harder to acquire than some fucking frilly underwear. Can you believe this SHIT?!
[deleted] 8y ago
how about makeup? Leg and foot exposing office attire? We have to wrap our necks in a noose in order to symbolize our employer's role in our life. How I'd love to go in with 25% of a bare chest.
Which one of us is wearing the sexist clothes here, you because you have these freedoms of choice of what to wear, or us because our role and what is appropriate is so narrowly defined?
For you, bedroom wear, you have got your boyfriend's boxers which are OK for anyone, reverse the roles and you have an issue 99% of the time. You can wear baggy whatevers. Silk pajamas. Something "more comfortable".
You have a ton of options not available to us. Do you stick to only man-style pajamas or nude only when going to bed because every option not available to a man is sexist?
If you ever put on your boyfriend's boxers at some point and thought that was a cute look, that's no different from lingerie.
donaldcicc 8y ago
Yes women go crazy for it. I have seen posted many time by women and have been told as well that a well tailored suit on a man is to them what thigh highs and a thing is for us. And guess what, there is male lingere. All sorts of undies.
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colmatterson 8y ago
A lot of the responses to you have been about suits and ties, but there are also sexy underwear for men. In fact, I have a "man thong" that my gf loves seeing me in.
[deleted] 8y ago
I would do horrible things to Samus. What're we talking about here?
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[deleted] 8y ago
Damn...feminists have absolutely no flavor. Lingerie is sexist? What kind of boring utopia are they pushing for? I really need to leave America lol.
gamewolph 8y ago
Lingerie is sexist to them because it looks absurd on a 300 pound land whale, they would have to settle for a moo moo. If they can't have it, then they don't think anyone should.
DforDeadpool 8y ago
Well, don't move into Canada then.
cariboo_j 8y ago
"Everything is sexist, everything is racist."
-Anita Sarkeesian
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[deleted] 8y ago
well judging from this post....
...women want to be ungroomed, unshaven, no makeup, dressed like shit and still considered sexy by society.
PS I love how she thinks GROOMING and "choosing clothes" is somehow a benchmark of accomplishment.
[deleted] 8y ago
What next? Showers are sexist? Also American girls already have a reputation for having stinky pussy/ass. Source: Uncle that immigrated from the philippines.
[deleted] 8y ago
How does society expect her to wear a thong at work? What is she, a hooker?
[deleted] 8y ago
Dude, you must not work with women. What do you think they wear under those tight suit pants? Hell 1/2 of them don't wear underwear at all.
[deleted] 8y ago
Fair enough, yeah I do occasionally work with them but they generally are landwhales wrapped in layers.
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mintymonty11 8y ago
femanazis is a better term.
ThrowingMyslfOutther 8y ago
A utopia where nasty men (or anyone) doesn't bother them for sex.
See: lesbian bed death
hemsae 8y ago
And as soon as men aren't bothering them for sex, the men are sexist for having standards.
[deleted] 8y ago
I think about 80% of male female interactions would cease to a halt if men didn't "bother" women for sex. These feminists are fucking crazy.
MakeEmSayAyy 8y ago
80? it's like 100. If we didnt wanna have sex, women's rights would disappear instantly.
It's the only reason we put with any of their shit. Without the desire for sex we'd see women for what they are. Unstable, irrational, unable to love humans.
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True that, but some men are so beta and indoctrinated that they'd still be submissive to women, so that interaction would still happen. Do you agree with me that women exist MOSTLY for sex & reproduction, & if they didn't have pussies, they'd be useless and basically be inferior versions of normal men?
I believe women's value comes from their pussy. Without sex and kids, they are pretty much useless.
icecow 8y ago
Here's my picture.
I'm not fully on board with this part. It's mens' desire for sex that made women learn to be useless. If men had 100% no desire for sex women would adapt and become more useful. I'm not saying 'men and women are cabon copy equals when I say there's no reason a woman (in a sexless world) couldn't run a brewery, or do drywall. A big reason they don't do that now is because doing so would lower their sexual value. Women's hamster abilities would dry up as a mechanism to survive.
In the present real world none of the above applies. As long as doing real work lowers their sexual value, which in turn forfeits their free ride to get resources for free, or little work, And as long as hamstering helps it along +500%, And men continue to be sexually retarded on whole, nothing will change.
Understanding Red Pill has serious advantages for men. The waters are impossible for a man to navigate without understanding some key Redpill shit.
Lastly, if men had the born value (beauty) and all the free passes and opportunities a sexually desirable woman has men would act the same way, and some of them do.
[deleted] 8y ago
Exactly, its men's desire. That's biology tho. We have that desire so were always mating and our genes are always passed on. All life is just DNA replicating itself into the next generation. I really do believe women were made for men to fuck and reproduce with. I don't think women would bbecome more useful. If all men stopped interacting with them for sex, they'd simply go crazy and collapse.
MakeEmSayAyy 8y ago
I don't believe it I'm sure of it.
Objectively, let's remove genitals.
-a betraying, selfish, can't love you in any capacity, unstable and illogical person?
-or a rational, and basically the opposite of all those other things with the ability to love unconditionally.
if they didnt have pussies and we didnt need to fuck them, they would be treated as pets
fingerthemoon 8y ago
But on the other hand, if they weren't born with inherent value, like men, then they'd be forced to make something of themselves.
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I agree completely. They're almost so useless that I laugh on a daily basis. There are a few great women, exceptions. And they stand out so much because the average woman (like 98% of them) is so worthless they stand out more. I appreciate female scientists, & philosophers etc whove discovered things & created more things for me to learn. But they're the 1% of the female population. Other than the women in my family, & maybe the women in my close friends families, I view women as worthless besides their pussies. inferior in all capacities. I don't even enjoy spending time with them if it doesn't lead to sex. I'm an extreme misogynist, and I embrace it. Misogyny is simply seeing women as they are.
MakeEmSayAyy 8y ago
in every objective sense they are inferior. I mean you're just being campy if you think being irrational and volatile is objectively "good".
icecow 8y ago
Reminds me of a quote I read lately, paraphrased: A misogynist is a man that hates women as much as women hate each other.
However, I think it's pointless to declare yourself a misogynist. There needs to be another word. Instead of a man who hates women, a man who would never put any faith in any woman.
warcroft 8y ago
I'm wondering who at work is she wearing g-strings for. That's the real story.
TheDonald2k16 8y ago
It's because that sub is likely inhabited by land whales and hamplanets, who don't wear thongs because Victoria's Secret is wayyy out of their size range. So they have thong-envy of women who are thin enough to be able to buy them. All rooted in jealousy.
Jigsus 8y ago
Jealousy is a funnything. You'll see it manifest even when there is no emotional involvement with the victim of jealousy
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vandaalen 8y ago
Once your ass is big enough, everything becomes a thong...
chocobaby 8y ago
Her betaboyfriend has become her thong.
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Hahahah where did you pull that from
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warcroft 8y ago
When these sorts of threads appear with those sorts of guys does anyone from TRP send the OP a private message and point them in this direction? Get them to read TRP's opinions/advice?
I mean, as pathetic as this guy sounds he clearly needs to be shown the light.
recon_johnny 8y ago
Jesus Fuck, that was hard to get through. To think of where I used to be to where I am....well, you can lead a horse, you can't make them drink.
Goddamn right, you don't negotiate. If you want her to do something, you tell her. The responses though...holy hell. "Safe Haven", "Sexist", "Thongs aren't sexy"....fuuuuuck me.
I just had a "Hey, I don't need to tell you what I want anymore, do I?" question. She said, no, she was in Fredericks at that moment and was getting something to surprise me.
[deleted] 8y ago
Man sometimes I wonder how much money I can make money off selling red pill info to help these beta chumps...
worldnewsrager 8y ago
none.
If you want, I'll link you to a comment thread of mine on YT, where some dude white-knights for a porn whore and how my being disinclined to motorboating tits that probably 500 dudes have skunked on makes me 'a virgin'.
VinylGuy420 8y ago
They won't believe it anyway. They would rather spend their time in fantasy land. Some people just aren't ready to be woken up.
[deleted] 8y ago
When someone's been told a particular set of falsehoods their entire life, then they're suddenly presented with the truth, they usually won't recognize it as the truth. At the very least they'll have extreme skepticism because of the cognitive dissonance battering their brains to pieces.
CHAD_J_THUNDERCOCK 8y ago
The only time you can reach these people is in moments of desperation or inspiration. They should have plenty of the former
Morpheus-Man 8y ago
Men around the world are becoming more and more fucked up and pussified.
VinylGuy420 8y ago
That's okay, more women for me.
Trail_of_Jeers 8y ago
I posted the answe long before I saw it posted here. Girl is looking to share her jelly roll with some other cat in town.
CHAD_J_THUNDERCOCK 8y ago
Bwahahahaha thats rich coming from a woman...
raceAround126 8y ago
I wonder how the race will come to propagate itself in years to come. If wearing lingerie is sexy, this is why so many men decide "You know what, dudes are more fun to hang out with and there's a hole. Fuck it, I'm gay!"
-TheOutsid3r- 8y ago
It wont, that's the thing. These people look at neo liberal/progressive attitudes and opinions aswell as the world view and think "this is it, we reached the pinnacle of human developement" when really it's a decline many civilizations have hit before us and many others will hit in the future and it always turns out the same.
We're basically living in the shell of what was once the West, it's a case of the body not having noticed it's dead yet and the heart refusing to believe the brain died long ago when the writing is on the wall. Social coherence is falling to piece, fertility rates are through the floor and falling, debts due to womens suffrage have skyrocketed, the list is endless.
The issue is, the last 2~ generations have grown up in this society and never known anything else, so to them it seems to be a monolithic unchangeable thing, not an absolute exception in human history but simply the status quo which will remain for all eternity.
Thotwrecker 8y ago
Direct her, never ask her.
If you're "asking her" to be more X or Y for you, and if "negotiating" with her to be more sexual or more interested in you or more respectful... You have lost already. He's a cuck already even if she's hasn't got her side dick yet, it's just a matter of time. 21 years old too, that makes it especially hilarious.
walterwhiteknight 8y ago
Twelve years married. I tell my wife, hey, you know that cute pink set you have? Wear it tonight.
She'll tell me all day, hey husband, looks like I'm getting laid tonight!
We get along really well.
colmatterson 8y ago
21 is young, so... Would you really expect more from that age?
Edit: obv yes, for this specific issue, what I meant is would you really expect a 21 year old to really know what he was doing in a relationship? Expect more just in general.
BeautyQuark 8y ago
Have to agree that the chick has problems or is not that into you if you NEED to ASK for proper attire or sex. The guy definitely sounds like a prime candidate for divorce rape.
Needing to ask is definitely an attraction killer. Direction and leading is needed with potential LTR material. The women could have had a shitty childhood and lack any real knowledge of male female dynamics. She may also have a low partner count. However, this means that you are going to need to invest extra time and effort to properly teach her red pill women ideology or as they called it in the old days feminine wiles.
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this guy asked in the worst possible way that you could imagine. First, begged. Second, offered to split the bill if it would make a difference.
What's he offering up here? Two dollars? Five? Ten... is that his final offer, ten dollars for half an underwear that he wants to see so badly?
If this guy gets laid in the next century it will be a miracle.
chocobaby 8y ago
Yup, no moisture for him. Buy the sexy panties, gift box them, tell her you got her something and wait for the sexy dance. What? No sexy dance? Next!
[deleted] 8y ago
Newb here. When saying "direct her", what do you mean? How would you apply it to this situation?
uxeazy 8y ago
He means tell her, not ask.
MrSnarf26 8y ago
It's not rocket science, you tell someone how you want things and if it's something as insignificant as the op's issue they will comply if they have any respect for you.
warcroft 8y ago
"if they have any respect for you."
That's it right there.
Thotwrecker 8y ago
Pick her out a sexy outfit, leave it on the bed, text her on your way home saying to put it on.
Don't "ask" for what you want, give her a directive. Tell her you like it when she wears thongs for you, and if she's not into being "sexy" for you, then the relationship isn't working. Assert your expectations.
bobbyfitness22 8y ago
Hard truth. I've let a lot of pretty (HB8) and fun girls go because they simply wouldn't follow simple directions. I can't imagine how hard they'd be later in a relationship.
NiceKicksGabe 8y ago
I stopped talking to one girl because she was reluctant to change positions (only liked missionary).
vandaalen 8y ago
It took me another 20 years to find TRP, but I even threw out my then-GF at 17 after she refused to do anything else than just lie there on her back like a dead opossum and let me plow her.
Lazy ass bitch.
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vandaalen 8y ago
It's your responsibility to teach her though.
Jigsus 8y ago
You can't just go out and buy sexy outfits on your own. Those things are very tight on size.
Thotwrecker 8y ago
Buy small, if it doesn't quite fit, she'll put in more time at the gym.
Seriously though, you can see her size on her panties and any other clothes you need. If you don't want to spend money or can't figure out the size there's many other ways to go about getting her to dress sexier for you.
Jigsus 8y ago
Please share more of your wisdom
MorePancakes 8y ago
GET OUTTA HERE! TAKE HIS COAT!
Wait wrong domreddit....
piatti_rotanti 8y ago
Sarcasm towards established members isn't going to get you far in this community.
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[deleted] 8y ago
Petition to start making lingerie for men right here, mangerie.
Shit's gonna get weird.
trpthrowaway2003 8y ago
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Kenny_Twenty 8y ago
Another paranoid circle jerk post
Lenoh 8y ago
The fuck are Manties then
The fuck is Ladybeard then
Just because you can't get any, you unworthy possessor of the double-X chromosome (and maybe a few more), does NOT mean you can control who does.
Cellblockbrew 8y ago
Another case of a special little snowflake.
Cristoff13 8y ago
As everyday clothing, thongs look uncomfortable to me and are also, from what I've read, quite unhygienic.
Whatever this girl's issues, it seems she's just completely unwilling to talk to him about them. Not a good sign. But the comments were the best part:
Does this lady even know what misogynistic and sleazy mean?
So being told she was good looking as a teenager was traumatizing to her?
[deleted] 8y ago
Kek. She was in a bad place because she was hot.
The__Tren__Train 8y ago
OP of that thread needs to get jacked, tan, and start employing serious dread.
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[deleted] 8y ago
bro,
I need serious help getting jacked and i don't have the money for a personal trainer
cariboo_j 8y ago
Bro you just need to go to Kami's lookout and spend a day in the hyperbolic time chamber
chocobaby 8y ago
Personal trainer? No you don't. There are books, YouTube, Google, forums, and gyms.
KetoSandwich 8y ago
Check out the sidebar, there's a bunch of books about exercising and working out.
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RedPistola 8y ago
You can PM me any questions.
mitzibishi 8y ago
Go to gym. Work out 4 days a week. Lift heavy. Eat good with lots of protein. See you in a year or 2 or 3.
You are now 'jacked'
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The__Tren__Train 8y ago
personal trainers typically aren't worth the money they charge.
go to testosteronenation and read all the articles by John Meadows.
they will give you far better advice than anything you will find here.
[deleted] 8y ago
I will get started on that, thanks man.
I think i'll go see a dietitian/nutritionist, i don't have the slightest clue about that stuff.
Dartex 8y ago
That is dead easy, get your kcal count based on height, weight and age (there are calculators, Google it) download My fitness pal in your smartphone and start measuring what you eat. Once you have all configured, the thing takes less than 10 min/day
[deleted] 8y ago
i'll do both..wish i could send you some ciroc or something.. thanks man!
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marplaneit 8y ago
It takes either time, a lot of knwodlege and willpower.
Or take the roid way...
DjonkeC 8y ago
Yeah, taking roids is easy.
Pinning, doin PCT, watching your hormone levels is easy...
Beta cucks like you make my blood boil...
marplaneit 8y ago
So taking a bunch of pills of Clomid and novaldex, watching your lipids profile, and injecting test twice a week is hard...
Oh my gosh. C'mon! So, your blood is boiling from a single post? What a roid head we got here...
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DjonkeC 8y ago
No, it's on the account that spineless fucks have the need to shit on people who decide to do something that's potentially dangerous for your health and could leave permanent damage to get them where they want to be. If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen - but don't bash on the cook that's going to be eating steak with your crush the day after.
And no, never did roids for the girls or for anyone else.
marplaneit 8y ago
So you did something that could leave potential damage for what? At least tell me you are pro BB, 'cause fucking with your test production axis is not a fucking joke. Plus, all the minor shit you have to put up with: Clothes not fitting, a lot of money, doctors appointment, the risk of ending up on TRT replacement for life at 20's, etc etc.
DjonkeC 8y ago
I do it for myself.
Nothing else matters.
fadetoblack1004 8y ago
This guy is clearly ESL and that makes his post come off as more firm than he would probably like. Idiots raking him over the coals for that are just that, idiots.
colmatterson 8y ago
Really true. Especially "suzepie" who latched onto "She is quite a piece of work when it comes to sexuality." to criticize him for treating his gf like property. Obviously the usage of "piece of work" was done so awkwardly, combined with the OP's admission of being ESL, do you really think he's saying it like you're taking it? Like, fucking think.
Overkillengine 8y ago
Of course he did. He just outed himself as low status and the herd loves an easy target to pick on to make themselves feel better/higher status.
[deleted] 8y ago
A male version of lingerie is called "my muscles, bitches".
DaphneDK 8y ago
relationships is a total circlejerk. All posts which don't walk in lock-step are being downvoted to hell, and/or deleted.
Other subreddits have posts in the threads that says something like: this thread has been linked to by <whatever other subreddit>, usually shitredditsays or bestof or some such thing. You should do that too, that'd be fun. This thread has been linked to be theredpill.
warcroft 8y ago
Oh, and lastly... Its just a g-string! The responses go on about lingerie and dressing up. Its just a g-string! Its not fucking body suits, stockings, garter belts and crotch less panties.
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Archange_ 8y ago
The original OP wrote:
It appears that he gets a decent amount of sex. As for the quality, we do not know.
My take on this is: familiarity breeds contempt. She does not deem it necessary to dress nicely for him; at least more nicely than the bare minimum for her standards.
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[deleted] 8y ago
As soon as he offered to pay 50% of a piece of underwear, that guy should realize he is so far down the hole he will never get out.
Instead of trying to beg and negotiate this, he could have gotten one gift, which on the surface is a gift for her: really nice set of lingerie, but is a gift for himself: what he wants to see.
Wrapped it up, made it a present, and said, "I think you will look hot in this. Try it on."
No begging, pleading, whining. If she gives him a hard no, or a maybe, fuck it, move on.
[deleted] 8y ago
Yeah, that "split the cost" thing was one of the cringiest in the whole post.
It simultaneously reeks of both begging and cheapness.
colmatterson 8y ago
That's actually good advice. Honestly, it's a sad state of affairs when your comment doesn't even have 20 points (at this time), while a lot of comments above are literally the exact thing that everyone on this sub hates so much about RA.
RA according to RP: w/o understanding anything about the relationship, "Dump his ass!", "men are shit", etc.
Comments in this thread: w/o knowing anything about the relationship, "I bet she wears all kinds of sexy stuff for the guy she's actually fucking. Because I guarantee you she's not fucking her "boyfriend." - 80 points.
OP says - in his post and not even in a comment where it might not be seen - that his gf works out regularly for the past four years. Comment here: "It's because that sub is likely inhabited by land whales and hamplanets, who don't wear thongs because Victoria's Secret is wayyy out of their size range. So they have thong-envy of women who are thin enough to be able to buy them..." - 50 points
Comments like that add literally nothing to the discussion. They aren't helpful at all, but because they appeal to bitterness, to the top with them! On the other hand, you actually say something that gives perspective to the guys problem, and even if no one here has that particular issue in their own life, it's still applicable advice!!
There was recently that stickied post about standards for submissions, they should do that same thing to update/remind standards for comments, imo.
Areu4realm8 8y ago
if you are a beta man, even the most innocent request will be seen as ''misoginy''. thats because she is used to him being nice, and he pretending something comes off as agressive/dominating. thats why you must always be alpha. if you are always dominating, that will be seen as your nature . if you are beta, and try, even once, to dominate the situation, that will be seen as agression. shell think he has gone crazy, because its unusual for him behaving like a man.
Mr_Zarika 8y ago
Underrated comment. YOu make a good point.
Similar to the idea that if a woman likes you, you can do no wrong. If a woman doesn't like you, or hates you, you can do nothing right.
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And if she doesn't know whether to like or to hate you, you can do nothing.
MakeEmSayAyy 8y ago
Yeah the comment you responded to is great, but you pointed out its merit. So you get the point for it. While I downvoted him.
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joseph_fuzzco_Jr 8y ago
It's pretty obvious who's single.
mintymonty11 8y ago
"OK baby no sexy underwear, but the paper bag must remain for your face ok?"
malariasucks 8y ago
if I buy you VC, you better show it off. end of story
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I bet the commenters would be fully on board with a woman being empowered enough to ask for an open relationship or the fulfillment of one of her fantasies (even at the guy's expense).
socialinjusticewar 8y ago
It's the "internet tough girl" phenomenon. Women think with emotions, not brains; this post made her feel angry, so she assumes that in real life, in front of a real person, she'd feel the same way.
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As stated by others in this thread, I think the key word is "asked". If she was told to do it, she would either comply happily and with enthusiasm, or deny in which case you find a bitch who will comply.
Either way, it's all in your frame and not hers. The outcome may be the same (no lingerie sex) but at least you stood up for yourself and didn't act like a beta begging for a little sexy attention.
socialinjusticewar 8y ago
Yeah I cringed when I read "offered to pay for half". He made it a business transaction at that point.
Areu4realm8 8y ago
true. when you ask a woman for something, you position yourself below her,and she acts like a brat. if you give her an order or ccriticize her, she will want to get your approval, and will do anything you want. never ask people to do something, just make your rules known, and they will follow if they want the relationship.
thats also because, by asking them, you give them the power of choosing, and they can say no, to have the upper hand. if you manipulate their feels, they will do it,without thinking.
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Woman hate choices. I've been watching my BP friend interact with his hambeast of a fiancée, and she will get mad if she has to decide anything.
She's mad because she wants a man to make decisions for her, but all she has is a supplicating boy.
I recently went on a mini vacation with an ex (now plate) and had to make pretty much every decision. There was one decision she had to make and she got overwhelmed quick. It was entertaining to watch her while I sat next to her with a stupid grin on my face. I had been the one planning this thing from the get go: hotels, driving, places to see/eat. Not to mention keeping my game on point for 4 days straight. By the time I got back from vacation, I was exhausted. Not to brag or anything, but she was pretty subservient the whole trip, even if her period started halfway through.
Cashews4U 8y ago
Women are so bad "under pressure" that they get nervous about spreading their legs and laying down. Literally all you have to do is sit there. Women think so much into face value shit it is perplexing.
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Nah, they're confused about why they're not turned on and just start flailing about mentally looking for something to point their finger at.
chocobaby 8y ago
Oh god...lol, "flailing about mentally". A plate/semi gf asked to come over last night and then proceeded to stare at her phone all night. I called her on it. That started the hamster. She tried tears, then huffing and puffing, then said we're done and left. Two hours later my phone pinged and she had sent me a wall of text. The hamster is mighty! I haven't read it yet and will likely wait until after my date with a cutie today. I think she's next ;-)
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raceAround126 8y ago
Wears thongs to work, doesn't wear anything sexy at home?
She fancies a guy at work, the OP here has dropped the ball somewhere and she isn't attracted to him.
I know, been there, done that, got the t-shirt. And I've been on both ends.
OP needs to dread her a little.
mitzibishi 8y ago
If getting a girlfriend to wear a thong is the highlight of your sex life I'd get the fuck out and try someone else.
Magnum256 8y ago
As if to imply that your partner in a relationship is removed from societal opinion. This shit has always really annoyed me. There's some women out there (and men I'm sure) that think that just because you're dating/fucking someone that all standards go out the window, that because you're "with" them, they don't need to try anymore and that putting in effort to be attractive is no longer required nor an obligation to maintain the relationship.
I'm not a ballbuster, I don't ask for much, but if my girlfriend can't at least try to be attractive, if it's not clear that she's making an effort, at least some of the time, then that's a big sign that the relationship is already spiraling the drain.
Exceptions maybe if it's like a 20+ year marriage or something like that and both parties are comfortable sitting around in their sweatpants most of the time, but I'm talking about modern, young relationships between ~18-45 year old type people who should still have vigor and passion in their sex life.
MakeEmSayAyy 8y ago
b-b-but wait....dont they always say to commmunnnicate more?
Every time the answer is communication? It's almost like that's a load of shit!
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https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=rxObkfSqmQM
[deleted] 8y ago
what is wrong with this guy?? how can he say he will 'compromises', what's his leverage exactly? lol she's giving him zero, he's getting zero so what's he on about.... this guy makes me wanna throw up man.
VasiliyZaitzev 8y ago
He thinks he is "negotiating" her atraction to him.
I have come to find out that other people have weird fucking dating problems. My favorite plate showed up the other day with a red bra and panty set on under her clothes. Why? Because she likes being sexy for me, and she likes feeling sexy. It looked great on her...and off of her. Everyone was happy.
I can't imagine these guys with cunty gfs who won't sex it up for them. They must have sad lives.
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if we men stuck together like band of brothers instead of casting black dye on one another women would know their place... did you know 1-4 men don't even have a best man for their wedding gtfo... sad state of affairs.
[deleted] 8y ago
1 in 4 men? That's sad, just like my buddy, his wife put 3-4 of her brothers in his party. Sad sad day.
[deleted] 8y ago
Yep, there you go. Men have lost their way, no matter how much social dynamics favors women we LOST our way.
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You can see how the rest of their relationship will go. My moms respected my pops because he's a 'G', i never knew the terms and all that shit before joining this sub and i thought he was kinda crazy to be honest. NOW?? i call him every day now and want to know EVERYTHING and he's even taken back by my questions. What i thought was a crazy man lol is 'ALPHA'
MattyAnon Admin 8y ago
This is another guy who doesn't get the AF/BB dynamic. When you're BB (by providing money, resources or commitment) she no longer feels sexy for you. You're the resources guy, someone else gets to be Chad. Duty sex is how it's going to be, and that doesn't include effort, makeup or thongs.
One day men will realise that women will be unwilling prostitutes in order to keep commitment, resources and security. Their egos won't let them believe it.... until one day they find the sex tape from college, or the guy she's having an affair with, etc.
sqerl 8y ago
This is a tough lesson to learn for guys that have grown up BB. They are heavily conditioned not to see the truth. I think there's some old posts which try to get this point across. They could probably use some updating too.
-TheOutsid3r- 8y ago
My favorite are the last two posts to be honest, she literally sees no issue with doing all these things to appeal to people who in all honest shouldn't matter to her, are of no importance to her and do not affect her in any kind of way. While for the guy she's supposedly closests to it's too much of a hassle.
Meanwhile they see nothing wrong with expecting him to basically cater to them, create "their safe haven" and jump at their beck and call like the manservant he obviously is. It's a great reminder of how skewed the priorities of modern women have become, how relationships are basically a one way street to them and how so often the same as in this case the best choice is to walk away and refuse to play this rigged game.
OP might be able to salvage this, if he stops listening to these people aswell as acting like a supplicant manservant to his girlfriend but the time, effort and radicale changes required not just to fix himself and his behaviour which directly lead to the current situation but also the damage that has already been done in this specific instance would be tremendous compared to any expected returns on such an investment.
Seriously whatever they had, it's over. He just hasn't been told yet and given his notice of termination.
[deleted] 8y ago
Unfortunately, posting in a forum like that is a guarantee that he'll get reinforcement of bad behavior and he'll amplify it even more. It might even manage to get whatever last little bit of attraction she has to him snuffed out and end it, which might end up being a good thing in the end for him. Then he can start to actually improve.
yomo86 8y ago
This is the reason why I only have 3 real friends whose opinion matter to me. Otherwise realize you are alone on this earth and you are in for your own good. If a bitch does not spread her legs after the second date? Next. No anal? Next. No lingery? Next.
You are the party with the balls in this game of life. No one is going to like your decisions for whatever reason, but with balls everyone is going to respect it because with you... shit can hit the fan, people are certain that there will be consequences.
The "friend" of my mother hit his gf on a daily basis. Everyone was talking shit about him, men and women alike - and rightfully so. But no one dared to confront him as they usally do with betas.
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Tons of women get off on being beat too. That dangerous rush. For example, those Mexican slum lords who beat the shit our of their women and then make sweet, deep passionate love to them. The women forgive it cause the passion.
Indigo_Monkey 8y ago
Is this what chivalry 2.0 looks like?
BobbyTomale 8y ago
Wait a few days - make same post where boyfriend is doing something his girlfriend finds unattractive (grows a mustache, sandals with socks around the house, wont wear silk underwear at gf's request etc.),
7thsonofthe7thson 8y ago
Search for a user called peachbear12345
7thsonofthe7thson 8y ago
The post is done. I will share the link in good time.
7thsonofthe7thson 8y ago
I'm gonna do this. I'll post the link here.
Ali_s1987 8y ago
Doode........u went so beyond overboard with it. :/
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UncleSniffy 8y ago
haha damn dude be patient. he said a few days, it hasn't even been 24 hours yet
Thatnewgui 8y ago
Have you made the post yet
7thsonofthe7thson 8y ago
The post is done. Will share the link soon.
[deleted] 8y ago
Basically, gender swapping any situation will tell you feminists and SJW's have become full retard. That should be a lifeprotips for everyone on TRP.
mintymonty11 8y ago
I once hate fucked a feminist at my colledge, best hate fuck of my life, fully consentual btw!
basically she knew all of my opinions and I knew all of hers, but somehow we hooked up, and everytime I saw her on campus after that with her megaphone in her mouth shouting some crap about minium wage or the enviroment, I knew I gave her the thing she wanted and damn I gave it to her good, unlike the shabby cucks she hung around.
MakeEmSayAyy 8y ago
dont fucking do that dude. stop rewarding this shit.
UncleSniffy 8y ago
if he doesnt, someone else will. just dont date them or else you fucked up big time
MakeEmSayAyy 8y ago
yeah let her fuck the male feminists. she'll hate herself and maybe realize how stupid she's being.
mintymonty11 8y ago
Basically you should tell the bitch "you want me to wear those Levis?"
"were these fucking heels bitch."
end of story.
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disgusting stuff.
(your post was great)
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