How many times have you been up late at night, thinking about what that cute barista at Starbucks said to you? Did she smile at you? Was it friendly, or was she trying to initiate something? Did I have something in my teeth? Was I awkard?
The truth is, it doesn't matter. None of this does! If you got cancer and had three months to live, would you really think that what you said to Sally McHoe over at the supermarket matters one God damn bit? Of course not!
We keep so much extra stuff locked in our brain, things that don't really matter. Is it important? No. So why do we do this? It's because we're making things too complicated.
Keep It Simple Stupid. It's an old sales tagline. And it works like butter on toast when trying to get through life. If you think that your every action leads to another, which leads to another, then remember this. An action is... An action. Apart from a select few (the ones you should be thinking about) what you say to Jennifer Bigbutt in the bar is so unimportant, God couldn't even find it with His god-sized microscope. So don't think, do! Plus, your confidence will be so large from your DGAF attitude she'll start salivating that you even threw a glance in her direction. So stop thinking, talk to her, and watch the magic happen!
Starfuckingman 5y ago
Talk about yourself, don't think about shit like that for shit.
Field_Of_View 5y ago
This sounds like a pep talk you're giving to yourself in the mirror.
Wolveryn 5y ago
Actually it’s not about ‘just doing it’, it’s about getting in the right frame of mind. Guys that tell guy just to do it are missing the structure you need around ‘just doing it’
They forget that you need to be in a good mood, you need to be youthful and outcome independent, you need to be a people magnet.
‘Just doing it’ is the tip of the ice berg.
If you struggle approaching women, this advice needs more.
You’re whole life needs to be in order, social, fashion, fitnes, diet, sleep patterns.
Those are things you just do first.
Tombert_Williams 5y ago
“In preparing for battle I have always found that plans are useless, but planning is indispensable.” Dwight D. Eisenhower. In other words, yes, work on yourself in all the ways you say, but when the time comes to join battle, be prepared to dive in, as the OP says.
NextBad 5y ago
> You’re whole life needs to be in order, social, fashion, fitnes, diet, sleep patterns.
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No, you can be a coke out heroin addict, there is someone for everyone, just be yourself and learn seduction skills
Vikingcel 5y ago
It does not. I'm utter trash and all it takes is a good mood and some vague interest from a 4 and I could steamroll sluts (if I wasn't unattractive). All it takes is thinking you can do it for whatever reason. (But results will vary)
DeusVult762 5y ago
OP, I've been reading and listening to Red Pill content for months. I wandered into the the TheRedPill subreddit for the first time ever just a few moments ago and at the very top was this post. It's really weird because it's almost as if this thread was aimed directly towards me. To answer your question, it's been 300 nights and I have not seen her in almost 6 months(stopped going to that Starbucks). I believe all women are hypergamous and all women can go feral, I don't believe in soul mates or "the one" but what captivated me about this girl was that she did not dress like a thot, a femenist or display any thot tendencies. Dressed quite modest for her age.
I'm in my late 20's. I am not the best version of myself. Average looks, out of shape, mediocre salary. Have no idea where I'm going in life. As much as we're told "WE are the catch" it's hard to apply this when I compare myself with the other prospects this woman probably has. Had a few chances to start a conversation with her but just couldn't do it, one of them being on a slow day when she guessed my drink and said "grande , right?" all I replied with was "uhh, yeah".
To be brutally honest I don't normally have this much trouble speaking to women when they're of equal or lower SMV than I. I guess the concept of leagues is too engraved in my head and only money will get me out of it.
Effective_Rate 5y ago
Seize the moment and all that yada but remember that the long game is king. I'm not talking about avoiding eye contact and scurry away and saying i'll get with her in 2 years. Actively engage her and create the connections but timing is key. It always has been. You catch her on a bad day you're fucked , You build up a rapport and catch her on a bad day your chances of a "yes" are much much fucking higher. There will always be variables you can't account for never forget that.
vas_mhtro 5y ago
This. If you give a fuck about every person that accidentally gives you a look then your life is pathetic.
SupremeBBC 5y ago
Man, that grammar and spelling though. Were you legit mad when you typed this out?
vas_mhtro 5y ago
I blame the shitty auto correct
Vikingcel 5y ago
You should blame yourself for not getting rid of it.
tempolaca 5y ago
I talked to my ex and she ignored me. What do now?
l7elete 5y ago
Keep texting her, and if she blocks you follow her to her house. Works 8 out of 10 times, trust me.
Incitatus_Horseman 5y ago
The best way to respond to a restraining order is by not giving a fuck
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VisiblePlan 5y ago
If she pulls out her phone, she wants to take a picture of you to show off to her freinds.
l7elete 5y ago
So just smile like the psychopath you are, and take her out for dinner.
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buttgoogler 5y ago
You might also bring a huge ass kitchen knife on your date in case she has an apple pie ready for you.
faustian_talos 5y ago
Then cry yourself to sleep each night.
Start doing drugs. Listen to sad songs.
Will work for sure.
tempolaca 5y ago
You all laugh but I did exactly those things:
1) Talked to ex
2) Ex blocked me
3) Bumped into her and she freaked out
4) drugs, songs, etc.
faustian_talos 5y ago
Why?
Did you not read anything here?
tempolaca 5y ago
Advice here is "Don't talk to your ex, ever".
I'm stupid, and I catched oneitis. Yes, even after being here 2 years.
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NextBad 5y ago
I remember the first time I got laid, it was easy, simple and quick, first date, fuck in the car and hotel. What stopped me for so long? Well I had to make a move, I had to kiss her, she never asked or said yes, most men don't want to abuse women, but when KISS = abusing most guys don't do it
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bakamoney 5y ago
Had a overnight layover in an airport. Didn't sleep just walked around really.
Only other permanent person was this other chick. (Rest came and went) She talked/watched shit on phone on all hours.
Her flight was only a hour ahead of me.
anyways I am a retard ofc. Didn't start any conversation.
The only interaction we had was her saying something to me.
(Airport noise + Half sleepy) What I heard then was something like "look after my bags for a while"
She then returns and goes away.
Days later I feel she could have said Stop staring at me or some such line.
Other people were staring at me later but I looked like shit too . But its still bugging me :S
Also people in general have a habit of staring at me. I would lock eyes with random people for 3-5 secs its weird .
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