Essay:
https://therationalmale.com/2018/12/21/little-big-head/
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Excerpt:
Trads vs. The Playboy Lifestyle
In order for Beta men to effect this reigning in of the Alpha men women want to tame and breed with, the high SMV man must be demonized and disqualified from the SMP for following his sexual/biological imperatives. The most common way to do this is by conflating his strategy with a degenerate hedonism. he must be made to seem as if he’s not in control of his sexual nature. So the effort becomes one of building an archetype around the ‘Playah‘ – A man who would be a bad long term bet for women’s Hypergamy because he lacks self-control. For this straw man character his little head does the thinking for the big head making him unreliable as a prospect for parental investment.
If enforced monogamy defines the accepted SMP, and women are presumed to be coequal, co-rational participants in it the ‘Playah’ needs to be cast as the outsider. The latent message is the same intrasexual combat method women use with ‘slut shaming‘; the ‘Playah‘ is a bad bet for long term security even if he is the guy women want to fuck.
However, that Playboy is a cruel reminder to low SMV men that they’ll never be able to fully exercise their own masculine imperative – unlimited access to unlimited sexuality. The closest the majority of men will ever get to this is online porn; which of course is why it’s so popular. There is a reason why 68% of Christian men watch porn. They understand that it’s the only viable substitute for their sexual imperative that they’re likely to experience in this lifetime.
While MRAs and MGTOW tend to reserve a special hate for ‘Playahs‘, it’s the Trad-Con mindset that is the most vocal against the Playboy lifestyle. There’s an overarching need amongst Trads to confirm their ego-investment in locking themselves into enforced monogamy.
There’s two complications to this:
First, Trad men (and women) tend to superimpose their religious and social belief set on their own sexual strategy. It’s a sin if they don’t accept monogamy as the standard. Today, this belief is a vestige of the old buffers that used to guard against either sex getting too far into their primal sexual impulses and strategies. It’s much easier to impose your sexual strategy on other men, effectively policing their strategy, if it’s ‘God’s Will’ that everyone behave according to that old social contract. I should add that this is the primary reason most Trad men suffer the worst from having their belief in the old set of books destroyed by Red Pill truths. It is galling for men who’ve invested their whole lives in the old social contract to have it vividly disproved by ‘Playahs’ (and women’s behaviors that confirm it) who understand the new social contract well enough to make it work for them.
Second, there’s the self-fulfilling idea that a man who opts for the traditional monogamous lifestyle is in some way more progressive or evolved, or life-satisfied than the ‘Playah‘ with the option to enjoy his non-exclusive sexual strategy. These are the guys who play up the ‘sour grapes’ Law of Power:
Law 36 – Disdain the things you cannot have
If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.
MRAs and Trads alike don’t like being reminded that sex has always been an integral part of a healthy life experience for the majority of men who’ve ever lived on this planet. However, to them, sex is almost always a reward for desired behavior that they believe women expect of them. For most of them sex is always transactional so they never live out any frame of reference of having sex with a woman in a validational sense. It’s likely that they will never experience sex in any other context than the transactional. This is simply one of the visceral realities of a Darwinian sexual marketplace. As such, this pretext colors all of their understanding about what is, or should be accepted as, a legitimate sexual strategy – which unsurprisingly is his enforced monogamy strategy.
Lib3rtarianSocialist 5y ago
Rollo,
I was going through this very dilemma over the past couple of months. Not sure what to make of the idea of acting in a moral manner. Thinking that it is eventually problematic to not be monogamous, because if every man on Earth kept concubines, there would remain to few women.
Thank you for writing this. You do us all a great service.
I still am thinking about pre-marital sex being shallow. That you reduce your self-worth in your eyes by engaging in what seems to be 'degenerate behaviour'. I will give it more thought. This excerpt will help.
Sincerely.
bigdale001 5y ago
Rollo you now promote marriage, Good luck with that. A real Red Pill knows that a Man will always lose in a divorce. Have fun being a PURPLE PILL. You are no better than the Pua's.
Nov51605 5y ago
MGTOW seems broad enough to where some don't give a shit whether someone is a playboy or not. The guy is GHOW slayin lots of pussy - nothing wrong with that ! I think alot of true forced loneliness types have claimed MGTOW and shame like youre talking about
keenostreef 5y ago
I don't get it. Is he saying sex today doesn't involve a transaction at its roots? Because that's definitely untrue. Also, this paragraph doesn't follow a logical coherence. "Men thinking sex is transactional" doesn't lead to "so they never live out any frame of reference of having sex with a woman in a validational [btw not a word] sense."
redpillcad 5y ago
Years after unplugging I need to be reminded how awful betas have it with transactional sex. I'd rather jerk off than go back to that shit
ex_addict_bro 5y ago
I’d rather jerk you off too
HumanSockPuppet 5y ago
Jerking off and transactional sex are pretty much equivalent at this point.
With the amount of provisioning a woman gets these days, she never has to have sex with any of her orbiters. It doesn't matter if one of her orbiters achieves escape velocity after being accelerated by her bullshit. There's a whole pack of new satellites, still untainted, who are accessible via social media and ready to drawn in with a winky face DM or a pic.
redpillcad 5y ago
100 % agreed on no sex with these orbiters.
ME2 is the stick these retards get beat with for getting upset with the no sex outcome for their misguided beta strategy
Churningaway 5y ago
This is very well written and can attest from personal experience very much true.
Was on a project in a different city and met a girl and we started a fling. Eventually the project was drawing to a close and she realized it might be over soon, so she decided to go for a power play and plan a bday party for me in my own city. Contacted one of the guys in my then crew to try and set up logistics.
What then happened completely confirms this post. This friend of mine is a complete Tradcon (now married to some girl he only knew for 6 months) and a sexless virgin. He started throwing underhanded insults and shit tests my way, even bad mouthed me behind my back and even to the girl. I had never seen such a display. Dude was having an all out physical and mental reaction. They just cannot comprehend that a woman might want to actually be with a guy sexually and expect nothing in return. So they automatically demonize the guy. In this case he wanted me out of the crew. I was all too happy to oblige. Half of them are married now, in your classic modern day happy wife happy life marriage, where half of their daily lives seem to be on instagram but it's all just a sad charade
sadomasochrist 5y ago
There are two types of men.
Those that aspire to be great and those that wish everyone to be as mediocre as they are.
warlordchad 5y ago
Ha! So true. Whenever a married women on Instagram is posting 5 plus stories/posts a day, you know you’ve found a lonely woman who’s in bad need a some good dick.
MarcosDomingues 5y ago
How tf can your friend be married and a kissless sexless virgin at the same time...?
Churningaway 5y ago
He was a sexless virgin at the time of the birthday party thing. He's married now but in my mind he'll be a sexless virgin forever cause the man is simply clueless lol
VickVaseline 5y ago
Yeah, I was wondering that too -- but I guess that may be possible in this day and age.
BurnoutRS 5y ago
I love trying to figure out what this guys line of thinking was.
basically "wow what a fucking douchebag this guy is for treating this girl like a total cumdumpster. He's just pumping and dumping her and now hes getting a birthday party out of it?"
I cant conceive of a world where that isnt just hardcore denial. He's jealous he cant get girls to do shit like that for him but its not right for him to be jealous because thats toxic masculinity. So the only option he has is outrage, of the whiteknight variety
magx01 5y ago
While that's probably true for half, if not most of these cases, I guarantee there are some guys who actually think the girl is being "manipulated" and aren't jealous because they truly believe in all the Disney crap and actually would not want the girl to be in that same position with them.
BurnoutRS 5y ago
My understanding thus far is that the Trad-con take on the world is essentially a very objective and honest one. It talks about gender dynamics rooted in biology etc.
It goes as far as to say, bluntly "this is what humans are, this is what we do" but then instead of accepting and augmenting our nature, facing the real problem, it seems to suggest we suppress our nature.
Its like a teacher saying "as a man, your biggest drive, your biggest motivator, is the desire to get laid, and that desire translates into every other extended desire you have"
and the student replies with "So I should channel my sex drive into my work and make an effort to become the greatest I can be so I can capitalize on that greatness by fucking many women?"
and the teacher is like "no you fucking clod, hard work is its own reward, you be a good little boy and marry one of them. Doesnt matter who. You'll get sick of her in a years time. Especially after the sex runs dry. If you can even call it sex. Ever eat so much chocolate cake that you become desensitized to the flavour and now all you have for a sensual experience when eating cake is texture? flavourless texture. Fuck, its like eating sand. Suppress those urges billy"
The other thing I find absurd is the assumption that if every or even just a majority of males were to follow this advice, to become the playboy, that society would cease to function...
What I see currently is that a fuckload of people are dropping out of living actual, fulfilling lives and buying into blue pill conditioning. "Life is scary, play it safe, dont take big risks, work at tim hortons, you'll become a manager someday" The tradeoff seems to be "embrace mediocrity and enact denial mechanisms to maintain complacency, you'll be able to convince yourself youre happy as long as we put enough things in place for you to use as evidence that youre really happy"
Come to think of it, this is probably why there are so many school shootings. Its a rampant denial of human nature. Its gotta be a contributing factor in the large number of high profile betas getting caught up in rape accusations.
A man is something that wants to fuck. See how tortured and twisted he becomes when, his whole life you deny him access to that which he is destined for. A woman is something that wants to be fucked. Look how unhappy she is when she is forced to do the fucking herself.
The most extreme form of female denialism might be the bulldyke. She goes so far as to eliminate all trace of femininity from herself.
Masculine denialism is more likely the transgender, but one side of homosexuality is also a part of it I would wager. Where the man goes so far to either show how good/not evil/feminine/not masculine he is, as a sign of virtue
I remember when beard oils werent a product. I remember when makeup was only for girls. I wonder if thats what market saturation is? When you get to a point where, from a marketing standpoint, youve already got all the girls buying makeup who are going to buy makeup. The percentage who wont is so small that the extra effort required to get them buying isnt worth the extra profit or time spent on the endeavour. All the while we've been making progress on feminizing the men, marketing to them and we're just now poised to launch a new product line. Its bold new territory folks but we've done some product testing, market research and we think now is the time for male tampons to really make a splash,
nebder 5y ago
You sir are a gentleman, a scholar & a genius.
now to figure out what I do with tacticalsuppository.com
Or I just spent $13 for a joke. Tots worth it
Thisismybot8 5y ago
Incredible elaboration of theory again by Rollo. One thing that you briefly touched on that I'd like to clarify:
Using the timeless social contract that is described as God's Will reigns in on the strategies of both sexes. It stops men from trying to fuck everything in sight but it also stops women from branch swinging.
There's a reason this social contract has been so integral in societies for such a long time. It essentially favors the bottom 80% of society. It allows guys that aren't worth fucking to have a partner to fuck. It allows women that aren't worth providing for to have someone pay for their shit. A lot of people have benefited from the social contract you describe. There will be societal repercussions as this contract continues to decay.
Having said that, there are still other, genuine, benefits of sticking to this contract, such as having a lifelong partner to share your experiences with, to raise the next generation in a stable environment. Genuine alphas play into this social contract not because they have to (like the betas) but because they choose to.
That is ultimately the difference. Alphas get to choose which strategy they want to play into and they have respect for both strategies.
monsieurhire2 5y ago
Eh, it's more likely that the "trad" morality is rooted in the fact that all civilizations preceding the industrial revolution required insane amounts of manual labor to keep going, as well tight-knit, cohesive communal bonds to protect the group from outside threats. A group that enables endless cuckbaggery by coddling cads will rapidly come apart at the seams and quarrel endless with itself, getting less work done, and then be ripe for the plundering. I mean, once you have one half-way decent woman to have sex with, and had a few kids with her, you should probably move on and try to actually accomplish something important with your life beyond the hedonic pleasure of trying to bed other mens' wives or turn their daughters into your mistresses. You could take that extra time and energy and invent something innovative, or create some piece of art.
But yeah, that's a tall order for most men.
Nicolas0631 5y ago
Actually most people do none of them (neither fucking anybody neither inventing new stuff) and some do both. There no link.
monsieurhire2 5y ago
That's true, but we all have limited time. So if you are already getting some from one partner, you don't have to waste any time, energy, or resources, like so many people do, in the pursuit of a possible partner that may never materialize. The partnership may occupy some of your time, but if it is a healthy one, it may occupy less than the pursuit of one, not to mention a dysfunctional one. So if you have a healthy partnership, which would include sex, you can then use that extra time and energy to do something productive with your free time, instead of wasting it trying to build a harem.
Nicolas0631 5y ago
Everybody is free to live the life they want and only them can decide if their life is good or bad.
CainPrice 5y ago
A story as old as time, but instead of wearing a fedora and telling women at the bar "I'm not like all of the assholes here", while she turns her nose up at his appearance and scampers off to flirt with an asshole, it's radical conservatives on the internet who failed to break into the casual sex culture claiming that their failure to do so is a moral choice and that real men should care more about the decline of society like they do.
Thisismybot8 5y ago
Yes ultimately the decline of society shouldn't mean a whole lot to red pilled men. Find out what you want and how to get it. When your life is everything you want it to be, there's no reason to give a fuck about the decline of society.
CainPrice 5y ago
When somebody who does the work can have a great life, is society really in decline? I don't think it's accurate to judge the state of society based on the state of below average men.
Thisismybot8 5y ago
That's a good point. Most people that talk about the decline of society tend to be losers or have an agenda.
TheLongerCon 5y ago
Not that I agree with society being in decline, but I think those that do would argue it's the bad environment for raising children that we should judge the state of society of.
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