This is a re-post from main to Alt account, the original has been deleted.

After reading through the comments in, "You are leading every woman, whether you like it or not." a lot of guys where asking for resources on fostering a leadership role with a girl. I figured this would be a good time to bring back this post for any newbies that didn't originally get to read it. It will also now be permanently searchable

Summary

Today I’ll share with you an easy and straightforward method of building a Captain & First mate relationship.

So you found TRP, started lifting, made some changes in your life and now you want to try your hand at getting one of those fancy first mate relationships you keep hearing about? For those of you brand new or yet to experience this type of relationship with a women, It’s fan-fucking-tastic and your women will love it too. When a girl admires you, looks up to you and most importantly respects you, she’ll do anything to make you happy and please you. And, more importantly, what a lot of bluepills don’t realize, she will love doing it. I’ve never meet a woman more intrinsically happy than when she is following a strong male.

I’ve been in every relationship you can imagine, I’ve been the aloof, the fwb, the uninterested, fuckbuddies, hard core blue pill, dead bedrooms, teenage googly eyed love and Captain and first mate. I can tell you out of all those different dynamics with different or even the same women, no woman is happier than when it’s a Captain and first mate relationship. There is a reason TRP advocates it so heavily and as surprising as it may be for some, it’s not because we are all pychopathic misogonistic shitlord asstwats.

But, how do I start this dynamic Clint?

Putting on The Leadership Training Wheels

The first step is setting the right tone with her. This isn’t a job interview and she isn’t your subordinate, she won’t just magically start following you, you have to build it and earn it.

You start with taking your girl to do something you love doing. Something you’re amazing, passionate, skilled or knowledgeable about. Something that when the topic comes up you light up with enthusiasm like the dog from UP chasing a squirrel. Something that you can’t wait to tell everyone about. That’s really it, I could just end the post here.

But I’ll dive deeper.

The core of Captain and first mate is a willingness to follow you, respect and admiration. These are all earned in different ways. Today we will just start with the first stepping stone, a willingness to follow you.

First things first, screening time.

Screening

If she isn’t willing to follow or join you in something you enjoy or love doing. Drop her ass and find a new chick. You don’t have to have everything in common but bare minimum she needs to have the mutual respect and enough curiosity to at least try to be interested in something you like, even if initially she might not really be into it. Don’t waste time on a boring, unadventurous bitch, you’re here to conquer the fucking world and she can fuck off if all she want’s to do is netflix and chill. If she at least puts forth the effort to join you in something she seems hesitant or uninterested in, you should be good enough to pull her into your frame with your passion of whatever it is you’re doing.

That’s the first step, put that in your list of shit you need to screen for.

Your Passion

Now, take her to do something you are awesome, skilled, knowledgeable or passionate about. It doesn’t matter what it is, it can be my little pony bro-con or whatever the fuck it is those guys do. The point is, it needs to be something you fucking LOVE. I can’t emphasize this enough. It should be something you eat, sleep and breath. And if you don’t have something like that in your life then you need to stop being a boring little beta and get out in life and find a hobby you love.

Things to steer clear of activities like video games. Yes they are fun, yes some chicks love them but that type of activity doesn’t foster a leadership dynamic. It needs to involve multiple, face to face people and be engaging. The more physical the better. You need to flex your knowledge in front of her and convey your emotional connection to the activity.

But guess what, I got your back because if you’re 6 months or a year into TRP. You should already have at least this one thing in your life that you are somewhat competent at. It’s TRP staple numero uno.

You guessed it, fucking lifting.

If you haven’t been slacking on your TRP homework you should be mildly proficient at lifting shit up and putting it down by now. Or you’ll at least be light years ahead of 80% of guys and probably 95% of girls. You don’t need to be Arnold Schwarzenegger to take your girl to the gym and show her how it’s done. All you need is to be moderately strong and knowledgeable about it. However, the more proficient you are at it, the stronger this bond will form. If you haven’t started studying nutrition, proper form and everything else in between on fitness. Today you need to start.

But again, you need to love it. There will one day be a point in your lifting career that you will love it. Trust me, that day will come and it comes for all, the hard part is getting there. If you have yet to wake up and be excited to hit the irons then you need to keep lifting and postpone the gym date till you do. This day usually comes soon after you start getting hard IOI or people generally complimenting your physique. This creates a positive feedback loop in your body with some chemicals and other shit that we won’t dive into for this post but just know, this day will come for you if you stick to lifting and one day you will fucking love it. This is just one example that should cover ever TRP guy.

Alright so why the fuck have you written all this Clint? Get to the fucking point.

Because of two reasons. One, when you know more shit about something than someone else, you’re valuable. Two, you bring here into your domain and there, you are the leader.

In Your Domain, You Are The King

You get to tell her what proper form is, how to track her progress. You get to practice positive and negative reinforcement in an environment suited for it. The gym is the perfect environment to groom a first mate in. You can teach her what her body actually does with protein, sugars, starches. What macronutrients are. Or help her on any ailments she may have such as back trouble, sleep issues, daily fatigue. And if heaven forbid she actually knows the definitely of a calorie before meeting you, slap her on the ass and fuck her on the roof of your car because I’ve never, ever met a chick that could tell me what the fuck a calorie even was. (Always give positive reinforcement)

It’s a common psychological phenomenon in game that if you touch a girl, she will be more receptive and comfortable when you touch her again. Or if you make her meet you at her house, she is more likely to be comfortable coming back to it later in the night. If you give her a tour of your house and spend a few minutes talking in your bedroom on how you built your own bed and furniture, she will be more comfortable coming back into your room later.

It’s psychological conditioning 101. When you lead her in the gym, she will subconsciously be more willing to follow you outside of the gym.

There is many different ways to developing a Captain/First mate relationship but I find that this is the fastest and surefire way to get off on the right track from the very start.

Next week I’ll cover Respect and how it plays a critical role in fostering this kind of relationship.

Lessons learned

Take your girl to do something you love and lead her.

The Captain and first mate dynamic is often mocked as being extremely controlling or misogynistic. It's actually the exact opposite. You will have to earn your first mate and anyone else that chooses to follow you. A girl will not follow a weak man, plain and simple, it's your job to be a great captain or she will leave. The idea of this being a controlling relationship stems from the no agency fallacy we often see from bluepills.

If you're a shit captain, expect for mother fuckers to be jumping overboard like it's the titanic to find a new ship. You have to be a Great captain to get a good first mate.